Ok, well to make a long story short, my ex gf of six months now has a bf. When I wrote her an email telling her I still loved her, this was her reponse. What do you make of it? Do I have a chance to date her again if she ever broke up with her bf? Shhuld I talk to her every so often? Your thoughts? I still like her by the way, but I don't know to keep not talking or to talk to her? this is what she wrote back?......"Sorry it has taken me so long to write you back. That was a really nice letter that you sent me. I think you are a really cool and great guy. I have always thought that. I have a pretty serious boyfriend though and things are going really well. I apprechiate how honest you were to write me and tell me what you did that takes a lot. I would really like to keep being friends with you though becuase I think you are awesome and a lot of fun. I hope that you had a great thanksgiving and are doing wonderfully. Keep in touch.
Love, "Jenny"
2006-12-13 16:51:56 · 19 answers · asked by DN1503 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Is friends like saying Hi to her once a year?
2006-12-13 16:54:47 · update #1
That was pretty much black and white she doesn't seem to have any hidden message for you--she is being honest about her currant relationship and she at least doesn't seem to have any hard feelings about your split up--at least she wants to be friends and keep in touch--So in the long run I'd say this If you love someone ?? Let them go --If the return they are your --If they don't they never were to begin with--Yes this is old school but it remains true--My husband of the last 18 years and I dated when we were 21 and then went our separate ways --stayed in touch every so often and then when we were 29 we went for pizza and within 6 months we were married--so you see the future holds what could be just what you want
2006-12-13 17:01:14 · answer #1 · answered by skizzle-d-wizzle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For now it looks like she just wants to be friends and that she is not thinking of you as a bf anymore all she wants is to be cool. It also depends on the terms that you guys ended and if you guys were really in love with each other. if that was the case then maybe, but for not it looks that she does not want anything with you but to be cool and maybe keep talking.
If you want her back and but I don't know how the relationship ended, is that if she goes single again to hang with her and to start again tell her how cool she is and how much you enjoy her company, get her small things. example if she likes some kind of chocolate then get her that with out notice, is just the little details that matter. just pay attention to what she likes and I don't mean expensive jewelry just something simple that she might have mention at some point that she thinks you might have forgotten. those things will drive her back to you.
it takes more than that, that was just an easy example...
2006-12-14 00:59:45 · answer #2 · answered by beastmaster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like shes tryin to let you down easy. she mentioned her bf and how serious and good things were. she IS tryin to maintain a friendship cuz youre a great guy. I wouldn't put money on gettin back with her, but keepin her as a friend sure wont hurt. Some of my best female friends are ex's. We are good together, just not good as bf and gf.
2006-12-14 00:55:29 · answer #3 · answered by skidawg75 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She clearly has moved on but thinks highly of you as a person, just not in an intimate way. Not sure where your feelings lie. If you can deal with just being friends then go for it. If your heart desires something else you may cause yourself unnecessary pain by continuing to communicate.
2006-12-14 01:07:28 · answer #4 · answered by Earth Law 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she wants to be friends, but not more than that...she stated that she has a serious boyfriend and that things are going well. I think if things are meant to work out between you two, then they will. In the meantime, date, go out and have fun...
2006-12-14 00:56:43 · answer #5 · answered by Carrie H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is giving you the generic let-down letter. Move on. She is not interested as she sounds way too formal, not to mention she states clearly that she is in a serious relationship that is going well. She appears to not be going anywhere. She's taken, man, find another one that you can have all to yourself.
2006-12-14 00:57:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was trying to be nice to you. "Jenny" has moved on and just wants to be friends. She is letting you down again, gently. So personally since you said you still love her, I would not hang out as it will just hurt you too much to see her with her new man. Go out yourself and find a new girl.
2006-12-14 00:56:50 · answer #7 · answered by meggs2311 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I agree, shes found a new guy she likes, and she doesn't want to hurt you out right by saying it. I would just go along with being friends, but as a friend you can never talk about wanting to go out with her again.
2006-12-14 00:56:31 · answer #8 · answered by Mr Hex Vision 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recently went through a breakup and i wrote her a letter and i put my heart in it. Now we are back together. I just gave her space for a while before i did though. But i gave up my selfish ways,ego and macho-ism even stop drinking................ Not saying that this will work for you but.......... Or maybe she don't want to hurt your feelings. But she misses you too. Just keep on keeping on.
2006-12-14 01:08:59 · answer #9 · answered by McDaniel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants to be friends with the option of a steady back up in case everyone else she dates falls through.
2006-12-14 00:54:46 · answer #10 · answered by snshnbtrflis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋