He's a chronic flirt,hangs out at topless bars,has a huge ego,has very little regards for me... I also love him deeply... But I know I have to let him lose... How to I give him the boot, or should I ? Don't all men go to topless bars, flirt and have huge egos??
2006-12-13 16:41:30 · 10 answers · asked by aerobicjnky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This man obviously says one thing to string you along and does another thing when you're not around. You have been seeing a BOY my friend, not a man. Get rid of him and find someone mature.
2006-12-13 19:37:31 · answer #1 · answered by Jen Armero 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing that concerns me most out of what you said was that you said, "he has very little regards for me...I also love him deeply." That seems to contradict itself. How can you love someone deeply that you feel doesn't respect you? Alot of guys do go to topless bars but if he goes ALOT then I would have a problem with it. You could always go with him to the topless bar...it actually can be alot of fun. If you have been with him for over a year and are having these feelings then I think you should trust your instincts. Good luck!
2006-12-14 00:47:13 · answer #2 · answered by Ginger P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has less regards for you, it cant be very good for you. Go with your gut. I know chronic flirts who hang out at topless and have huge egos but they respect the woman they love. Tell him to change his habits if he wants you around. If he truly loves u he will change.
2006-12-14 00:52:34 · answer #3 · answered by Phoenix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him, why would you want to be with some one who does not respect you in anyway? and no not all men go to topless bars flirt and have huge ego's.....Where ever you found him, return him and shop somewhere else for a guy.
2006-12-14 00:46:17 · answer #4 · answered by Mechelle C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The basis for all love is respect, esteem, and admiration. In the success or breakdown of a couple's relationship, we always think of love; how their love keeps growing over the years or where did the love go. What we don't think of equally frequently is respect, tolerance, and appreciation and whether the love had good measures of these emotions. Truly satisfying relationships require respect, tolerance, and appreciation of who we are as men and women and as individuals. To assume that all men who go to strip clubs go to have sex with the women who work there is foolish. A visit to a strip club can be a harmless "guys night out", or it can be a place where men with low self esteem go because they feel they must pay for the attention of a pretty woman. How would your guy feel if you went to male strip clubs? If going to the strip club takes anything away from the relationship, whether it be money, sexual intimacy, quality time, etc., then it (in my opinion) is wrong. You deserve to feel valued and appreciated by your partner and to have your feelings heard and respected. Attitudes about strip clubs vary widely. Some people feel they're degrading to women or exploitative and that it's inappropriate for a man to interact sexually with people other than his partner. Others feel that strip clubs are a healthy expression of sexuality and a good source of income for women who work in them. Why do you think it bothers you that your boyfriend goes to strip clubs? Does it make you feel good about yourself and your relationship? Open, honest, non-accusatory communication may help you understand one another better and solidify your connection. Talk with him about his visits and ask what he thinks of the experience, and does he know how it makes you feel. It's possible for people to be very happy and satisfied in their relationships and still enjoy going to strip clubs but perhaps your boyfriend's visits make you feel like you're not good enough. Visiting a strip club may be an enjoyable source of inspiration or fantasy but not a replacement for the loving, supportive, or sexually fulfilling relationship you may provide. If you talk with your boyfriend about how you feel, maybe he can assuage your fears. If you still object to his visits, your feelings are what they are. It's his choice whether he visits strip clubs, and you're also entitled to your feelings about it. Hopefully, any strength of your relationship will enable you to reach a mutually agreeable decision about whether he continues to go to strip clubs and flirt. Otherwise, you need to decide if this is the type of individual you want to be with - one who shows utter disregard and disrespect for your emotional health, the integrity of your relationship, and most importantly, whether his questionable behavior transfers to commitment and loyalty to you, his partner. There's more than one fish in the sea. Give yourself some credit and don't relinquish your values to remain in a relationship that is denigrating and undermines your self-worth.
2006-12-14 01:57:02 · answer #5 · answered by JFAD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boot. You said he has very little regard for you. That should make things really clear.
2006-12-14 00:43:53 · answer #6 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has little regard for how you feel, then you need to cut him loose. He's being selfish. Just tell him like it is.
2006-12-14 00:44:59 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF HE LOVE YOU AS HE SAYS THEN HE WOULD RESPECT YOU, IT SOUND LIKE HE DOES NOT CARE FOR YOUR
FEELING AT ALL. IT TIME TO MOVE ON, AND FIND SOMEONE
THAT WILL LOVE AND RESPECT YOU. HE NOT THE ONE.
2006-12-14 00:48:21 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO WITH YOUR GUT...its working overtime for a reason...!!!!!
2006-12-14 00:43:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go with your gut its usually right
2006-12-14 00:43:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋