I found out a couple years ago that my brother molested me when we were younger. He still hasn't sincerely apologized and I don't have any contact with him anymore. I don't want to cause problems in my family, but I think he should pay the consequences for what he did to me. I certainly am. I checked out the statute of limitations and I can legally still charge him. Is it worth the problems it could cause?
2006-12-13 16:27:12 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
That's a hard situation to be in....
You have to ask yourself.....Do you think he may still be molesting kids? If you believe his mind is truely still infected with that disease....then YES. You should try to save his future or possibly present victims.
2006-12-13 16:32:26 · answer #1 · answered by Pinkie_&_the_Brain 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The question is - how come you "found out"...didn't you already know? And if you were too young to remember, is it affecting your life and the quality of it now? Those are questions that will be thrown at you if you go to court. Also, of course there will be problems in your family relationships that you will have to work through, some good, some bad. Thats the chance you take. I guess you need to weigh it out and decide if you truly feel like it has changed your life in a negative way. Also, another thing to think of is that he might try to do this sort of thing to other people and if that is the case, maybe that is reason enough to press charges.
2006-12-13 16:33:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me say this first. Are you close to youre family? If you are talk to youre mom and dad before you decide to press charges, then go and file the charges. But I will say this it may cause the family to divide. I am not saying what he done was right by no means but dont go into this thinking that everything will be the same as they are now. You do what you think is right, you know what you have to do, then do it. I am really sorry that this happened, but just remeber you are not alone.
2006-12-13 16:36:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sexual abuse will leave its mark on you forever. If helping you to get some closure is to charge him than do that. Every experience we have in our lives makes us who we are you need to find something good in what happened to you.
I was molested when I was 6 and I told my mother at the age of 13. She did nothing about it. She still see's the man to this day. I don't hate her I know she did what she thought was best. The positive stuff for me now is that I would protect my children no matter what. I have always spoken to them about the things that adults are capable so they are aware and know that they can always come to me. If I hadn't gone through what I had I would be a different person now.
May you find peace and love
2006-12-13 16:40:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely. This is why: he has most likely molested others and not just you. Therefore, don't just do it for you, but do it for the other girls he has molested and his future victims. It is not an easy road but it is the right one. Get some good counseling to support you through the process and I promise you there are more people in your situation that you think. Be sure you find a counselor who specializes in sexual abuse in the family. Good luck to you.
2006-12-13 16:31:40 · answer #5 · answered by LM S 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I believe that if this is something that you feel so strongly about then you should do what you feel you need to. If that means pressing charges then by all means do so. Who knows how many other girls he may have molested that are afraid to speak up. I am truly sorry to hear that this has happened to you.
2006-12-13 16:31:47 · answer #6 · answered by antztaylor 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry. No one should have to go through that. Yes, if you think it will bring you some closer or/and if you feel that he may do this to someone else's child. Your brother may have a problem and needs help to stop. If that is the case, you would be doing him (and everyone else) a favor by reporting him.
2006-12-13 16:33:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How many other victims might he have?
Do you want him to do this to others?
If you could stop a child molester would you?
I had something similar happen to me and I did nothing, my family did nothing and when that individual got older, he raped and molested and finally got caught and sentenced to prison, but after how many victims? I could of stopped him but I didn't want to cause problems with my family. Think about it.
2006-12-13 18:51:49 · answer #8 · answered by LC 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That would depend on how long ago it was...if it was too long ago the statute of limitations may have run out and it wouldn't matter if you did try to press charges because they wouldn't stick.
2006-12-13 16:54:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
no too much pain and memories to bring back, the court and etc. you dont want to do all of that even though i know it hurts but just forgive him but dont press charges against your brother, he probably has to live with the guilt of it everyday, have you ever asked? but i hope you have a merry christmas and a HAPPY new year!
2006-12-13 16:32:16 · answer #10 · answered by chica bonita 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋