To reach a mutual care arrangement for your children that works?
I have been trying to sort things out with my ex for almost 2 years now. Its getting so stressful.
He also says if i make him pay child support he will cease contact with our daughter altogether....amongst other things!
2006-12-13 16:24:29 · 6 answers · asked by Not_a_toothless_pirate 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
He must pay child support if he's the father and you're the custodial parent. What kind of a dad is he? Certainly making you and your daughter suffer with threats like that is far from responsible or sensitive. It certainly sounds like you need some kind of legal help. Good luck.
2006-12-13 16:33:50 · answer #1 · answered by 60s Chick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A separation, divorce, splitting of the sheets is only as good as the two ADULTS are that are involved.
Sounds like you are the adult and he's working on being a dead beat dad. Guess that explains why you are not together anymore.
Make him pay....no you won't, the courts will. That is his right to not see his child, so then he should turn over all parental rights.
This guy is a fool...you don't try to hurt someone with the child, that always backfires.
The stress has to be astronomical, try mediation, maybe even a councilor to help with some of this. Then at night a good evening yoga program will help. The stretching relives the muscles from the strain.
2006-12-13 20:44:49 · answer #2 · answered by teddybearloverus 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It took me a little over 2 years we were married for 9 years. He wanted custody of our only child just as I did. We actually had to get a mediator. I suggest that you try that route if possible. It's been 2 years and now we are cordial. I got primary custody. I don't hold him to only weekends because sometimes he gets her from school during the week and brings her back at 8pm. I think he was just using her as a pawn, because he couldn't stay married to me.
2006-12-13 16:31:17 · answer #3 · answered by Earth Law 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you MAKE him pay child support? he should WANT to take care of his child! you need to get a lawyer, you may be able to call legal aid or find one pro-bono if you can't afford it, and take ol' boy to court. your state will say he has to pay child support. if you cannot agree on an arrangement, the judge will tell you what to do. it took my ex and I almost a year to get a plan on paper that is court-ordered. your ex can run off to Alaska with your daughter and disappear if you have no formal order. or, if he really feels like money is more important than his child, make your lives easier and get him to relinquish his rights. no matter what, you need something legal and on paper.
2006-12-13 16:33:21 · answer #4 · answered by babygirlnc 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my bf's brother has his kids 2 weeks a month, and then his ex has them 2 weeks a month, but its like the first and third we he has them and the 2 and 4th week she has them...so every other week he has them, and then wednesday when they get out of school until thursday morning when they get on the bus for school, then they go back to their moms after school, when its her week then when its his week they go to their moms wednesday night...and neither one of them pay child support...i honestly dont like it that way cause it is such an inconvience for the rest of us, but it does work
2006-12-13 19:13:18 · answer #5 · answered by gabbi_gurl_2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How dare your ex threaten you. id tell him to get on his bike. couldn't imagine you'd want his sort around your daughter any way.Keep positive , good things will happen.
2006-12-16 01:29:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋