you hear the stories, celebrities and regular people alike adopt kids from around the globe. they speak of how they want to make a difference in a poor child life. we have so many kids in our foster care system here in our country. why do people ignore the problem at home? just a thought that was on my mind...interested in what others think.
2006-12-13 16:22:03 · 14 answers · asked by atlas shrugged and so do i 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I understand how you feel it is almost like the saying, "Charity begins at home" . I am glad that someone is helping children in some cases living in very poor conditions in third world countries. I know many families that have tried to do adoption in america but the system needs to do some adjusting. They have made it very hard for people that are looking to have a baby or child to care and love for, when they can't have one on their own. Some have a 5-10 year wait list and the pressure they put the hopeful parents under just make many of them give up and go elsewhere. I had a friend and his wife who adopted in China because it was only going to take 1 year and they were told they would have to wait almost 10 years here. I hope they do some changes soon. Because we to have lots of children in america looking for a nice safe place to sleep at night.
2006-12-13 16:50:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
it is to hard to adopt in this country and for some people it is actually cheaper to fly abroad and get a child sad but very true. Also most of the kids abroad are given up by parents who can't take care of them or died. Here more often the child was abused or neglected in some way and was taken from the mother. Many people who do adopt her end up with kids with sever emotional and behavirol problems
2006-12-14 14:37:44 · answer #2 · answered by Big Daddy R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it's tough. For one thing, most kids in foster care still have legal ties to their parents...meaning parental rights haven't been completely severed...this means the child can (potentially) be reunited with their parent one day. People looking to adopt and raise a child are sometimes scared to take in a foster child to love and care for and have that kid returned to their parents or moved to a new location.
Adopting a child is tough in the US for families somtimes. Most potential adoptive parents want an infant or toddler (they are the ones most likely to still be legally tied to parents if taken by the state simply due to age and the fact that they haven't been in the system long). The average wait for a couple to adopt in the US through an agency is about 2 yrs, or it was when we looked into it. The average cost was 12-20,000. You could go out of country and get a child within months for 20,000 and up.
I don't think people ignore the problem here in regards to adoption. I think that most people looking to adopt a small child have been thru years of fertility problems and to be told that it will take 2 years or more to adopt a child is heartbreaking. After years of trying, they want to be parents now.
I think money plays a huge part in your choice.
As for fostering, I understand why parental rights are stripped only as a last resort, but unfortunately, this tends to happen usually when the child is older and harder to place in an adoptive home. It is very sad that so many children are in foster care, I agree. I think many people would love to help more but sometimes don't know how.
I think the saddest thing is that too many people are having children when they really have no business being a parent.
2006-12-13 16:41:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
I think a lot of celebrities do it for publicity. Every day people do it because it is much easier to adopt babies from foreign countries than our own (makes sense, doesn't it?) American adoptions are extremely expensive, and waiting lists are years long. Foster kids, though, aren't always up for adoption. Sometimes they are there because their parents are trying to get their lives in order. Babies are hard to come by and most people are concerned about adopting an older child who may or may not have problems related to why they were placed in foster care.
2006-12-13 16:28:23 · answer #4 · answered by babygirlnc 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Sorry when it comes to children, I don't care where you adopt. Children in foster care here in the states have it way better then a child sitting in a orphanage over seas. I am cool with people adopting from where ever they wish. Anyone who adopts is a angel in my mind, state side or not. People who don't adopt, have no business telling someone where they should be adopting.
2006-12-13 19:44:06 · answer #5 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well as you will notice they are all adopting babies....which is easier to do from foreign countries.
The american foster care system takes so long and most people want newborns or babies, not toddlers. And they want you to foster first in most states which alot of people aren't willing to do, it's hard getting attached to the child and then having them removed from your home after a certain amount of time or for no reason. The whole system needs a complete overhaul.
2006-12-13 16:37:21 · answer #6 · answered by geekieintx 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I'm just glad that children are being adopted. I feel it's selfish to think that Americans should only adopt Americans. While I understand many foster homes do not have the best amenities and atmospheres just imagine what the Ethiopian child with no food or roof over their head feels like.
Many people say it is not our problem. That's not true. While we live in a country: the US--more importantly we live on Earth. Not only does this mean helping ourselves but other countries as well.
2006-12-13 16:26:55 · answer #7 · answered by .vato. 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I completely believe ju1244. As a foster discern who's contained in direction of adopting a 3yo, and who additionally has a 12yo daughter, who's our blood daughter, i will inform you that's an quite enormous and confusing adjustment on your blood babies. And to attempt to soak up youth, you're basically soliciting for undertaking. i'm not asserting youth do not deserve a stable abode... they deserve properties that are enormously geared to in uncomplicated terms them. maximum foster youth have enormous time issues stemming decrease back to a snarled adolescence the two from their delivery mothers and fathers and / or from being tossed around in foster care. those babies choose alot of guidance and that i would not positioned my babies with the aid of that. there is too many hazards. So in case you prefer to grow to be a foster discern to youth, then do basically that... the two have not got childrens or wait to have them. i would not do the two on the comparable time. it will be too demanding on all of us. do not fool your self into thinking that's gonna be one large enormous pajama social gathering and you gets to do one yet another's hair. those childrens have extreme subject concerns and could carry out a little very undesirable issues.
2016-10-14 22:07:15 · answer #8 · answered by porix 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in foster care for ten years and it does not bother me when someone adopts from a foreign country, because as far as I am concerned, at least they are helping someone other than themselves, which is more than I can say for a lot of people. I would prefer that they adopt domestically, but that is not my choice to make because it is not my family that is being expanded.
2006-12-14 00:32:18 · answer #9 · answered by wisegirl1204 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The way the legal system is in this country/states, it is almost impossible to adopt foster children.
2006-12-13 16:32:15 · answer #10 · answered by marchhare57 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋