ok for far too long ive been a coddler and to sweet for my own good. im an anything you say dear kind of girl but inside i know that this is the wrong way to be. im too hard on myself and this i also know is wrong. i never say the right thing because my words lack confidence. i refuse to be this way any longer and i need your help. mold me. tell me the right things to do or say.i wont change who i am. just how i hold myself and react to situations. example, ive been with this guy for ten years now. we both struggle with issues. we are so close to our goal of connecting but i feel that there is this barrier. maybe on his side but yes on mine. he tends to get down and when he does he kind of goes into gotta rip on me mode. now i know its just his insecurities and hes like any other guy, he wants me to bite back. i think if i can do that, it actually could lighten the mood. i need to show him that i am an awsome woman and show him that in a way that makes him stop picking at me.
2006-12-13 16:21:20 · 9 answers · asked by solas lethe 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i know he wants to chace me. but i give up too much of myself. ive been working very hard at it and im so close. i think that if i had the right tools to work with, i could give him the right kind of intamacy, which you could tell me your definition of it . let me know. mold me guys. make this your christmas present to me.tell me all the does and donts.
2006-12-13 16:24:38 · update #1
ok first of all im not trying to change him only myself. what is it that you guys like and dislike in woman. thats it.
2006-12-13 16:37:06 · update #2
rip back, rip hard, toughen up *****
2006-12-13 16:25:10 · answer #1 · answered by bentomsun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess what. After ten years, you guys shouldn't still be "connecting", he shouldn't have to "chase" you, and you shouldn't still be tryin to figure each other out. Whether you want to admit it or not, you too are as close as you are going to get. If this isn't the relationship that you want, get out. If it is what you want, then accept things as they are and be happy. It's simply to late in the game to start trying to make wholesale changes within the relationship. Also, while I appreciate your willingness to accept advice from others, asking a bunch of guys you don't know to "mold" you is not the path to self-improvement. Listen to your heart and open it up to your partner. Trust that good things will happen accordingly.
2006-12-13 16:41:21 · answer #2 · answered by Stand Up Guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm a senior in college and that i comprehend people who've braces at this age! basically be fortunate you have them. i had braces all of 9th grade and a pair of months into 10th grade and that i nevertheless had the comparable existence as everybody else (i grew to become right into a cheerleader, had a boyfriend, blah blah blah) actual, some adult men even like the look of braces on a woman. do not undertaking! and if a guy won't choose for you when you consider which you have braces, then he's definitely not the form of guy you prefer to be with.
2016-10-14 22:07:05 · answer #3 · answered by porix 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart,you came to the right place!! It sounds like you need a change,and I know of several resources that can help you.
1) Go to my sources below....They have books and people who can listen to your specific needs... (Like there is one book called "Changes that Heal" and "Rescue your Love Life" over at New Life Ministries
2) We all need connection. We were made for relationship (all kinds....not just romantic) Do you have any close female friends you can talk to/confide in on a daily basis??
3) In a sense,what you wrote above sounds like you two may be in a cycle of sorts.....my sources below (especially new life) have some people and resources who could really narrow down the specifics for you.
4) YOU CAN DO IT!!!! Believe in yourself!!! The journey you are about to embark on is likely going to be a difficult one.......but I KNOW you can do it!!!
2006-12-13 16:34:48 · answer #4 · answered by Chief Paduke 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT JUST SOUND BOTH OF YOU HAVE SOME ISSUES THAT
YOU NEED TO WORK OUT. IF YOU BEEN TOGETHER FOR
10 YEARS THEN THIS SHOULD NOT BE A ISSUES. TIME
TO REALLY LOOK AT WHAT REALLY GONG ON IN THIS
SITUATION. OTHER WISE BOTH OF YOU WILL BE STUCK
IN THIS PLACE. TIME TO MOVE FORWARD OR TIME TO
LEAVE ALONG.
2006-12-13 16:26:19 · answer #5 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, in 10 more years you might just get him to change into the guy you want to date.
2006-12-13 16:24:52 · answer #6 · answered by nobudE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is kind of out of my specialties.
maybe a shrink could help you.
2006-12-13 16:25:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Soooo, ...what's your prob. bite him back!!!!!!!
OK now you want do's and dont's..here I go : DO HIM!!! Don't let him UNDONE!!!
2006-12-13 16:29:29 · answer #8 · answered by schuschtermat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't know what to say. you talk too much. stop it.
2006-12-13 16:25:20 · answer #9 · answered by romeo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋