I mean why is it that women even reject the most buff guys?Is it a personality thing?Perhaps the guy is too arrogant or doesn't respect her?
2006-12-13 16:17:27 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dont like buff guys, a lil bit of muscle is alright... but i dont care for a six-pack abs or anything like that.
Heck, I dont even care for looks at all. Well.. I care of they take care of themself but I like personalitly.
When it comes down to it thats what matters most the time.
As women age they mature... at least I would hope they do.
They dont want some guy thats a jerk and only has muscles to show for it.
Have a good Holiday!
2006-12-13 16:30:29 · answer #1 · answered by Branwen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I almost always reject buff guys. Why? Because when they are that buff, that says to me that they are a MEAT HEAD, they spend every waking spare minute working out in the gym or lifting weights, trying to perfect their body so they can be a pretty boy. That in turn, gives me the impression that they are very self-centered if they are going to spend that much time making themselves such a pretty boy.
Attraction has never been a physical thing for me. It is always personality. If a guy is sincere, honest and gentle and caring, that is it for me. I don't care if he is short or tall or whatever, if he has the personality traits that I want in a man, that's what it takes to attract me to a guy.
2006-12-13 16:22:05 · answer #2 · answered by jennnnn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, attraction has many levels. Physical, emotional, cultural. But also, one thing I have learned is that love cannot exist without lust and that lust does not equal love.
Attraction happens sometimes because of the way a man looks, smells, or acts.
My boyfriend, of 5 years now, is not the most buff, he had to hound me to go on a date with him. I did and his smile, charm, and personality won me over, to my benefit. There was just something there I missed the first time we met.
So in short attraction is a personal thing and when the woman for you comes around she will find things attractive about you that no one else does, that's the way of things.
2006-12-13 16:24:40 · answer #3 · answered by meggs2311 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a lot of the time, buff guys spend too much time on worrying about looking good, then on worry whats going on up in their brain. They aren't always that fun to talk to. So, if you are buff, im sorry if i totally just put you down, if not, then the right one will eventually come along!! hope this helped :)
2006-12-13 16:20:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Bill, in the gist of things, evolution gave men the strength, the ability to pass along genetic material, the ability to decode non-verbal cues and the desire to mate in order to pass along their blood line. What women were given was mate choice. mate choice makes all the difference in the world. If you know you are viable, strong, intelligent, cool, socially accepted, strong, powerful and sexually active...awesome, but nature tells us that unless the female chooses to be with you (aside of rape) it really doesn't matter what you've got. What most men need to find is a girl that shares the same values, life philosophies, morals, life goals...etc. as they do so that the mate choice becomes a matter of weighing what you have to offer to the future of their offspring rather than to the moment. Sounds scientific, but if you look at it right, you will realize it really doesn't matter what we do to ourselves, it is up to them to choose what they want...good luck changing their mind! And good luck being you and finding someone who loves you for you.
2006-12-13 16:28:37 · answer #5 · answered by Stretch99A2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is definitely a personality thing, for me anyway. If you don't click, you don't click.
This may sound cheesy too, but the more you get to know a person (and like them) the more physically attractive they become. Suddenly, a weird shaped nose becomes cute. It's very bizarre.
2006-12-13 16:21:35 · answer #6 · answered by outcastcounselor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because a guy is "buff" dosent mean a women should be attracted to him sloth from goonies was buff. there is alot more to it than that
2006-12-13 16:20:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
attraction is more of a personality thing anymore we as woman would rather have a guy who can treat us well, carry on a conversation, pay his own bills and shows us a good time over a guy who looks good in a pair of tight jeans...
2006-12-13 16:22:36 · answer #8 · answered by ypsilady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most girls are fed up with the stereotypical male: emotionless, tv zombies who drink beer and pretend to have a chance with big breasted Hooters employees.
Girls instead desire to be cared for, appreciated, heard, and loved. They want security. They also want a guy with a fully working mind. Yes, his personality matters tremendously. Guys are hotter if they are caring and compassionate.
2006-12-13 16:24:27 · answer #9 · answered by Bridget 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, mostly it's because the guy owns the purse instead of her. Attraction is not only physical it's personality too. :)
2006-12-13 16:21:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋