Should you tell an ex that you are now engaged to someone else?

Question

Do you think you should tell an ex-fiance or ex-boyfriend/girlfriend that you are now engaged to be married to someone? Or do you think you should just let life take its course and have them find out on their own? I would not want to know if an ex was getting married - I remember a friend told me that an ex was getting married and I was pissed they told me b/c I did't want to think about them being with someone else. The friend told me she did not want me to hear it from anyone else and that he had told my friend he was going to call me and tell me but never did so she felt it was her obligation to do so. What do you think?

Answer 1

I think that it depends on the situation. If your ex still contacts you and is trying to get you back, then yes I will tell him, if I were you but if your ex has disappeared from your life and you see him once in a while then you don't need to tell him.

Then there is the other situation, that is, if you and your ex are still friends. And in that case I think that you should tell him for the sake of the friendship.

In my opinion these are the main actions and their reactions for your situation and I think that finally it is up to you tell him or not because you know the character of your ex and it is you that knows the situation clearly, I just gave some hints and hope that my answer has helped you to find a conclusion hun. Good Luck and may your wishes come true.

Answer 2

The person is an "EX" - so should it truly matter?

If you are still friends with this person, WHY would you NOT want them to share in your joy at finding true love? Why hide it?

If you are still in love with your ex, then WHY are you getting married?

People have the right to make mistakes and correct them. Apparently, your relationship did not pan out with this person and yet, you still have respect for their feelings about your newfound happiness with someone else.

That is commendable.

However, if you are engaged to be married to someone else for filling the void of loss or loneliness, perhaps you should reconsider your commitment and involvement with this new person and tell your ex how you truly feel about your breaking up.

You don't want to think about them being with someone else? Why not? Weren't YOU? Didn't you give time, emotions and commitment to another? Why shouldn't they?

Don't be selfish - life has plenty of goodness and love for ALL to share and enjoy. Let them have theirs; the same as YOU have now with another person.

If you are not friendly with your ex anymore, taunting or flaunting your new relationship is both immature and unnecessary. Let the person go on with their life the same way you plan to - happily.

But if you have unresolved issues and emotions, NOW is the time to set things right - BEFORE you commit your heart and life to another.

After all, you don't want to be another divorce statistic, now do you? (smile)

Good luck to you my friend, and thanks for posting.

Answer 3

I think that if you're still in contact with an ex you definitely should. If an ex called me out of the blue just to tell me that he is getting married, I would question his level of commitment in his current relationship and his maturity.

If you haven't stayed in touch, why bother? Just to make them jealous? News gets around anyway.

Answer 4

When it is over, it is over and then move on. Easier said than done. Nonetheless, I don't know about you but I like to make a clean break with people. Once they are gone, they are gone and I wish them much love, peace and happiness. Unless, you have the ability to stay good friends with old flames then I don't see any reason in contacting them about the news. Life goes on and everything happens for a reason. Let sleeping dogs lie.

Answer 5

You can tell your EX if you stayed friends with them but you are not really obliged to tell them. it's your choice. Some prefers telling their EXes out of respect of the "relationship" you once had or as what your Ex said, she doesn't want you to hear it from others but the relationship with your EX was not good after you broke up, then there's no need to..Ü

Answer 6

I think the only reason I would tell is if I wanted to ex to ask me to come back. If all the feeling are over with HELL NO I wouldn't tell. If you think you should, maybe you shouldn't be getting engaged.

Answer 7

You have no relationship with the ex thing, take care of your man or you will be come ex if he find out you are communication with you ex. Love what you have, and want what you have.

Answer 8

why would u want to talk to your ex i mean hes an ex for a reason right? i spose if you are still friends with the person i probably still wouldtn go out of my way to tell them, if they found out good for them but thas about it, they shouldnt really have much more to do with your life and you shouldnt find it important or the need to tell them..

Answer 9

No, nope, nyet, thumbs down, anyway you want to say it. What purpose would telling them serve? That relationship is over, if you were still friends they would know. Do you want revenge? (nasty) Do you want them to feel jealous? (nasty) I can't think of one true, good motivation for telling them. You HAD a relationship, repeat after me, the word is HAD. Let the past be in the past and have a great life.

Answer 10

Only if you want a possible dramatic moment at your wedding OR you feel like crap cause they don't care. What does it matter? Let it go and have a good life with your current. Good Luck