my husband works graveyard and then watchs the kids when i work in the day but recently my daughter is fighting her bedtime so i let her stay up but if i get up in the middle of the night (2-5 am) she is still awake watching cartoons and playing on the computer is there a way i can break her cycle from staying up late??? has any one else had this problem with there child?
2006-12-13 16:08:27 · 14 answers · asked by gustavoandkimberly 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I sometimes have this issue with my three year old. You just have to lay out consequences for her actions. If she's lying in bed awake and being quiet - that's good enough. But if she gets up, turns on lights and comes out of her room and just plays on the computer and watches cartoons - she has little sense of discipline. You need to work with your husband closely and say - if you get up in the night - then whatever I find you doing cartoons or computer - will be taken away for 3 days. Then you simply take things away, hide them - do what it takes to follow through on what you said and your hubby needs to do that too. With 2 working parents - I know this isn't easy. My own daughter behaves like she owns the world and it's all because we work so hard to make a living and scrape by that we could definitely be paying her more personal attention and providing better discipline. But, don't beat yourself up. You're kids would rather have you than anyone else - even if it isn't easy!
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2006-12-13 16:14:51 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your husband have to talk about the household routine.
If he and she are sleeping the day away, there is nothing you can do alone, you have to work on this together. You as parents have let her stay up later and later until she doesn't know night from day.
She is just coming out of the nap stage I presume... but even with that most 5 year olds sleep 10-12 hours a day.
It is pretty simple to change their sleep patterns at that age. (Simple not easy) The basic idea is to keep her awake during the daylight hours, even better if you can get her lots of exercise. The next phase is a set bed time, no wiggling or letting her get out of it, put her to bed at a set time. You may have to stay with her in her room for the first while...rub her back, sing to her. Then the next morning up at a set time...stay up .... get exercise.
Sometimes a relaxing activity like a warm bath before bed helps too.
PS....No 5 year old should be left unsupervised on the computer.
2006-12-13 16:45:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I can tell you what the problem may be. I might just be assuming though.
Does your daughter take naps during the day while your husband is sleeping? If so or you do not know, talk to your husband about this. It's important for your daughter to understand now the difference in night and day.
Do you have a consistent bed time routine? If not, then implement one. Kids live for routine and schedule. They need that in their lives. I know it can be tough but after a while it becomes habit. For example my five year old gets in the bath at 7:45, gets dressed and settled down to get in bed at 8:30. I think it's helped us out a lot.
Do you have a way to contain her in her room? There is a "tall" baby gate you can buy. It's for bigger children so they don't climb over it. Child-proof her room and keep her contained. While you are asleep, she could get hurt in the living room/computer area, she needs to stay in one place. TV probably keeps her awake. She needs to be kept in a room that is not lively or interesting which will probably keep her sleeping.
After talking with your husband, implementing routine, and taking safety precautions I think you'll be on the right track.
2006-12-13 16:36:39 · answer #3 · answered by .vato. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is being over-stimulated by the TV and computer and that will keep her up. Try giving her a bath about 30-45 minutes before bed and put her in her pajamas and either read to her or just hang out with her on the couch rubbing her back to calm her. Give her a queue that she is going to bed about 5 or 10 minutes before and stick to it, once she knows she can stay up late she will. It will be a little hard to transition her in the beginning but she will get the picture once you are consistent. You will probably have to go into her room a couple times each night to make sure she is in bed but once she knows you are monitoring her, she will know you mean business when it's bed time. Good luck.
2006-12-13 21:25:28 · answer #4 · answered by chrissy757 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out if your hubby is letting her take a nap. If so that may be the problem. I know if my daughter sleeps during the day we are up almost all night. If he is not then try limiting the amount of sugar and caffine she gets before bed. When she wakes up don't let her turn on the tv or computer all it is doing is stimulating her brain and makes it harder to go back to sleep. Good Luck
2006-12-13 16:12:07 · answer #5 · answered by jagbeeton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a matter of fact, I did.. you never said how old your daughter is, but my daughter was a night owl for some time. I simply removed her toys.. she had no access to them... the only thing she had access to after 8:00 p.m. were to were books and her pillow.... computers are way too much fun for kids, that will keep them up all night. Take that from her, and the t.v.
2006-12-13 16:18:51 · answer #6 · answered by tootsie38 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once she starts kindergarten and has a routine she'll be alright. My nieces were like that at that age, but once school started their late night playing stopped. Also have some outdoor activities or playtime with her during the day, so she'll be too tired to stay up at night.
2006-12-13 16:17:31 · answer #7 · answered by Whadafuc? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is probably sleeping during the day when your husband is sleeping. If that is the case you won't be able to get her to sleep at night. Once she starts school she will have to awake during the day and your husband can stay home and sleep and she should sleep at night. Good luck
2006-12-13 16:10:57 · answer #8 · answered by suzyQ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 22:06:10 · answer #9 · answered by porix 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to tell her to stop watching TV or get rid of it then, if she starts sleeping in a right time then, you can put it back in.
You might want to give her some bed time stories that she will absolutely like. Bed time stories are better than cartoons.
2006-12-13 16:12:37 · answer #10 · answered by J.A. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋