What can i do?

Question

ok i work as a cocktail waitress and i really need the money, theres nothing much i know how to do besides serving drinnks. of course our uniforms are real slutty, i didnt mind but me and my co workers are like being harrassed by the guys. they say sexual things and touch us without permission. i always get my nylon thighs feeled on when i serve drinks on a table. and they have me smacking our asses. one guymy skirt lifted up just to see what was under. we kind of told the manager but too embarrassed and he didn't do much.

and when i come home my bf doesn't even care and worst yet, he forces in me, everyday when i come home in my uniform, he does it to me. he doesn't even ask first. and he has this attitude now like, "Take off all you clothes now." and "Get in bed now" and like hes real rough. like forcing my legs to open and stuff. i have to put up with this during the work and once i come home i have this. help

Answer 1

#1 change your job if you want respect from all around you #2 your bf dont respect you as in his mind your not much as you dont repsect yourself so he dont care your an object like sex object # 3 your boss is a whimp and #4 there are night training classes you can go for get financial aid to go and work as a regular waitess in a high scale restaurant or work in catering for banquets at nice places to make tips until you get thru night training classes as something nice.. otherwise i tell you this is how its gonna be forever. to a man dress slutty and be in a sluthole is how they will treat you& tell your boss there is charges or harrassment and bring the place down.. if he fires u tell the labor board and u will get unemployment for that crap of him not protecting his workers. tell your bf get lost theres no future that is descent as he figures what can he do about it seriously? beat up the boss or guys.. what do you expect working there.

Answer 2

you really need to find work at a more respectful place!! There are places to work that don't allow that to go on. As far as the boyfriend goes get away from that one. It might sound hard at first, but the longer you wait the worst it will get. Do you have any self respect or what? I'm not to fond of anyone that won't help themselves. Stop whining about how bad things are and do something about it. Your life could end tomorrow, do you want it to be a good day or a bad day?

Answer 3

just because you are a cocktail waitress, doesn't mean you deserve to be treated like a whore.You have to decide whether you want to stand up for yourself and respect yourself I was a cocktail waitress then a bartender for many years and in no situation was this behavior acceptable when I served drinks, in fact I made more money than my coworkers that way because I showed respect for myself and stood up to the guys and let them know they were down right disrespectful, as for telling the manager and him not taking action? thats grounds for a law suit lose the boyfriend who does he think he is? he has no respect for you as person, have you ever thought of being a waitress for a while? Get yourself working towards another profession, its never to late for that Good Luck

Answer 4

I am sorry, but you make it hard for me to feel sorry for you. I am sure that there are other things that you can do for a living. If all you know how to do is serve people then how about serving food? It sounds like you don't like being treated cheep! Well it sounds like you are asking to be treated cheep. If a person doesn't like there life, then they need to change it. It sounds like your boyfriend has no respect for you,could it be that you dont respect yourself? Every woman should demand to be treated respectfully, but you have to earn respect also. Take yourself out of the situations that humiliate and belittle you. You are worth it! Demand respect and live like you deserve it! Your also putting your self into danger. Dont sell out!

Answer 5

You need to get out asap, of both your job and out of your relationship. His forcefulness could turn into something more serious in the future. Your confidence is probably torn from all that you've endured, you just need to hold your head high and move on...believe that you can survive: Independent, maintain self-respect, and self-love. Remember you are capable, money isn't buried with you..I'm sure you can find another way to save up and live your life...be who you REALLY are

Answer 6

DO NOT put up with it. Tell your customers in no uncertain terms that they had better keep their hands off of you.
I'd also suggest you get a job serving at a different place. Not all places demand that you wear revealing clothes and you are simply asking for trouble. I hope you have someone escort you to your car.
Your boyfriend does this to you because you ALLOW it. I'd suggest you get a more respectful boyfriend. I'd kick him to the curb!
If you DEMAND RESPECT you will get it.

Answer 7

Stop playing the role as a victim and get hold of a caseworker or anyone that can get you guided in a different direction. There are programs out there to help you out but you have to find them-they are not looking for you! Take control of your life before it gets to late.If your old enough to work as a waitress-your old enough to get control over your life!

Answer 8

if its really bothering u, tell the bf and get a job at a diner as a waitress in a less slutty uniform.

Answer 9

Well about your job tell the next SOB that teaches you that you are going to cut off his balls and gave them to his wife. And if your boss wont say anything about it to them call the cops and press charges Agnes them
And now for you bf leave him before you end up dead.
From a 54 year old man.

Answer 10

Sweetheart, your being abused - a victim of abuse at work and home - sounds like your not liking it very much - trade your uniform in for another - like maybe a fancy restaurant or McDonalds - good luck to you!!!!