how do i biuld up my confidence to ask a girl out because i am a nice guy but i dont have the confedence part what should i do to build it so i am not "afraid" to ask out a girl
2006-12-13 15:49:41 · 11 answers · asked by avshockeyfanatic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let me be the first to say I have the same thing. Mr. Nice Guy, the girls all see me as just a friend, and I was afraid to ask any of them out with risk of friendships dieing.
I know this doesnt sound like "good" advice, but you just have to walk up, and say "Hey, Ive just been wondering if you want to hangout sometime on a date or something" and whatever is meant to be will happen.
2006-12-13 15:53:56 · answer #1 · answered by KnownSolutions 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confidence comes with experience. Like when I first started in my career. There were guys around me doing the same job a lot longer and it sorta intimidated me a little. How could I ever be as good as they are? Well, 11 years later and I'm better than some and not as good as others. But at least when I set out I know what to do.
2006-12-13 15:55:27 · answer #2 · answered by jbsim75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could ask her to do something that doesn't seem too "date"-like.
For example, are you in school? COuld you suggest studying together? Do you work together? Ask if she's heading to the cafeteria for lunch. A non-romantic experience where just the two of you can talk shouldn't be too threatening. Then, have a nice conversation. Find out what she likes to do, and use that as an excuse to say "maybe we should play tennis together some time" (for example).
2006-12-13 15:54:13 · answer #3 · answered by firefly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im a nice guy but I also think I have confidence. Either just ask her or have friend ask if she likes you or would consider going out with you. But confidence is nice to have. Go get some.
2006-12-13 16:38:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that confidence thing is usually something you either have or don't. its tough to build and often takes time. however, a small step at a time can do wonders. next time you feel nervous, just tell yourself to "do it". there's no magic remedy. all you have to do is force yourself to overcome whats holding you back. trust me, after that first step it only gets easier. go for it! always be nice to the ladies though.
2006-12-13 15:59:01 · answer #5 · answered by mike h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put ur chin up and realise without confidence ur never going to succed in this world so go over there u have one life dont say no
2006-12-13 15:52:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure and become friends with most of the girls 1st. Then once they r friends with u, pounce!!! lol
2006-12-13 15:52:32 · answer #7 · answered by srvmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ah just get your *** near her and say hi !
nothing easier than talking with woman , they are smart and they can feel your fear ! so just be yourself and don't care
first you get 9 reject but 10th girl say you yes and slowly slowly you get better !
p.s: i just really don't have time for teach you step by step
it's natrual , it's in your blood !
2006-12-13 15:54:21 · answer #8 · answered by Soap 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to clubs. it's so dark and noisy in there that if you get rejected, it's hard to take it personally since the chick probably won't remember you.
2006-12-13 16:05:23 · answer #9 · answered by romeo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my advice is start with a prostitute. They can be great dating coaches, too, and you feel less pressured.
2006-12-13 15:52:18 · answer #10 · answered by DeadmanWalks 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋