OK, i have just came out of a 5 yr relationship, i have a 4yr old son. my ex cheated on me several times used drugs, disrespected me. anywyas he was a complete dog. but i have been talking to this guy who i met a month ago. he lives 7 hrs away and we talk on the phone every day. he is telling me that he is in love with me and watns me to move there and be with him. he is talking about more kids and marriage. i told him the last thing on my mind is a relationship from the start. i really like him as a mate and not sure what to do. if i did want a man he would be ideal. but its just too soon, i feel. i really dont wanna hurt this guy casue he's too nice. but what do i do? do you think he is a bit full on? he says its love at first sight and that he has never felt like this about anyone..... please help me
2006-12-13 15:28:28 · 10 answers · asked by sylvia c 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i have met him in person a few times yes. i told hijm im not ready and he said he would wait 5-10 yrs till i was
2006-12-13 15:39:28 · update #1
do you know very much about him? like his backround, family, past relationships....any drug use there? I wouldn't cut off the relationship.....but, I would definitely give it a little more time and get to know him a little better before jumping into a live in situation. You have your son to think about and like it or not, he will be affected by all of this and you need to make him the priority at all times.....good kuck!!
2006-12-13 15:32:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever met him in person?
and I think that last line "he says its love at first sight and that he has never felt like this about anyone"..... Is just what it is a line!
Come on.... I've even used that one, and most serial killers neighbors said "well he always seemed like a really nice guy!"
I'd get to know him better and see how he reacts if things don't go his way... like tell him your not interested in marriage and just want to be friends and see how he reacts! He sounds like some kind of desperate nut to me!!
2006-12-13 23:36:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get to know him first. you cannot risk another relationship with a stranger. you have kids, as you mentioned; try spending more time with them. it would be better if you spend some quality time with them than to be with the new guy. if you like him, then tell him. but do not go to the extent that you will once again give you everything to him. take a rest. know him more. at least no regrets in the end.
2006-12-13 23:33:45 · answer #3 · answered by philiGURL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are right, is too soon, and since you already feel this way then getting too close so soon is going to hurt him at the end if you end up changing your mind. Good luck!
2006-12-13 23:32:24 · answer #4 · answered by decarlo75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like him tell him he needs to wait. You just got out of a relationship, and neither of you wants him to be a rebound romance. If he truly does love you, he'll wait.
2006-12-13 23:31:49 · answer #5 · answered by Wicked 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him your not ready for a relationship and your son has to get used to you being single and in a while you can date him
2006-12-13 23:45:14 · answer #6 · answered by im always right 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most i can telll u hun is for sure BE CAREFUL nothing is more important than u and youre kids.
2006-12-13 23:30:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, follow ur heart, think twice, compare and contrast, and do watever possible, as long as it makes u happy. =]
2006-12-13 23:30:56 · answer #8 · answered by shelau 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray about it. Whether you are religious or not.
2006-12-13 23:30:24 · answer #9 · answered by Robert P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it sounds too good to be true then it's too good to be true.
2006-12-13 23:31:09 · answer #10 · answered by 2dogs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋