That has affected me negatively up to the point that I have had emotional problems and my shrink has recommended me not to live with him. I have also had problems with my family because of my relationship with him. But, I love him very much. What can I do?
2006-12-13 15:25:15 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Decide who comes first. If you have any sense it will be you. You don't have to end it now. Just take some time away to see how you get better. He is keeping you down to keep you around. If you did something and he can't get past it then you need to let him go. If you didn't do anything and he won't let you be happy with him then you need to let him go. See how it works. I doubt you love him, you only think you love him and need him. That's the snowball effect of a bad relationship.
2006-12-13 15:31:44 · answer #1 · answered by jbsim75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a stupid idiot. You say you love him very much?!?!?! What the hell is the matter with you? You should treat him back the same way he is treating you. Don't trust him with anything. See how that makes you feel about him because that's what he's feeling for you.
It's called verbal abuse. Not too many people know about it because most people focus on physical abuse, but verbal abuse is a very serious problem. Mentally, you are bruised and beat up. If they took you into a hospital and looked at your brain, they would arrest your BF.
You're even seeing a psychologist for your troubles with the guy?!?!?! Give me an F'ing break. You can't figure this out yet, you probably still can't figure out 1+1.
You can't make this relationship work. Dump him, and find someone who trusts you. A good relationship is based on trust. Without it, the relationship is over. You deserve better. It's your life. If you want this to continue for the rest of your life, stay with him. If not, you should cut your losses and stop being such a loser.
2006-12-14 03:22:59 · answer #2 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love conquers all, if you truly love him then stick with him. I know it's perhaps easier said than done but i truly feel that even though all these problems are happening around you and because you are with him, shouldn't matter in the end, I mean what if you break up with him, you may not ever be the same. Sure maybe your life will seem a little less burdened but you may never find your match because he is your match. lol I hope im not confusing you. best of luck. =)
2006-12-13 23:29:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he seeing a professional for his problem? If not I would move out, and move on! This isn't helping you at all. Come on even a professional had told you, what more do you need? I hope you come to terms with the facts of your relationship and are able to take care of yourself. Good luck! Coley
2006-12-13 23:28:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok dear....well maybe he doesnt trust you because you did something to lose that trust? i know that makes it hard when you love him. but i think your shrink is right. maybe you should try living separately and separate lives for a little bit. make time for your friends and have fun. your whole life isn't about him. as much as you love him. but you got to make the decision. do you want to be happy? or move on...think about it...good luck
2006-12-13 23:28:32 · answer #5 · answered by Tinkerbellloverzz 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have become dependent on him and define yourself through him. You need to get yourself back, your self-worth as a person by yourself, and start liking yourself.
I had to divorce my husband before I could accomplish this but I am here to tell you it is not a healthy relationship to be in.
Do yourself a favor and leave. Get yourself back and start a new life.
2006-12-13 23:28:02 · answer #6 · answered by Patricia D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your not doing anything wrong. Maybe he is doing something wrong. People sometime project themselves on you. Keep your eyes open. You sound like a nice girl check and see if there is anything suspicious.
2006-12-13 23:32:09 · answer #7 · answered by autocrazed2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why doesnt he trust you? Maybe HE is hiding something.....ya know most people who have low self-esteem who dont trust other's is because they dont trust themselves.
2006-12-13 23:28:05 · answer #8 · answered by roseupmylife 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww im sorry whats so bad that He doesnt trust you hun?
2006-12-13 23:26:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU SERIOUSLY NEED TO GET AWAY FROM HIM....
IF HE THINKS THAT YOU ARE CHEATING ON HIM.....
YOU SHOULD ASK HIM....
HE MIGHT HAVE OR IS CHEATING ON YOU AND HE THINKS YOU MIGHT DO WHAT HE DID TO YOU.....
ASK HM WHY HE DOESNT TRUST YOU......
TALK TO HIM.....
2006-12-13 23:30:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋