does god hate me, does he purposely set me up with screwed up women?

Question

i have been dating this one girl for about 3 weeks now and this is the first girl that i haven't slept with after like 2-3 days. its weird and last night we talking and sex just popped up she was asking me about my past sex experience so i asked her too. she told me that when she was married at like 20 she and he husband tried to have a baby but she wasn't fertile aor something and the doctor told her she is never going to be able to make one. and it's been like a year since her divorce already. anyways ever since then she said anytime she ever did it with a guy she never required them to use protection. she said she wouldn't care whether or not i use condoms. then i asked her if she was ever tested for anything she said NO. so we didn't do anything and won't because i don't want to risk my health, so should i break up with her? i don't want to bring this up with my friends.

Answer 1

God has nothing to do with your choice in women.
You are setting yourself up with these losers.
A good woman is like a well made cake and sex is the icing. If the cake isn't good then the icing won't make it any better.

I kinda believe that you will not like my response. But you asked a question that shows you do not have good judgement when it comes to picking women. That's okay. But if you do the same thing you will get the same results. In other words, if you pick the same kind of woman, you are going to get the same kind of personality.

Answer 2

FIRST OF ALL GOD DOESN'T HATE YOU!!!! don't ever think that.
Second of all good for you for not wanting to use unprotected sex with your girlfriend. No matter what always protect yourself. Females may say that they are on the pill or other things as not to get pregnant, and yeah that helps on not getting pregnant but doesn't protect anyone from contracting STD's. No matter what... think of you because if you don't who else is. If your girl doesn't care if you use a condom then what does that really tell you about her. She could already have something and she doesn't care to even go get herself checked. Stay smart and safe and move on. Let her move on as she is and continue to have unsafe sex. Only the smart ones use protection. What does that tell you about her. I think you already know what the smart thing will be, but you need some confirmation. DROP HER FAST.
Stay smart and keep doing what your doing to keep yourself safe.

Answer 3

I have a friend like that she always said she wouldn't use protection because she couln't have a baby. Now she is pregnant. Your girl should know that pregnancy is not the only reason that people use protection. You 2 should go and get tested together. There is no reason to break up unless you guys are having other problems. Do not let her past affect your future together.

Answer 4

Honestly hun... god has better things to do that then set us up with screwed up people... we can find them so much better on our own..

As far as the girl.. I would diffenately brake up with her. The reason for me is I havent gotten over that whole diagram they showed to us way back in sex ed class..

You know the one.. Sally slept with 2 people.. those people slept with 4 people each and those people slept with and those people slept with..blah blah blah.. By the time you are done she has done half the world and it just plan freaks me out.

So when I meet someone that really has had a huge number in their past and hasnt even BOTHERED to use condoms or try to protect themselves I JUST SAY NO! It may not win me the humanitarian award because I rejected someone on a trival habit.. but I'll be the one without STDs and AIDs in the end..

And let me tell you ... I CAN LIVE WITH THAT!

Answer 5

Ah -- my dear young hotone, it does not sound like she is "screwed up", just that she has lived a little. Ok, so maybe she is being stupid not using protection. Maybe nobody has ever taught her to care about herself. Caring about your own health sets a good example. So to your question -- here are two more: I guess you must really like her? Are you serious about her, why? If she is special then isnt she worth wearing protection for? Use a condom. Then, you can ask her to see a doctor, not for your own protection -- but perhaps because you care enough about her to want her to be healthy -- care for HER.

If that all sounds like to much to go through or bother with, then she isnt the right one, and its time to move on.

Answer 6

God doesnt hate if your having doubts trust it ..... move on its 2006 going on 07' tell her its not cool to live life at risk for some reason she cant have kids but why risk your life for moments of pleasure...theres always 2 sides to a story and who knows why she's no longer married some people dont tell the whole story it makes them look bad.... Respect your self and leave you have the signs dont say god didnt warn you..

Answer 7

Don't talk to your friends that is between you two. You go get tested...they do it for free at most hospitals if your test comes back clean count your blessings...To be honest with you I hate the idea of having to have your favorite guy wear protection...but how safe is it really? Why don't you offer to go with her and both go at the same time..Its not like they will check you in the same rooms...

Answer 8

I wouldn't break up with her, but I would use protection. Not to protect yourself from disease necessarily, but from getting her pregnant. I had two kids from a woman who was supposed to have a hard time getting pregnant, if ever. Plus, she said she was on the pill. So take it from somebody who is paying a sh*tload of child support, use protection.

Answer 9

I would use a condom if i was you! She probably can have children and wants them bad enough that she has to lie to you so you wont feel the need to use a condom. and there for she will get her children. But who knows these days people are crazy. you haven't been with her that long so you don't know what she is really like.

Answer 10

I think that you need to sit down with her and tell her that because she hasn't used protection that (we) as you and her should get tested together and if she refuses dump her or just don't have sex at all I know easier said than done but is it worth your life if she has something serious?