From what I understand, girls like boundaries and like a guy to keep them in line to prevent them from doing stupid and silly things. I think they also like knowing that if they throw a temper tantrum the guy is not going to fall for it and will discipline accordingly. I mean ladies - take away all the rhetoric about feminism and deep down inside don't you want a man to take charge?
2006-12-13 14:49:11 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You don't have a woman do you?
2006-12-13 14:54:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women like a man taking charge, but keep in mind: we're not 5 year olds, and this isn't 1950. Unless she has a serious problem, a grown woman isn't going to throw a temper tantrum and certainly isn't going to want or need to be "disciplined" by her "man". You can take a dominant role, but you're not in charge of her. Even if there is someone who enjoys parts scenario you described, eventually, everyone wants to feel like a person and an adult, not an object or a child. Additionally, no person capable of living independently should have to rely on someone else to "keep them in line." People learn from mistakes, and having someone else guide you through life by making your decisions for you won't help you, but will only set you back.
2006-12-13 22:56:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure there are some ignorant, insecure dipshit girls that need a man to validate themselves.
From what you understand, you seem to think females are children. Maybe the ones you date are, mentaly, children. A lot of guys like girls who are stupider than them because they're insecure and need someone to feel superior to.
This way they can fufil their cro-magnan need to create a family, kill to protect it and sire illegitimate offspring with younger women. While your ignorant, dipshit is off being inseminated by some other cro-magnan. Then you can come back and discover this and fight to the death.
This is, by the way, why there are so many stupid people. Stupid genes get arrrouuuunnndddd.
Personaly, I'm a grown up and if anyone expected or wanted me to control their lives, I'd kick them to the curb. I've got enough problems without some dufus who needs me to think for them.
I also wonder if the need to control the behavior of their mates isn't a sign of a small penis?
I mean, if you were well hung, you wouldn't need to worry about what she wore, where she went, and who her friends were. Or at least that's the perception. Maybe you're just afraid you're not.
Take all the rhetoric asside and all people aren't the same. Some are dumb trophys waiting for someone to club them and drag them off to their cave.
Some are intelligent, challenging partners who are actualy fun to be around, even when you're not copulating.
2006-12-16 21:52:54 · answer #3 · answered by socialdeevolution 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't want a man telling me what I can and can't do, because if I were to turn around and tell him what he can't or can do, he'd be like "well screw you." At least for me, I don't like for a man to take charge that much, but I do like for him to keep me in line and not do something I'll regret... but in a way that I know they really care and not that they're just trying to be manly.
2006-12-13 22:52:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh . . . NO! I take charge of my own life, and there are millions of other women who do, too. Any man who tells me what to do risks castration. The only boundaries for which I have any respect are the ones I set.
Now get your a-ss back in the kitchen and make me a sandwich . . . b-itch.
2006-12-13 22:57:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
not all girls are the same. some girls want the freedom to be in charge or their OWN life regardless of their man's opinions. some of us want to feel grown up and be independant to do what we want to, knowing that our guy TRUSTS us to handle things our way... some of us dont, they want to have a man to tell them what do to, wear, eat or whatever. as for me, i find to be very controlling and i wouldnt want a man who's a control freak, telling what i should or should not wear, what i can or cannot do or what i can eat or cannot eat. i want a life with a boyfriend or husband, NOT my MOTHER! but thats just me, others are different.... hope this helps!
2006-12-13 23:01:36 · answer #6 · answered by ishida25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Role playing occasionally is one thing.....but to believe that this kind of behavior is desired on a day to day basis is a HUGE misconception on your part. I've yet to find the man that I would play subservient 24/7 for.
2006-12-13 23:12:30 · answer #7 · answered by cynical1963 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but to a certain extent.
Boundaries are fine as long as they're defined without putting me down (i.e. "I think that shirt is too low, it makes me nervous that other guys will be looking at you," vs. "Take that shirt off, you look like a whore").
Also, I like boundaries (they let me know he cares), but I don't like when a man completely tries to control me.
2006-12-13 22:53:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lived for 34 years before I got married and I think I can pretty much make my own decisions on petty things. Major things, we both decide together.
2006-12-16 22:21:41 · answer #9 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To some extent, yes. I think it's hot, but it's not hot when a guy is telling you how to live every single aspect of your life. Be subtly controlling, if there is such a thing. :D
2006-12-16 22:43:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just tell my man to f*ck off!! plane and simple, no one and i mean no one tell me what the F*ck i can and cant do that is a sign of weakness you are your own boss and should listen to no one but yourself.
I know girls that are like that and they are weak and they know it!
2006-12-13 22:56:29 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋