I've done everything possible. She loves me but she doesn't think she's capable of being in love and she says if she were it would be with me . . .What can I do make her feel so special words can't describe the feeling?
2006-12-13 14:45:12 · 8 answers · asked by Average Joe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are wasting your time? you need to be loved, if you're not getting commitment from her she is either playing games with you or just likes having you around doing things for her she can't do on her own.
Some people would rather be with anyone than
no one, she doesn't love you, I got that part about you?
You can't make someone love you, they either do or they don't.
You need to move on because there is someone else out there who actually deserves and would appreciate the time and effort you obviously seem to be wasting on her.
2006-12-13 15:02:58 · answer #1 · answered by shepherdivynzac 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Joe, you cant "make her feel" anything. You can perhaps inspire, but that's about it. The only thing you can do is love her. Are you clear on why you love her? What it is about her that you love? How does she make you feel? What do you want from this relationship, what are you prepared to give (of yourself)? If you know that much... then you know everything.
Personally, there really isn't any difference between loving and being "in love" -- there is only love. Only the two of you will know if it is true or real. Hint: love means knowing that no matter what you two experience or go through, no matter what difference of opinion you may have, you will always, always find a way to communicate completely about it.
2006-12-13 22:55:55 · answer #2 · answered by Clear thinker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All depends on why she has a tough time with being loved. As she had guys in her past who have knocked her confidence in other guys? As she been cheated on etc? You just have to be yourself and show her that not all guys are the same.
If you love her, showing her you do should come naturally. But the way you feel about someone doesn't mean they'll feel the same for you. She says she loves you well that's a lot. What does she think the difference is between loving someone and being in love? You should ask her.
I didn't do anything to make my girl fall in love with me, I mean I didn't plan to make her fall in love with me, she just did because I'm 'me'. Just carry on showing her how much you care and love her and just be yourself. You can't make someone fall in love with you, they will fall in love with you because you are 'you'.
2006-12-13 23:07:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think she's just trying to spare your feelings (or her conscious). I think she doesn't like you enough. Let me put it another way. If
2006-12-13 22:53:31 · answer #4 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was exactly the same as the woman you're describing, then I met someone who changed everything for me, simply by being him. Eventually my feelings for him got really really strong, and everything he felt for me I could return to him. Now, I can't imagine ever being with someone else, he's made my life a million times better. I've told him to answer your question :)
But, just be yourself, show her you love her, and that she is worthy of you doing so. Show her that being in love CAN happen, and that it is very real, and she will learn to see for herself. When she does, she'll never want to let go of it :)
Goodluck to you both x x x
2006-12-13 22:52:37 · answer #5 · answered by tahanni 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is capable of love, some are just more cautious than others. I suspect she has been hurt in the past and is afraid that could happen again. My advice would be to be patient with her (yeh, I know that might not be easy) keep doing whatever you have been doing, and allow her to come to terms with things on her own. I also suspect she does love you, she's just not ready to admit it even to herself. Give it time & things might just work out for you.
2006-12-13 22:53:25 · answer #6 · answered by harlowtoo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could be wrong, but I'm betting she has been very hurt and trust is a big issue.
Be there when she needs you whether she asks or not. Romance her to show her that you care so much for her you will not give up.
Have you ever seen the movie "Phenomenon" with John Travolta? See if if you haven't. Then figure out what your lady's chairs are. You'll understand that if you see the movie. Buy her chairs.... which just means to figure out what's important to her and get it for her.... take her their.... experience it with her. Do whatever is appropriate to show her that what is important to her matters to you. Be fun, loving, caring, and most of all..... sincere. Women who have been hurt and have trust issues must have sincerity, or they will sense that you are just trying to get to her.... and not see it as a sign of love, but of conquest. She should know that you are doing this for love and not conquest... not to win the game. Be very very very very very sincere in all things!
Best Wishes,
Sue
2006-12-13 22:52:44 · answer #7 · answered by newbiegranny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to break it to you but you can't do anything more to make her fall for you ... thats gotta come from inside of her ... either she's "just not that into you" (sorry dude) or she has some issues that are blocking her from reciprocating fully and she needs to talk to a professional about how to overcome them .... good luck with it, K.
2006-12-13 22:54:35 · answer #8 · answered by K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋