Suicide?????????

Question

could the fact that i seen my brother shoot his self cause me to be crazy/depressed....

Answer 1

Not crazy but affected, sure.

Please seek help from a counselor.

Answer 2

You are not crazy. Your reaction is very normal. In your case, you have a double whammy. One, your brother killed himself. Two, you witnessed another person's violent death. Either would be enough to send a sane person into depression. Any cause of death of a friend or relative can cause someone to go into a "blue funk", as I call it.

Please talk to someone. Call your local crisis center or suicide hotline. They can refer you to a counselor, minister, etc. If the first person you speak with doesn't help, call again later and talk with one of the other counselors. Most of the people who answer the phones are volunteers and some are more knowledgeable than others, so keep trying.

Just to let you know that I am not talking through my hat, a very good friend of mine committed suicide several months ago. It was 3 months before I could go to sleep without the television on. Dark and silence gave me a kind of an eery feeling, so I seemed to need a bit of noise and light to get to sleep. Sometimes I still do.

I still think of my friend every day and wonder if there was any way that I or anybody could have helped. It is a hard thing to get over. I think, I write, I talk to friends, I talk to people online, I pray, meditate, I try to distract myself. But it is hard.

It does get easier. Peace and healing does come with time.

Email me at [e-mail] if you want to talk.

Good luck.

Answer 3

It *could*, but it's not a guarantee. Lots of other things make people depressed/crazy. Sometimes nothing at all. Sometimes it's clowns, or horses, or a particular smell or color. Who knows?

What I'm saying is that you're not destined for insanity. People die all the time--it's a fact of life. People kill themselves all the time too. This may have been extremely shocking to witness, and it is really painful to have a close relationship with the person, but human beings are also very resilient to stress, and I can't think of any reason why you won't make a full recovery.

Answer 4

Of course. Seeing that was very traumatic. I'm so sorry that you witnessed that. My heart goes out to you and I am sorry for your loss. I lost my brother 6 months ago and I still cry every day. I miss him, especially now around Christmas. I will say a prayer for you. I would strongly suggest you talk to a mental health therapist, or a grief counselor, or at least a close friend. My cousin's son was killed several months ago in a tragic industrial accident. He was crushed by a Bobcat front endloader. He was only 19. Just know that you are not alone in the tragic loss of your brother. There are a lot of good people on this site willing to offer their support. God Bless You. Just take it one day at a time.

Answer 5

People who commit suicide do it for sympathy, attention, and sometimes to hurt or control the people who care about them most. In otherwords, if he made sure you saw him when he did it, he did it to hurt you, don't immitate him. Make better choices, I'm not saying you should just forget about him, but he made an awful mistake, there is always different things to try, places to see, interesting people to meet, if you think things would be better, just take a vacation, or pack up, move and start over. I wouldn't suggest you live in the same place, or make your brother's room or belongings into some kind of shrine, it's good to remember the good things, the good times, forget all the bad. Life is always the better bet, death comes to all of us soon enough.

Answer 6

Of course trauma of this nature is very likely to cause situational depression as well as PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder). I would suggest finding a qualified therapist. The sooner you confront this event, the better your chances of normalizing your life again.

Answer 7

Any negative sudden or traumatic change in a persons life can trigger depression, it can take months, even years to get better if you don't get help as soon as possible.
Drugs with counseling will be the biggest help for you, very sorry to hear.

Answer 8

It can cause a lot of trauma to say the least. Suicide can run in families. My immediate family has had 5 suicides that I know of and several attempts. I myself came close to it before I sought treatment. Please see a counselor. I am sorry about your brother but we all must move on. Nothing but love to you.

Answer 9

Well sure. I wouldn't use the word crazy but depressed and probably some anxiety. Have you gotten any counseling?

This is a haunting memory that you will have to chose to NOT let it destroy you.

Make sure you take good care of yourself.

Answer 10

Sorry for your loss. You have been through some trauma and you need to have friends help you now. You are not crazy but who wouldn`t be depressed with anxiety after all you been through. Have one of your friends take you to your dr and he may be able to help you through this crisis okay?!!!

Answer 11

It definitely will impact your life, I can not even imagine living something like that, anyway that doesn't mean that has to define who you are forever, remember: people make choices. I believe temporarely for you is gonna be hard to be yourself like you were before this tragedy. If you feel like your depression period is getting worse look for professional help, you will be happy you did. Good luck!