my boyfriend's gotten drunk for a second time, and he knows that i don't approve alcohol, but i don't think he knows how much i disapprove of it. my parents have said, that if he keeps on drinking, that i can't date him. they already know that he got drunk once. he's over 18, and so am i (i'm 19 yrs old)---he was with his brother who's like 25 yrs old, the first time he got drunk, which was like over this past thanksgiving break.i don't know how to tell him, that it's either me or alcohol. i still live at home with my parents (we're both in our senior yr in high school), b/c i got held back a yr. we live 2 hrs apart, and he's been really busy, so i haven't been able to talk to him.i'll be able to see him most likely over x-mas break, but i love so much, and i just don't know how to tell him it's me or alcohol. we've been together now,for almost a yr and a half (it'll be a yr & a half on Dec. 29, 2006). i just don't know how to tell him,b/c i love him,& i know he loves me.ideas please?
2006-12-13 14:39:21 · 12 answers · asked by K.D. 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'm only worried about him, because he's kinda wild, and impulsive. i know he won't mean to get addicted to alcohol, but i can't help thinking that with his ways, he very well could get addicted. he gets into trouble a little regularly,& i don't want to get wasted, b/c why would in God's holy name would i want a hangover? i can't understand why people think, and personally, i think it's immature, (unless it's social) especially if you're getting drunk to just get drunk---which is what he said---i think.
2006-12-13 15:03:15 · update #1
if he loves you than this will prove it to you, he will pick you over the booze and he wont argue about it. You need to sit him down tell him how alcohol affects you and that you are so against it, tell him about what your parents said about it as well. Ask him if you could possibly give it up totaly for you or your parents wont allow this to go on, as well as you will be so happy with him for doing this because you dont want to be with someone who drinks. I know if he cares for you at all he will give it up, if he complains about it than theres something wrong with that picture, he really has a problem and the love that he says he has for you isnt as strong as his temptation for drinking. you deserve to be with someone who will give you his whole heart, and you should come frist not second.
2006-12-13 14:44:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely need to flat out talk to him about it. Let him know that you're concerned about him and tell him just how much you do disapprove of the drinking, and that he may be risking his relationship with you if he continues. I agree with you that getting drunk is not a wise decision. Occasional drinking (when over 21) is okay, but getting drunk puts yourself and others in danger because you can't always control your actions. I think that if he really loves you, he will put the relationship above the alcohol. If not, then he needs to get his priorities straight. There are safer (and more mature) ways to have fun than drink.
2006-12-13 14:52:29 · answer #2 · answered by sakura870611 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't make him choose between you or alcohol. Instead, tell him why you don't want him to drink. Tell him that you care for him and you love him. Give him examples where getting drunk can get him in trouble. Make him realized that it will do him no good. It won't be an easy process but if you love him you'll help him get over getting drunk. Maybe 1 bottle "occassionally" is fine and 2 the most.
2006-12-13 14:44:59 · answer #3 · answered by Confused Loner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once or twice a month? recover from it. human beings drink. Be fortunate that's not once or twice a week. you will possibly be a contolled and in charge guy or woman and drink often times. I dont comprehend the way it is confusing or something to be harm with the help of. that's not drugs. it ought to be plenty worse.
2016-10-14 21:59:28 · answer #4 · answered by didden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's only been drunk twice?!?!
You need to chill out a little bit... he's young, he's gonna experiment with stuff, especially drinking. And it's fun! As long as he doesn't become an alcoholic or cheats on you, I don't see a problem... maybe you should get wasted with him, and see how fun it is..
2006-12-13 14:44:29 · answer #5 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him you don't want him to drink.
Occasionally drinking, I think, it's fine. (Like social drink)
Just avoid those days that he's occasionally drinking.
But
if he starts to drink more and more (like drinking beer as a breakfast)
,and become an a**h*le or abuser.
Chances are he will do it again and again.
No matter how he says he would apologize for he's done.
Just break it off.....
2006-12-13 14:50:20 · answer #6 · answered by Nate K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just come right out and tell him that you don't approve of the drinking and he needs to make a choice.
2006-12-13 14:42:21 · answer #7 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lighten up.
what's your deal with drinking?
if it's something really personal, then i understand.
but if you never drank before, and your boyfriend is only drinking occasionally - chill. just don't hangout with him on those days, srsly. but if you really want him to stop (and your parents really shouldn't have any say in whether you can continue dating him or not) make the ultimatum real. don't just say it, do it.
2006-12-13 14:42:49 · answer #8 · answered by sarah d !! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you love him today, and that you want to spend time with him after he is ready.
Right now you are too mature for him.
2006-12-13 14:42:56 · answer #9 · answered by OhIdonno 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its nothing to worry about, unless hes been drinkin alot. then you might just say either me or booze. if he picks booze, he wasnt worth it.
2006-12-13 14:44:04 · answer #10 · answered by acampion2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋