Ok so I just found out that a guy ive known for 10 years likes me. Hes really sweet, nice and funny but I rejected him. Its not that hes un attractive or anything like that, but i just felf like it would be owkward, plus hes really not my type, hes a wee bit annoying because he calls like every hour and yeah. plus im like...in love with this other guy at school, lol. The problem is i feel guilty. plus he invited me to this dance on saturday..can you say odd? lol. idk, like now i see him different and i feel guilty and like i really dont want to talk to him anymore. Any advice on what to do and how to go about this!? PLEASE HELP! ALL AND ANY ADVICE WILL BE TAKEN!! Thanks!
2006-12-13 14:28:40 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just tell him the truth how you feel. Then move on with your life and he will do the same. Better to get it over with now than let it build more tension.
2006-12-13 14:41:09 · answer #1 · answered by Kenny T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think he's been your friend this whole time? He'll be ok. Boys will come and go. And so will the girls for him. And I promise he will never look so good to you as the day you see him in his first real relationship. That's when you'll wonder if you did the right thing. But you're young and you have to enjoy your life. So be nice. Stay friends with him but make it clear you have built a friendship with him that you don't want to lose by trying to date. If that doesn't work just tell him your new boyfriend is gonna kick his a** if he doesn't back off.
2006-12-13 14:38:26 · answer #2 · answered by jbsim75 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What has worked for me in the past was to keep distant in order to regain my bearings. It allows you to get a reference point away from her influence which you'll never do if you try to "remain friends". It does involve a lot of self discipline, perhaps even being cold to her, and it often means throwing yourself into some other activity, such as schoolwork. In the longer term you'll look back and realize it was the best move as a method to move on with your life and it, very often, opens new doors that you would not have discovered.
2016-05-23 23:09:16 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Less pain for him and for you if you are honest with him. "You are not my type, I do no feel comfortable with you calling me all the time." No reason to feel guilty! You're not required to like or love everyone. He may be sweet and funny, but he's obviously very bothersome to you or you would not write to us. Take a deep breath, look in the mirror to remind yourself that you really are a good person, and a person who has the right to chose her own friendships and relationships and set boundaries. If it hurts him then better now than later--
Good luck!
2006-12-13 14:39:45 · answer #4 · answered by Clear thinker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well choco sweets, just try to save the friendship. Be firm in ur position of just wanting to stay friends. If it makes you feel uncomfortable to be around him, take a time-out. You are here to make urself happy, not others. Don't let feelings of guilt ever cloud ur choices made. U owe him, or anyone else nothing.
2006-12-13 14:35:13 · answer #5 · answered by NIGHTSHADE 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
make yourself less available to his calls, if you do go to the dance with him explain it is just as friends and will never be anything more.
If he doesn't take the hint and keeps pushing then you would be best off cutting off all contact and when asks just tell him the pressure is to much and you feel the friendship was ruined by it.
2006-12-13 14:35:05 · answer #6 · answered by gypse76 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
okayy, all these people are telling you to "move on"
well hun, i know ITS NOT THAT EASY!
some people don`t know what they`re talking about.
haha! anyways, seriously, i know how you feel
& i know its hard. you can`t just FORGET about him
& move on to someone else. if it were that easy,
you wouldn`t have even posted this topic!
well, try taking your mind off of him, think of all the
wrong things with him, this really does help! =]
try to tell yourself you can do better [which you pry can]
& keep your head high, & know that there is gonna be
someone better for you in the future. eventually, you`ll
move on without even realizing it. <3
2006-12-13 14:32:45 · answer #7 · answered by Taylor. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He calls every hour? Stop leading him on, stop being so nice to him. Move on, there are a million guys you could fall in love with. Go where your kind of guys go, coffee shop, bar, church, school, etc., etc.
2006-12-13 14:33:16 · answer #8 · answered by bestbet77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe youre attracted to the person in some other ways. why don't you try in bed before moving on just to make sure you are not missing anything.lol
2006-12-13 14:32:31 · answer #9 · answered by Mike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that because you rejected him that you should scrap your friendship with him all together, becasue then he will feel even worse because he will be haunted with the regret of even tell you his feelings and it will scar him trust me
2006-12-13 14:33:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋