I had to let go of someone I Love very much.I keep thinking about all the things we did and time we spent together.I keep thinking that Im never gonna kiss her again or hold her again.I've been through this at least twice before and know that time heals but it feels so fresh as if its my first heartbreak all over again.I cant believe I can actually get to sleep but when I wake up its the worst.Its like the pain in my heart is my alarm clock and I know that its going to be another long day without her.My house is a mess,my bills are unorganized and my performance at work is slipping.Being Christamas season is really bad.What can I do to stay focused. I wish I could fast forward time to get past all this.I guess the point of a broken heart is to learn some lessons but I felt I did everything right.Anyone have suggestions on how to pass this time as best as possible?
2006-12-13 14:20:09 · 16 answers · asked by rock_roll_musicman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stay busy, don't wallow too long. Surround yourself with other people in your life that you have fun with.
2006-12-13 14:25:17 · answer #1 · answered by Candi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got to take it one day at a time. Intellectually, you know that you need to move on and you know that time heals. However.....knowing this doesn't help. You still feel empty. You still miss her and think about her ALL the time. She is imprinted on your mind. I went through pain of a broken heart similar to yourself, shortly before Christmas of 2003. So I do have empathy. I will tell you what I did to pass the time and get through my difficult heart break:
I started exercising regurlarly. I got a membership at a gym and went 4 or 5 times a week. Exercising really helps your body and spirit. You focus on working out, and it relieves stress, and also motivates you for your "future" love because you start to get in better shape.
I spent a lot of time with my family and friends. It's good to be around people. The worst thing is to be alone or idle too much. When you're alone, that's when your thoughts get the better of you and you keep thinking about the person you miss so much.
Do service for others. This may sound a little strange or even corny, but I found that helping people out helped ME as well as the people. For example: Helping a friend move, babysitting, giving a friend a shoulder to cry on....etc.
Lastly, do things you enjoy doing. If you love going to the movies, go to the movies. If you love eating out at a nice restaurant, do it! Just remember, you have to take it one day at a time. Every day gets a little bit easier. You may have a bad day here or there at first...but time will pass. A new love is the best thing to fix your broken heart, and it WILL happen down the road no matter how much you cannot imagine it to. Four months after my heart was broken, I spoke to my now husband for the very first time ever. The amazing thing is, after speaking to him only ONCE, I never thought of my ex-love again. I am now happily married with a beautiful daughter. Be strong, good luck, and take care :)
2006-12-13 14:43:33 · answer #2 · answered by newmum06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are too quick to give up these days on love, man. But look at it this way, one day you will be married. You will spend Christmas after Christmas with one person. You may have kids, maybe not. But one thing is certain, you will have a family you can't even imagine. Things will take on new meaning and your life will have new purpose. You will some day look back over your life and remember this time. Know that all your pain and heartache was just the pathway to your purpose. Pain is growth.
2006-12-13 14:29:12 · answer #3 · answered by jbsim75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know..broken hearts realy suck dont they..but i think most of us have been there at least once in there life..youve probably heard it b4..but TIME is a great healer..in the meantime..keep your self busy...put yourself into your work..or you may lose you job as well if your not focused...when at home...try to find something constructive to do..make something...go out to a gym or club...just keep your mind busy...then at bedtime..you will want to sleep...please believe me...time will heal your broken heart...you will love aghain..hopefully next time...your heart wont get brocken of hurt....god bless..and make sure you got somewhere to go at the christmas time...either with family or good friends..and enjoy yourself....PLEASE...
2006-12-13 14:27:23 · answer #4 · answered by free-spirit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said that you had to let go of some you love very much??? So she didn't let go of you then? Well if you are experiencing this much pain, you have made a terrible mistake and I'd go and get her back and work on the problems that made you let her go.
2006-12-13 14:23:39 · answer #5 · answered by applecheeks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Busy yourself. Go for walks in the park, play with your pet, and take time for yourself. Do things that you enjoy. Try to be happy. Broken hearts don't heal overnight, and sometimes we wish that they did.
2006-12-13 14:23:21 · answer #6 · answered by Rewind 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant earse the pain just work through it, find ur best chick friend ( not the one ur talking about) and talk to her about how you feel. as far as ur house try taking time off work and really cleaning ur house, paying ur bills and try making cards for peeps xmas presnts. i know it feels like u'll never love again but trust me you will.
2006-12-13 14:23:35 · answer #7 · answered by shortsagitarius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SOP THINKIN BOUT HER!!! dont you see that is y you feel like this, go out and litrally "get a life", join a sprt, hang with friends, dont jus mope around about a lost cause
2006-12-13 14:23:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how sad it is to be in your situation...
well thats love..no matter how you try to forget her you just cant..right??coz of the fact that you love her still...and you just don't know why..well..i really don't know what to say..but i believe time will heal the wound...i know you can get over it as soon as you want it to be..sometimes its just psychological...you know..
you have to take it easy..besides..you had lived long before you met her..so now that she's gone you can live just as normal as the time when you haven't met her yet...
2006-12-13 14:28:34 · answer #9 · answered by yucanzee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothin' eases the pain like Scotch on the rocks.
2006-12-13 14:22:21 · answer #10 · answered by PS 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋