i just found out one of my friends, celena is not a virgin anymore. she lost it on friday to one of my other not as close but still friends trey, and it grosses me out. celena is only 12 and she is cheating on my other friend logan. logan doesnt know it yet. he is in 6th celena and trey are in 7th. trey is really upset that he did it and regrets it. if my mom finds out i probably cant be friends with celena anymore. i found out at recess today. it freaks me out because i was just talkin to her at lunch. im really worried and i dont think i should be friends with her anymore. no. im not gonna. but now here is the question. should i tell her boyfriend he is being cheated on. her bf, logan is one of my friends and i feel horrible about not telling him. should i?? im positive he doesnt know, and celena is trying hide it from him. i really want him to know. should it tell?
2006-12-13 14:19:45 · 11 answers · asked by Rita 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think this is really simple... grow up and mind your own business :) :) :)
2006-12-13 14:32:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good lord, you guys are all really young to be having sex. You're still having recess for christs's sake. I'm not trying to preach, either, because I'm all for free love - if you do it right. In some places your friend Celena would still be an elementary schooler. Isn't that a creepy thought? Lecturing aside, just because she made a stupid decision doesn't mean you should stop being her friend. Sex is a very big decision, and right now, she might need you most. The unfortunate thing about your parents finding out is that this is a very, very serious issue I'm sure neither of them thought about: both parents (unless Trey is older, you didn't specify his age, http://www.ageofconsent.com can help you out there), if they found out, could press statutory rape charges, seeing as they're both under the age of consent. God forbid she gets pregnant from the ordeal. Suffice to say, it's not really your place to tell her boyfriend about what happened: it's not your relationship. It's really hard to be tight-lipped, especially when you're all friends and you care about him, but IF you take on the responsibility of telling him, you'd better be prepared to take on full responsibility - that is, the possibility of Celena being mad at you, Logan being mad at you, or Trey being mad at you, and whatever would result. You should have a discussion with Celena about all of this, try to be there for her. Tell her how you feel about all of it and what you think she should do, but make sure you say it in such a way that she doesn't feel like you're telling her what to do.
2006-12-13 22:35:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to be in a situation like that because if you tell her boyfriend she'll get mad at you. On the other hand, if you don't then her boyfriend will get mad at you. I guess it's wise to just stay out of their business or you might want to try talking to Celena. Tell her that she better be honest with Logan before he finds out from other people what happened between her and Trey.
I'm positive that if your parents hear about that, they will ask you not to get close or even talk to Celena anymore.
2006-12-13 22:30:20 · answer #3 · answered by Confused Loner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all shes 12 and lost her virginity!!!! holy crap tell her to keep her pants on she so young still. Yes i would tell him it is your duty as a friend to be honest, and if he found out that you knew and didn't tell him, he might not want to be your friend any more, or not trust you... tell your friend celena that she is too young to be having sex, and that she should wait until she is older and in a healthy relationship
2006-12-13 22:34:04 · answer #4 · answered by Molly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow all of you are in the 7th grade and the relationship wouldnt last anyway since it is based on sex. (which really shouldtnt be happening). Go ahead and tell coz it doesnt matter.....but it may hurt his lil feelings, and most friends dont want to hurt their friends.
2006-12-13 22:26:45 · answer #5 · answered by cutie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well since you no longer want to be friends with her I would go ahead and do that. while your at it you should also tell her parents because 12 is WAY to young to be having sex.
2006-12-13 22:23:56 · answer #6 · answered by sweet sweet me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont wanna be friends with her anymore, why bother telling other people her secrets? Just let them be. You'll only make it worst.
2006-12-13 22:23:10 · answer #7 · answered by Kate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who are you more loyal to? Her or logan? You know the answer now
2006-12-13 22:25:29 · answer #8 · answered by miss_lonely911 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wth..that ain't right. losing your virginity at 12. your friends seriously need help. i guess you should tell her
2006-12-13 22:24:05 · answer #9 · answered by Chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yah tell her bf
2006-12-13 22:22:10 · answer #10 · answered by Tara 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋