I live with my boyfriend and his two guy friends. Everything is great except he plays videogames pretty all the time. I would like some suggestions on how to get him to cool it with the video games but not seem like a nag or like i am telling him what to do. Also i have offered "alternatives" if you know what i mean and that doesn't work he is just like i cant right now the guys are around. Thanks!
2006-12-13 14:00:54 · 24 answers · asked by Minerva 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We are all in college and i can neither afford to move out nor do i want to. Also i have tried to play but it turns out i can not play first person shooters ie halo or socom. I do play the Wii with him.
2006-12-13 16:17:54 · update #1
As a gamer myself, I know that when you're into it, few things apart from your own pants spontaneously igniting can tear you away (and even then sometimes). That said, expecting him to pass up gaming when you throw in his buddies? Forget about it. Testosterone takes over, and with that comes competetiveness. God forbid he miss a chance to be the champ, or worse, look like he has no power in your relationship. Sometime in private, have a serious discussion about how you feel. Make sure to mention that you don't have anything against him gaming, just that you would like it if he'd balance things a little better. If he's the type to feel like you're attacking him and get defensive, make sure you emphasize how it makes you feel as opposed to focusing on what he's doing wrong. You may also, if you're close enough to them and trust them enough to take you seriously, try talking to his friends (preferably in private, see above note about testosterone). If they are at all understanding, perhaps they could help your plight. Another thing to try, if the idea doesn't appall you, would be to look into gaming *with* him. He might not say it, but he'll think it's awesome that you share and respect his interests. This might give him motivation if the occasion arises to participate in something *you* enjoy that he would normally refuse. Plus, everyone knows girl gamers are awesome.
2006-12-13 14:15:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like that song from Kiss called Beth.
BETH
KISS
(Peter Criss)
Beth I hear you calling
But I can't come home right now
Me and the boys are playing
And we just can't find the sound
Just a few more hours
And I'll be right home to you
I think I hear them calling
Oh Beth what can I do
Beth what can I do
You say you feel so empty
That our house just ain't our home
I'm always somewhere else
And you're always there alone
Just a few more hours
And I'll be right home to you
I think I hear them calling
Oh Beth what can I do
Beth what can I do
Beth I know you're lonely
And I hope you'll be alright
'Cos me and the boys will be playing all night
Seems like you should seriously consider getting a new boyfriend.
2006-12-13 14:06:59 · answer #2 · answered by marklemoore 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well the problem is that you live with your boyfriend with TWO GUY FRIENDS....Not really the smartest move. Your kind of out numbered....too much testosterone. I think that is a situation that your going to have to deal with first. Take a breath, take a stand, and get your own place. Then tell him that when he is serious about being with you and not his friends, he can come over to your place. The great part about that is...It's your place. You can tell him when to leave too. Let him know your serious. Dont just say it and then not do it....take it from Nike.....Just do it
2006-12-13 14:06:46 · answer #3 · answered by katwage13827 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it depends some guys quit playing videogames after a while and some are addicted to them find the kind off guy that may spend 30minutes to 1 hour playing and is done for the day to do stuff with you
2016-03-13 06:42:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best advice is move out. Seriously. You are in a bachelor pad and that is the way it's going to stay. If you want less video games, move out. He can come with if he wants but the buddies cannot. If he wants anything out of the relationship he will come with. He can come visit you in your game free zone if he wants to be with you. He is never going to stop playing completly, and you shouldn't ask him to, but a little attention your way isn't out of the question.
Explain to him how you feel, and explain your situation.
2006-12-13 14:04:49 · answer #5 · answered by tryingmybest79 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a doctor to tell him that he is dying and he should spend his time more productively.Technally this is not a lie as we are all dying some just faster than others.Explain to him that it is more fun to snowboard on a mountain than to buy video game about it.Last take his video game to a pawn shop and trade it for a old atari system
2006-12-13 14:12:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good grief! He'd turn down sex for video games? He's sick in the head. Maybe if you try to get him to work out or something. Pull him aside and tell him that you miss him and want him to pay attention to you. It's aggravating to see guys who shouldn't have girlfriends in relationships while guys who would appreciate the company are left out in the cold. Good luck!
2006-12-13 14:08:29 · answer #7 · answered by anonymous 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My poor daughter in law has the same problem with my son, sorry, I dont know if they grow out of it since we didnt have video games when we got married, but my hubby watches all kinds of sports year around and it is just as bad, so good luck. Men ...cant live with them cant live with out them.
2006-12-13 14:04:34 · answer #8 · answered by Grandma of six 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let him be. guys want some down time just like gals, so the best thing would be maybe just cheer for him or something while he's playing. Most guys don't like nagging.
2006-12-13 14:05:04 · answer #9 · answered by Eli Z 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to him about it. Tell him you don't want him to stop playing them, but you want a little attention too...
My b/f plays video games a lot and I talked to him about it and he doesn't play them when I'm around anymore...
2006-12-13 14:08:39 · answer #10 · answered by F.J. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋