Extreme shyness?

Question

Ok, this may sound stupid, but I'm finding myself too shy to make a MySpace... Well, correction, I have one, but I've been avoiding the subject of giving it out to anyone at work or contacting a lot of the kids that I grew up with, because I think that they'll think I'm a loser, now...

I don't have many friends (was homeschooled, and just didn't have may ops), and, I always think that when people find out the "real" me, they're pretty much gonna hate me. Plus, I feel like whatever I write on there sounds stupid anyway...

And don't get me started with pictures! I've searched the kids that I grew up with, and almost all of them look better than me...
They're pretty, busty, have tons of friends, and are just so different than me...
The girls at work are WAY prettier than me, but I've learned to deal with that...
Anyway, are my fears irrational? How can I talk myself out of avoiding everyone everywhere?

I wanna break out of my shell, but I feel trapped...

Answer 1

I think that's pretty irrational, but I find myself thinking some of the same things every now and then... and here's what I tell myself: Life is too short to worry about what other people think... and they're not going to talk about how they're better than you for hours on end because they have better things to do. They're not gonna waste their time picking you apart, so who cares... worrying that much about stuff like that is almost conceited.

Anyway, that's what keeps me from not caring, and I'm pretty shy, too... but that won't get rid of your shyness altogether b/c there have been studies that suggest shyness is a trait... I don't know how accurate that is, but it's been taught in a couple of my classes...

Answer 2

Oh, I understand. I used to have chronic myspace shyness, check the myspace faq's, there's a way that you can have it so it doesn't show comments or how many friends you have. Find a cute profile making website, a cute picture of yourself and make it reflect you in a way you wouldn't be embarassed of. I have one picture of myself on my myspace, it's set to private, no comments or anything shown, and it says pretty little about me but in a really cute font.
And no one's going to know if you're shy online, just do it. I still suffer from internet shyness more than in person shyness, just because it's always new and unfamiliar, but sometimes there's a logical reason for us to be shy, and sometimes there isn't, and determining that is the hard part. Think positive!

Answer 3

You have an inferiority complex! Before you break out of your shell, get some help from a mentor, a doctor, or the parent your closest to. Have a heart to heart talk with your pastor, if available. Do not let this feeling go on too long! You will endanger yourself if you become depressed and lonely, and decide to escape all the good things you have been taught about life from your parents. You feel you have been out of the mainstream of life because your homeschooling has as you feel, robbed you of normal things that others have enjoyed by going to school, and the proms. You might let yourself become manic depressive, or you might develope an obsession with perfection or always washing your hands. This is serious stuff! Get some help, and be very honest about the things you feel are keeping you from being happy!

Answer 4

First off, why do you want to make a my-space page? I'm on it to keep in touch with siblings/cousins and live through their young years. I do not give my page out to co-workers as I don't want them in my private life. So I have it on private not public use.
Have fun with your page...pick your interests/dislikes..photos can be silly/fun not serious. Are you looking to have others for romance? Connect with those old friends?
Who cares if they look better than you in your opinion. People will like you for you, and if people are that into looks do you want to be a part of that crowd?
Good luck and be proud of who you are....we are all different to make this world more interesting...not boring by being all the same! Enjoy surfing the myspace pages...see where they take you..don't just accept anyone as your friend just for the numbers. Have fun! Break out of your shell....plus if you don't like your page...edit it! This just might be the small stepping stone for you get out of your shyness...

Answer 5

Well first off, you need to stop assuming you know what others will think. Let them decide. Be proud of who you are. A my space is a good idea. You can meet alot of people that way but be cautious too.
Break away sweety, get it out there. Go to a movie, walking out of a movie there is always conversation in the line going out and that is what you want to get into . talk about the movie, you may catch one who wants to talk a bit more outside. Dont go with anyone, just make friends.

You can do this. I know you can. I see a very smart fun loving person. Good luck.

Answer 6

Just don't!

Delete that myspace thing. Get off yahoo answers. Go out there and meet people. Who cares what your old friends look like? Try something new. Sign up for volunteering, or dance classes, or whatever your in. Having done something or having something to say will make you way sexier than any of those girls.

For what you say about sounding stupid... Well, i don't know you. But even if it's true that people would hate you, why would you care?

Answer 7

Just base your whole page on the intent of making friends and don't put up your pics until you feel more comfortable with it. There's a lot of people who set their page to private so that only the people they want can access their page. You send out your invitations and just wait for the replies to come back. And I can relate to how you feel about feeling trapped. I listened to that voice long enough to figure out where it was coming from. That dark source is easy to recognize. You have power over it, believe me. Some of the most beautiful people I know felt the same way once. Stop being so hard on yourself.

Answer 8

i felt that way once before too but believe me it won't last as long as you think it is going to last.
Try to go out and meet new people and that is where you are going to start. Take it slow and easy and don't try to pressure to much. In no time you will have tons of friends and you will be willing to do a lot of things that you thought you could not do when you were such a shy person. Take it from a person who knows.

Answer 9

First of all, you need to have confidence and faith in yourself. You ARE an interesting, intelligent, and beautiful person. All these attributes are subjective - remember that - so, though you may not fit into the categories of other people, there ARE people out there who will find you to be an AMAZING person.

I always say, be yourself. You may be "different," but so is everyone else. We are all unique, that's what makes us all so great!

Answer 10

no, your fears arent irrational. everyone, even the popular and pretty ones have those fears. i used to be like you, too shy to speak up or make a splash so people saw. then something changed. i started listenning to the band oasis. ok now hear me out. i was mesmerised by liam gallagher. he had this extreme confidence that verged on arrogance. he didnt care what people thought bout him, as long as he knew that he was the bees knees. make sense? you gotta believe in yourself that no one is better then you, whether they are prettier, richer, have more friends etc. they will never be like you. the more you tell yourself this, the more you believe it. trust me it works. hope this helped!