Ive been in this relationship for 4 going on 5 years with this girl. Shes everything i want from being smart to being respectful and reserved. The only problem is that i was her first boyfriend (serious also). Im always home for her cept thurs-saturday for work, im 21, ive been supportive of her, ive treated her literally like a princess, and ive been faithful/honest throughout. but sometimes she does things that hurt me.. like for example, i havnt talked to her in like a week because of work and her school schedule, we finally get a chance to talk on my last day off and i find out shes been out with some chick friend of hers pretty much all day/night..i dono why that hurts.. i guess kuz we've been telling eachother we miss eachother badly every like 5 mins we actually got to talk that week. Thats pretty much the extent of what she does. lil things like that that get to me i guess their called little let-downs.We dont really see eachother since its long distance. Is it just me..?
2006-12-13 13:51:58 · 15 answers · asked by lodidodii 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ive been in this relationship for 4 going on 5 years with this girl. Shes everything i want from being smart to being respectful and reserved. The only problem is that i was her first boyfriend (serious also). Im always home for her cept thurs-saturday for work, im 21, ive been supportive of her, ive treated her literally like a princess, and ive been faithful/honest throughout. but sometimes she does things that hurt me.. like for example, i havnt talked to her in like a week because of work and her school schedule, we finally get a chance to talk on my last day off and i find out shes been out with some chick friend of hers pretty much all day/night..i dono why that hurts.. i guess kuz we've been telling eachother we miss eachother badly every like 5 mins we actually got to talk that week. Thats pretty much the extent of what she does. lil things like that that get to me i guess their called little let-downs.We dont really see eachother since its long distance. Is it just me..?
2006-12-13 14:08:13 · update #1
sorry about the double post ^
anyway, no im not clingy or anything i tell her if she wants time to her friends then atleast say so, so i dont get worried about her (ever since she ended up in the hosp awhile back i get kinda worried).. its been long distance but weve seen eachother a couple times, all we ever do was talk, but its just theirs always these lil let downs.. i never get mad at her for them but i dont really tell her it hurts me until she forces it outa me heh.. but even then i dont like to tell her because i just want her to be happy...isnt that what every guy wants his girl to be? anyway i dono how i do but i do treat her like a princess.. shes even told me... maybe i am to clingy huh? maybe i should start just worrying for myself and not wanna talk to her? i mean do girls really want a guy who wants to spend time with them? not every single second but ya know what i mean.. but how is it to clingy to wanna spend time with your lover on a your day off?
2006-12-13 14:14:10 · update #2
too close too soon is a book about statistics perhaps that will begin to give you some clues....also there are some books about courtship, and some insight can be gained by those. These books are easy reads...anytime in life there is a dilemma...there are books for reference, research and solutions...The Word of God
is a great road map, but every 5 min. re-assuring yourself- and each other is over the top! Long distance relationships are hard but it is a great way to force yourselves to trust and focus on the
other things that need to be done, you sound like a fair person, and you seem to be reasonable, surely your feelings are worth the effort to open a few good books. You need to get something on the ball...try a sport, or swimming, or something that will help you get some fresh air and exercise so your head will be clear to make some good decisions about this relationship
2006-12-13 14:04:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you answered your own question..Its long distance. Since you are 21 I take it that she is about the same. Long distance relationships can be very hard on a person especially when young. They do not give you that chance to know the person you are dating the way you would want to. She is probably feeling lonely and too young to be staying home or waiting for a chance phone call. So you see, it is not you , it's just the distance.
2006-12-13 14:10:19 · answer #2 · answered by Val 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen, you are a good guy
if this girl is worth to you as much as she seems to, she will come around
try and ask her to go out some time you know or think she will be free, and keep asking her even if she says no (like if not thurs, then fri or sat.) you just have to make sure you are not clingy (only ask her for one week and if she cant do it, let it go)
if after a month she seems to not want to make time for you, then let it go
it may be hard but you will be able to find someone else where as she might not if she is so flaky
she says she misses you alot, so she should actually make time for you!!
2006-12-13 13:59:42 · answer #3 · answered by Smile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you two discuss being exclusive with each other? Do you trust each other? Sounds like a simple thing that the two of you can work out together, talk, talk, talk, when you get the chance to. Tell her what you're feeling, it won't always be like this-a long distance relationship.
2006-12-13 13:57:20 · answer #4 · answered by Boots4ACowgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not just you. Long distance doesn't work. You can try telling her about what's bothering you, I guess. But if I were you, I wouldn't expect too much. I predict you will need to break up with her soon. Good luck!
2006-12-13 13:55:40 · answer #5 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When schedules clash it makes it hard on both. If she did not know you were gonna be off or had these plans for girls nite, then she has to go. You both need to sit down with your schedule and see what can be accomplished. Lunch dates, early dinner or weekend time. it can be done if y ou both want it.
2006-12-13 13:57:47 · answer #6 · answered by wingedladyk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you are being good to her, but how are you treating her like a princess if its long distance? well i say that long distance relationships dont usually work out so isk what to say!
2006-12-13 13:56:49 · answer #7 · answered by vbtracksbrox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lack of self-awareness is truly instrumental to those lacking the fundamentals...(its fun-for-mentals)
2006-12-13 13:59:51 · answer #8 · answered by rick g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's she supposed to do Mr. Insecure, wait patiently at home for you and knit socks?
2006-12-13 13:55:16 · answer #9 · answered by Doc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have u ever heared that saying u can look but u cant touch every looks if he didnt thats not normal and every man like porn if they didnt they are chatting bul
2016-05-23 22:55:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋