I'm 23 yrs old virgin, sometimes I feel embarrassed when people ask questions that got something to do with virginity, it makes me even more scared to have sex, first of all I don't want to fool around, but I'm going to be very nervous and embarassed when I get to have sex for the first time maybe when I'm married. Am I thinking too much or what? Anyone nice to give out some advices about this embarassment? Thanks.....
2006-12-13 13:45:27 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks guys, I really appreciate all your comments!
2006-12-13 13:56:30 · update #1
listen sista, don't you be embarrased. I lost my virginity at 25 and that because I married the guy Ilost it with! I didnot follow peer pressure, I did what was best for me and that is following my principles until reaching my goal!
my advice to you is to do it when you feel it's right. you'll be glad you did.
because following your own advice makes you a "kick your butt" chic!!
like me
2006-12-13 13:50:00 · answer #1 · answered by alizelatina41 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are over thinking it. I was 24. 23 is not too old. "My" guy knew it was my first time. I knew he had had a serious girlfriend before. We liked and respected each other & he was understanding and did not go on an ego trip about bagging a virgin. I knew we probably would go our separate ways after having a bit of fun. That is the thing we both knew it and excepted it. We were not looking for a commitment but still it did not seem like all we had was sex. If you need to be madly in love first that is admirable. If you find someone that you feel you could still respect 20 yrs from now even if it did not work out. Go for it. You want it to be in a nice private place though plan it a little but no too much. Do not get hung up on the "I saved my flower just for you" stuff. If a guy is the kind who thinks that it is ok for a guy to have slept around but a wife must be virginal avoid him like the plague. You need someone who will treat you as every bit his equal. Not a little doll to put up on a pedestal. That is the trap. You can easily fall from that height and get hurt or worse get knocked off. You are a 21st Century woman. My Dad's shocking advice to me and I will pass on to you " IF YOU CAN NOT BE GOOD , BE CAREFUL" I hope you will be able to pass that on someday.
2016-05-23 22:45:19 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are over thinking it. I was 24. 23 is not too old.
"My" guy knew it was my first time. I knew he had had a serious girlfriend before.
We liked and respected each other & he was understanding and did not go on an ego trip about bagging a virgin. I knew we probably would go our separate ways after having a bit of fun. That is the thing we both knew it and excepted it. We were not looking for a commitment but still it did not seem like all we had was sex.
If you need to be madly in love first that is admirable. If you find someone that you feel you could still respect 20 yrs from now even if it did not work out. Go for it. You want it to be in a nice private place though plan it a little but no too much.
Do not get hung up on the "I saved my flower just for you" stuff. If a guy is the kind who thinks that it is ok for a guy to have slept around but a wife must be virginal avoid him like the plague. You need someone who will treat you as every bit his equal. Not a little doll to put up on a pedestal. That is the trap. You can easily fall from that height and get hurt or worse get knocked off. You are a 21st Century woman.
My Dad's shocking advice to me and I will pass on to you " IF YOU CAN NOT BE GOOD , BE CAREFUL" I hope you will be able to pass that on someday.
2006-12-13 14:10:52 · answer #3 · answered by CAE 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was a virgin until 30 when I married my husband of 40, 17 years
ago this month. When people would find out especially in High
school that I was a virgin, they would find it strange. I didn't want to have sex with just anyone. I wanted sex with the man that loved me and only me. In other words making love not just having sex. I knew he was the one, and it happened one month before we married and honestly I thought I would be nervous just like your feeling, but when it's the one trust me nervous is the last thing you'll even think or feel that goes for the embarassed part too. Don't worry and Power to You!
2006-12-13 14:03:30 · answer #4 · answered by art_girlt 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're definitely thinking too much. I'm a little younger than you (21), and I'm a virgin. It doesn't bother me. People are cool with it. Some think it's kinda funny, but I think it will make my marriage in the future that much more intimate if I save my virginity until then. I might change my mind if I meet the right woman, but I am definitely not going to have sex before I at least get into a VERY serious relationship. Good night!
2006-12-13 13:51:24 · answer #5 · answered by anonymous 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Still a virgin. Good for you. Don't be embarrassed, be proud. It's no ones business if you are a virgin or not. When someone asks about it, just smile and change the subject. Don't feel pressured to fool around. When you meet, date and marry that special guy, you won't be embarrassed.
2006-12-13 14:05:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was 27 when I lost mine. There are a few older virgins out there. Your future husband will understand and will probably appreciate the fact that you waited. I wouldn't worry about it too much. If you're ready, the first time shouldn't be that bad. Mine didn't hurt, but sometimes it does. Your future husband will know to be gentle and go easy. When that time comes, make sure you relax and use a lot of lube.
2006-12-13 13:51:20 · answer #7 · answered by First Lady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm the same age and still one, too.
I don't fret or worry about it.Some people are shocked when they find out, but I could care less; it's nothing to feel embarrassed about. I think most people are scared when it comes to their first time.. thinking about it way before it happens and making yourself nervous about it, may only make the actual experience worse if you're too tense. Hopefully, the guy will try to put your mind/fears at ease when it's time.
In the meantime, relax :)
2006-12-13 13:56:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are thinking to much about it don't worry it will happen when it happens you will know when you are ready. There is to much pressure on people anymore to have sex. When the time is right you will have sex, it maybe next week it may not be till you get married. So just let nature takes it course and stop worrying about it.
2006-12-13 13:50:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't you be embarrassed one bit. There are so many people who are regretting losing thier virginity and that is something you can never get back. Don't worry about being embarrassed during your first time- hopefully its with someone who truly loves and respects you and will do what they can to make you feel comfortible. Hey- at least you don't have to worry about STDs, AIDS or HIV.
2006-12-13 13:54:15 · answer #10 · answered by nappyhappiness 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋