Has anyone experienced bad luck in their marriage by getting married by a judge rather than a priest/pastor/rabbi etc? Just wondering...Serious answers only please.
2006-12-13 13:42:16 · 34 answers · asked by bookworm1171 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I was married by a judge. My marriage lasted 6 weeks.
2006-12-13 13:43:40 · answer #1 · answered by tricia m 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I was married first by a judge and then later in a church. Our marriage has lasted 18 years. The judge or the church would depend on your lifestyle and your faith. In my opinion it is not how you are married that will determine if it will last. One secret of many to a long marriage is a willingness by both people to be open with one another. If you can do that you have a better chance of making it last. Good luck and Wish you the best.
2006-12-13 13:48:47 · answer #2 · answered by Patrick B 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was married by a Marriage Commissioner, female. I don't think that ANYTHING that occurs on your wedding day has anything to do with how your marriage will turn out. Marriage is not about THAT DAY. It is about how you relationship develops from that day forth and if something goes wrong, it is not because you were married by a judge instead of a minister. Either way it would turn out the same. The success of a couples' marriage cannot be placed on who married them, where they got married, on which day, or what type of flowers you chose. It is MUCH deeper than that and it is ultimately dependent upon the couple and how they grow into their marriage together AND apart.
2006-12-13 13:51:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My brother's first marriage 13 years ago was a huge church wedding and large reception. The bride's mother wanted a big society wedding for her daughter, and it didn't seem to matter who the groom was. In fact, when the wedding announcement was posted in the city newspaper, her photo appeared alone, without the groom. Of the 24 wedding announcements reported that day, her photo was the ONLY ONE posted without the groom! Needless to say, the marriage was a nightmare and was over within a year.
My brother's second wedding was in front of a justice of the peace. He and his wife have been married 7 years, and have a wonderful marriage and 2 beautiful little boys.
My point? It doesn't matter WHERE you get married, but it does matter TO WHOM you get married!
Oh, and by the way: when his family travelled to her homeland of Colombia a few years ago, her mother and father had them married before a priest.
2006-12-13 13:50:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was married both times by a judge I was married 32 yrs the first time and I was lucky enough to find a great man and fall in love again
Luck doesn't make a marriage People do; know your mate and make sure he knows you and promise to love and respect each other even when you don't like each other and believe me there will be times when you don't like each other but that's OK it doesn't last, as long as you know marriage takes work and you love each other and want to be together in the long run you won't need luck and it won't matter who officiates
2006-12-13 14:00:02 · answer #5 · answered by pokey's gumby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In a church by three priests! Must have worked out, because we are married over 17 years, and it gets better all the time!
2006-12-13 23:57:50 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We got married at a court house by a judge, been married 6 1/2 years and it was fine. I always wanted a big wedding, to wear a gown, and all that foo-foo stuff, but we saved a TON of money. We had a pig roast reception the next day, casual. About 100 guests came, they all commented on the fact they liked it because it was layed back, relaxed, comfortable, not at all stuffy. We still had our "bride-groom" dance, wedding cake and all that jazz.
2006-12-13 13:55:45 · answer #7 · answered by mommatorachel 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well..I'm catholic and I married a girl who is United. We don't have a problem in that sense...the marriage isn't the best. We were married in the United church. My wife's sister was married by justice of the peace. They've been married for a long time now...they had a rocky marriage also.
I don't think it matters where you marry or how. I think it has everything to do with respect and friendship. Your wife has to be your best friend....I married someone who would rather go out with he sisters than go out with me...We've changed. I like a nice walk on the beach where my wife would rather have a party on the beach with a bunch of friends. (our interests have changed)
2006-12-13 13:55:26 · answer #8 · answered by steve 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Married by a judge. My husband and I had been together for 6 years, getting married was about us, not about the wedding or the colors and etc... We also chose not to register for gifts or tell our family about it. It was so fun! We had a summer time BBQ at our house the day after our secret wedding, when everyone showed up we had a wedding cake and pictures to surprise them. Weddings can be so stuffy and people feel obligated to buy gifts and spend so much money. Cake, dress, BBQ, Judge fees all included we spent $300 and LOVED it. Best of our marriage was about us... and us only!
2006-12-13 13:48:14 · answer #9 · answered by MellieDazzle 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We got married by a judge when I was 17 (my mom signed for me), then three months later (I was 18 by then) went through with the big Catholic church (full mass) ceremony and reception that his parents wanted. That was 31 years ago. It's not really the place/venue. It's the commitment of the parties involved and a deep and abiding love and caring for one another.
My folks were married by a justice of the peace in 1955, we lost mom in 2001 and my dad is still lost without her.
2006-12-13 13:50:35 · answer #10 · answered by Sis 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋