I feel like my life has beaten the hell out of me, and i lost the girl of my dreams, and i am in the army. i just need some advice, help or something to get me to feel alive again. it feels like im not supposed to be in love, or something like that.
2006-12-13 13:39:19 · 16 answers · asked by pvtbaird11 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Love isn't nice. It doesn't make you feel good. It doesn't make things OK.
But we want it. We all do. It's the one thing we lose time after time and hope for again.
When we lose love, lose a job, lose a fortune we know, we can choose to see that we were never meant to keep all that we own in the first place.
We can give it back gracefully or we can loose it pulling and tugging all the way.
I encourage you to open your hand. Let it go. An empty hand is the only way to be free to love again. And you gotta be free to do that.
mail me kid - I'll talk to ya
2006-12-13 13:52:48 · answer #1 · answered by outdone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is meant to find love it just happens to some sooner than others. Not to mention with being in the Army it's hard. Trust me been there done that. When by boyfriend and I started dating (2 yrs ago) he had just gotten back from Iraq and still had 3 months left to serve in active duty and we were 600 miles away. But we made it work and are now living together. But just understand that while it may seem VERY hard at times to move on after losing love, you have to. Just sittin around sulking isn't going to make thigs any easier. Plus you've got a good thing going for you. There aren't many girls out there that can pass up a man in uniform (once again trust me :) that's always a plus). Just keep confident and go out there and try again. Who knows, your true love could be closer than you think. And just curious but what was her reasoning in leaving?
2006-12-13 13:46:23 · answer #2 · answered by mthcowgurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that you feel that way. I don't know how old you are, but I am assuming you are fairly young. I swear to you my early 20's sucked and I had horrible luck meeting good guys...it wasn't until I was 25 that I met a man worth getting to know. It will get better!! I can only imagine that it is much harder for you because you have a commitment with the army, which is hard for some girls to deal with, and that is why you must look for a WOMAN that understands and will share your life with you. Now is a good time to call upon friends so you can get your mind off the old girlfriend....go out for a few drinks, whatever. Good luck!!
2006-12-13 13:46:14 · answer #3 · answered by jenn_j04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are in the army, your plate, seems rather full. But when you are not working you need to get out and do somethings that are relaxing or fun for you. Go fishing, join a club, join a church, volunteer for something...the key here, as I have said in other relationships like this, DO SOMETHING. Keep yourself busy. Keep your mind off of your ex. HOW do I do this, you ask? Whenever you have a thought of your ex girl, pop into your mind, tell your mind to STOP...Then REPLACE that thought of your ex with a thought of someone else like a family member, friend, or place like the ocean, forest, trees, or many other things, from your past that are good and pleasant to think about. Sometimes, when you are alone, and you think of your ex, say the word STOP out loud. This will help you focus's on other things, better. Go out with friends and/or family. Surround yourself with people who care about you. Sometimes, dating, once again, will help, as well. And I know you have heard this before, but TIME really DOES heal a broken heart. How do I know that everything I have listed here, works, you ask? I have just gotten over a broken heart, myself and I can, truly, say, all these things DO WORK! God bless you as you heal and thank you for being in service for our country!!!!
2006-12-13 13:54:40 · answer #4 · answered by Dee A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry your 20 you will have a girlfriend again. Its not the end of the world even though it may seem like it! Keep friendly with your ex as it will be too hard to lose everything straight away. Go out with your friends, do things that you've always wanted to do! Go out and meet new people, this may be new girls. Have a laugh and enjoy yourself before you head out to the army :)
2016-05-23 22:44:44 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not going to be happy with this, but getting over a lost love takes time. It will feel like forever and be so slow but in time you will notice your eye wondering a bit and talking to girls trying to get to know them. And when you can do that with out thinking of her you are on you way. In the mean time focus on something else and find a friend that you trust and will tell anything to. Changed subject: you current career choice is appreciated. I thank you for being where you are, no matter where you are stationed you are helping our freedom and you are in my prayers. Thank you- From Nora and my son CJ.
2006-12-13 13:48:40 · answer #6 · answered by hairsnora 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything has its purpose. Your previous love was just a learning experience for the next one to come. I lost my soul mate in 2001 It took a while but I am comfortable with being alone. I know that there is someone else out there for me. I know that God will show me who in his own time. For now I am thankful for the friends and family that are with me.
2006-12-13 13:46:20 · answer #7 · answered by kerry9477 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As someone who is n as well ( Not my sn name ) Well you will get over this and in due time u will find the one u r looking 4 just dont go looking 4 it now as it will come 2 u if u go looking u will not find it !! Just might be the one u lost might fly back 2 u as mine did from the heavans above!!! Hang n there trooper!!
2006-12-13 13:46:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just stay focused on keeping yourself healthy and alive right now...these things happen to the best of us...and it hurts deep,
just know that you once had something great and in that know
that you are capable of having it again some day! Great time to
spend more time in the Word Of God...get strong in your faith so that you will have even more to offer the Woman God has for you!
2006-12-13 13:44:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a veteran myself I know what your feeling. The military is no place for a serious relationship. Your priority is defending this country, and she'll never understand that. Wait till your term ends then when your out you can think of settling down.
2006-12-13 13:45:57 · answer #10 · answered by Brian F 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋