Suicidal mom?

Question

My mom is sometimes threatens to commit suicide.?
It started when I was 7. We were in the car and she was telling my dad how she was going to end it and that he better go to the police befor she really does it. That was because she got in a fight with here mom.

Betweent that time she became severly deppresed and me and my brother would hide in his room all day while she would watch soup opreas and drink. Around this time I began haveing learning proublems. I was 8 and he was 6. We were afraid of mother and I would spend the days entertaining him untell My dad came home.

The when I was 10 both of my parents became acohalecs, at times being emotionly abusive towered me and my brother. I became tired of always watching him and I started to want to kill my self. Evrey thing was hell and I hated life. Home was horrible. My parents fought often.

When I was 11 things seemed to calm down, but my parents still fought.

And now from 12 on My mom seems to thing that my dad is haveing an affair, she cheacks all of his

e-mails phone calls ect. She would scream about how he has all of this other kids and on my brothers birthday she told him that he was making babys while he was being born. Many things including Christmas have been ruined because of this. My brothers cusses and my parents let him take controll of evreything. I also think my mom is a drug addict. Sometime there so drunck they wake up in the middle of the nigh nakeing comeing in my room peeing thinked that is was the bathroom I fight with my faimly all the time.

Just a couple weeks ago my mom trying to kill her self by overdoesing of meds. She was shackning so bad the they ended up going evrey were, she was saying things like she wont see the sun come up tommrow ect. I have to comfert my brother while trying to stay stong. My mom is also starting to physicly hurt me. Once she picked my up but my hair of undys and sits on me so I cant breath. What should I do? Is this bad?

Answer 1

I'm sorry to hear about all this.

First, you need to understand that your mother has problems, and those problems aren't your fault. If she does the worst imaginable and injures or kills herself, I know it will be very sad, but it's because of her trouble dealing with her own problems. I hope that doesn't happen.

Second, you need a safe place and a plan. Do you have a relative or neighbor that you can trust? If not, talk to a teacher or counselor at your school that you trust. Tell them you need to talk to them about something important. Thell them it's not about school, it's about your home, and you need to talk to someone. I'm sure they'll sit down and give you all the time you need.

Then the two of you need to work out a plan if things get very bad. Maybe some clothes in a bag in case you have to leave, or put a bag of clothes with your neighbor / teacher / relative - whoever you talk to. Then you need to make arrangements so if anything happens you have a number to call and you know what to do. Obviously if something happens to your mother, call 911, but after that, call your contact number.

If you feel you need to get out and get safe, call your contact number. You'll feel a lot better if you have this set up in advance and you know what to do.

Your mother should be protecting you, but it sounds like you'll have to protect yourself.

Please write back and let us know.

Answer 2

How old are you now? You seem to be young. If you are, do you have a relative that you can be with?

The symptoms you described sound like Bi-Polar disorder, also known as Manic Depressive Disorder. Many people who have this disease go from high to low, without much in-between. Often they drink alcohol and take drugs as a self medication.

They need medication!!!!! They also need to know that they are really ill, and it is not their fault. Their brain chemistry is not right. They can not think or act right, because of this chemistry.

Many famous people have Bi-Polar disorder - such as Mozart, Ted Turner, Patty Duke, and others not so famous as my husband.

When you realize that their brain is not working right, and that the problem is a physical illness, your view will change. You may still hate the things they do, but you can love them as a person, and feel sorry that they have to live in that body.

If your mom threatens suicide, or acts like she is going to do something, call 911 or emergency. She needs help, and must be protected against herself. Many people with Bi-Polar disorder are successful and do commit suicide.

Please do some more research. I am sorry you have had to live with that atmosphere; I am sure it has scarred you. However, you need to decide if this inheritable disease has passed on to anyone else.

Good Luck. Lenore Hodges, PhD, RD

Answer 3

oh my goodness this is a very severe case!!!
u must get help immediately!!! there are many hotlines u can contact////if ur in school tlk to guidance and if u dont think thats a good idea then call a crisis hotline where u'll be anonymous and can discuss ur prob with trained professionals..
it seems as though this has been a building problem
the best apporach i beleive is for ur whole family to have family therapy from a psych
ur mother is and has been dealing with psychological problems of her own which has prevented her from fulfilling her role as a responsible parent...u deserve a responsible real mother...and a responsible father too...u guys are at so much risk u dont even kno
i kno the impact of such a lifestyle in the future...u must seek help b4 its too late.....try the hotline or find a psych....u guys need professional help!!

Answer 4

Dear one .. what a big girl you have been to look out for your brother during this timeframe you talked about here ..
Both your mom and your dad have some serious problems dear ..They NEED help ASAP ...
Go into the office at school and talk with your guidence counsler ASAP.. Both you and your brother are in danger and it appears your parents are NOT getting any better ..
they need something that will shake their fogged world up. maybe the thought of loseing both their children will do just that ..
Promise to come back and let us know how you and your brother got on

((((hugs to you both ))))

Answer 5

I suffer from bipolar/manic depressant and I have put my 2 girls Thur complete hell.My older daughter had to take care of her sister who is very hard due to her being ADHD.And to add to the problem she was dealing with her father having colon cancer and is terminal.When I was committed into the mental ward for weeks at a time she had take care of her sister and her ill father.She is now 15 and she has had to be a mother a sister and a daughter..I'm still having problems with my medication a still stay in my room alone for day's even weeks.You are a very brave little girl just remember your mother has a disease and it is a hard one to deal with.

Answer 6

You are in a bad situation. Talk to your school counselor or social worker about your home situation. Insist on getting counseling for yourself and your brother. Mental health issues are passed from generation to generation, because those behavior models are learned during childhood from ones parents.

Answer 7

Contact social services in your area.

This is very serious. You kids need to get out of there.

You could start with the police, that will get you to social services in a hurry.

Also, as in a previous response, are there any relatives who can intervene?

Answer 8

You should have done something about this a long time ago.

You need to ask for help.
You should print what you wrote here and show it to someone you can trust. There is a lot of help available for children like you these days.

How about showing it to your teacher at school?

Answer 9

go to a friends place or a close relative that will and can protect you. u need to get out of there now while u still can.

Answer 10

u need 2 tell like aunts uncles grandparents b.c she needs serious help & if u can prevent that from happening n anyway u need 2 make sure she knows how much u appreciate and need her