i just found out that my now ex boyfriend cheated on me a second time,so i broke up with him,but i really loved him i gave up everything for him.my family,friends,everything,so my question is how do i go on with out him.i know i dont want him back cause once a cheater always a cheater.but its been two days now and i thought i would be ok but im starting to feel lonley.what can i do to make myself feel better???
2006-12-13 12:41:50 · 22 answers · asked by tinkerbell85 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It has just been two days! Take a break, go out of town for a few days if you can, watch a movie or game with your girl friends, read a book, do cooking or any other activity that keeps your mind away from him. If you are employed or are sudying, try toconcentrate more on your job/studies. In other words, do something to divert your attention from the current stressful situation.
Time is a great healer. Try to overcome your obsession with your ex b/f whom you know is a cheater (he cheated you twice!).
There are any no. of good boys in this world, and so dont get fixated on this ex of yours. Of course you need patience to find the right man, but if you search well enough, you will find one. Dont be desperate to start a relationship with your ex, as he would take advantage of you again. Have faith in yourself and act with hope. If you believe in God, pray more.
2006-12-13 12:52:03 · answer #1 · answered by greenhorn 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't go looking for someone new, that's not a good answer instead, learn to be okay by yourself. It's important to learn to be good company to yourself because if you don't like being alone, chances are you haven't been alone for any period of time. Make yourself comfy, make sure you can keep your self active with little creature comforts like computer, tv etc. Make some new girl friends by going to the park or church or school. College is awesome for people who need to learn to be independant. It's so cool once you get the hang of it. The lonely stuff will pass, just get through one day at a time, and remember, once a cheat always a cheat. You deserve better than that don't you? Empower yourself, be okay with being alone with yourself. You'll gain a new sense of empowerment and confidence. It will do wonders for your self esteem too! And the best part, you will actually come to appreciate being alone. It's hard to go back once you break through! And if you don't learn to be alone okay, then you will end up jumping in with the first guy that comes along, and that's not good. The best relationships happen when you aren't looking for them. Become self sufficient, you will make better choices and learn to take care of yourself first. Then you will be mentally able to stand on your two feet without worrying about being alone.
2006-12-13 12:48:12 · answer #2 · answered by Mysteri O 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm only 16 so I don't know if you'll hear me out or not but here goes: You really are over him correct, and you don't want him back. Move on! how? go on dates, have friends set you up on blind dates, go clubbing, have parties, go to parties, put yourself on the market. If you are feeling lonely, then stay with friends, tell then how you feel and that being alone right not is hard for you. After all you can't cry when your mind isn't thiking about sad things right. When you go to bed at night, (i know this is hard, but TRY your Hardest) think of the positives, about it, like you said once a cheater always a cheater. You are better off and will find Mr. Right, but he isn't going to coming knocking. Go look, be the women take charge. Run your life for you. If you stay down adn depressed you are letting your ex win, don't do that be Strong!
Hope that Helps ; )
2006-12-13 12:47:50 · answer #3 · answered by vanoss_playerette 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If there is one thing that I've learned in being in a relationship with a player is..... they won't ever change. Look I know that you love him dearly. I have been in a similar situation also. When I broke up with my then boyfriend I was so guilty because I said to myself, my god I have SACRIFICED a lot for this guy. I left my friends, my career, and most of all my family for this person that I hardly know. We had so many good time and in the end there where none at all. Then I said to myself what can I do to those things that I have given up for him, what can I do to those good memories if the present thing is already bad. Be optimistic girl!
The best thing for you to do now is just to keep yourself busy... Involve yourself in things that you won't normally do, like maybe climb a mountain or stuff ('',)... do you understand what I mean? At first it is very difficult I know. But YOU JUST HAVE TO BE STRONG! Pray to God... that is the best advice I could give you. Remember the Lord won't allow any trials in our lives if He knows that we can't handle it. If you need any help, just email me. God Bless You!
2006-12-13 13:04:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you gave up family and friends for this man, that was a not so smart thing to do for him. If a guy really loves a women, he should love her for who she is, and not keep her from her friends and family. You made sacrifices for this man, and he messed things up for you. He is not worth the pain and suffering you are wasting on him. Try to get out of the house and do things with your friends, and family. Tell them you are sorry for the choice you made. We all need our friends and family. They can help you through this rough time. Or go see a councilor, if things get real bad. Go for walks, or to the pool. Exercising can be helpful, and have some fun. If you stay home, you may just dwell on things, and get worse.
You are a valuable person, and just need to feel like good about your self. Going to a spa, and relaxing can help too. Do something for you.
2006-12-13 12:56:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately time heals. But it takes a lot of time for the hurt to fade away. Best thing to do is try to stay very busy and try not to think of him. Get back to your friends or make new ones. But don't weaken and go back to him. You're right once a cheater always a cheater , why let yourself in for more hurt? Good luck to you.
2006-12-13 12:48:29 · answer #6 · answered by apacheswoman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to get involved in something else. Keep busy. Sleep a lot if you have to, but try to keep yourself occupied. Stay away from where he would be so you won't stand the risk of running into him. The longer you are away from him and the more you get into something else, the easier it will be for you. But it won't be easy for a while--it will hurt, hurt, hurt. You will just have to put up with it and move on as fast as you can. But you were right--DON'T go back to him. Things will never change--and you'll only end up going through this same thing again and again. You have to grieve and move on. Good Luck.
2006-12-13 12:47:21 · answer #7 · answered by conni 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just answered your question. Once a cheater always a cheater. I don't mean, he won't change. But how long would you be willing to wait for that change? He cheated on you twice, enough said! There's never an excuse for it. I think you are bright, and can develop the courage to move on. Just find someone who won't be such the drama like your ex boyfriend. Good Luck! I got my fingers crosed for you!
Krazy Libra
2006-12-13 12:45:58 · answer #8 · answered by krazy_libra_from_ac 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain. I think what we have to do is seek out new things to do and occupy our time with the people we know care about us and to do anything to take our minds away from our sadness.
Maybe read a book or watch a movie. Go out for walks, get a hobby. Go out with friends. If you are in school or if you work focus on that. Listen to music.
That which doesn't kill us, will make us stronger.
Hang in there.
2006-12-13 12:51:52 · answer #9 · answered by Cymbaline 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is there a way to get reaquainted with your family and old friends? Your family should never reject you, and they'd help you get back on your feet. Of course, you could always find some hobby or activity to fill your time...perhaps volunteer. This would keep you busy helping people, and give you achance to make new friends.
2006-12-13 12:45:17 · answer #10 · answered by Denise W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋