How do you get your friend to stop trying to convert you? Without being rude?

Question

I have a friend....we get along but he's suggesting that I go to his church and convert to his faith...I don't want to because I feel quite happy with mine and I feel most comfortable with it....he points out the flaws in other faiths and points out why his is the best..I do not agree, but I don't want to insult him....whats the best way to make him realize that I am gonna stay the way I am?

If you must know I'm Muslim my friend is Christian.....and I'm not gonna convert because Islam is the one for me, so please don't try, I already looked into Christianity in the past

Answer 1

If you two are friends, you should be able to speak to him openly, politely, and firmly. Just say "Look, I am already convinced of my religion, and right now I am not interested in converting to Christianity, or even looking into it. I would like our relationship to be on a basis of friendship, not believing in the same religion".

Personally I do hope you will get to know Jesus Christ, but it's not somebody forcing it down your throat that will do it. Your friend surely has your best interests at heart - he wants to share with you what is so important to him. So speak kindly. But make your feelings clear.

Answer 2

Well, you need to check whether this is about faith at all, I guess it is about issues between you two in general. If you look at the basic essentials of both religions,you may agree with me that they are the same. You may just prefer the way it is lined out in the Koran, while your friend prefers the ways of the bible, from which both of your religions share big parts. You guys seem to be great friends, it is good to be friends with someone from a different belief, you have the unique chance to make a difference, tolerating different faith and accepting it in your friendship, and showing it to others naturally. You won't fight because of different belief, your friends are seeing two different believes don't contradict a great friendship, which promotes diversity and peace. Your friend needs to understand that in you two having different believes lies an opportunity,and that there is no point in trying to change you. All the best to you two.

Answer 3

Well.....I am sure he means well,but it sounds like he might be coming on a little strong.

I am a follower of the Lord Jesus Christ,also..(like your friend) and I can understand his enthusiasm.

You might try some of these things.......

1) Remind him that it is God's Holy Spirit that does the converting...not him. ....and all he is accomplishing so far is pushing you away.

2) Remind him that the Lord Jesus never "pushed" himself on anybody (except maybe the apostle Paul....but that's for another day) The Lord is a gentleman,and he will only come and be a part of your life if you ask him in.

3) Remind him to pray for you.....there is a saying that goes "We should talk to God about people before we talk to people about God"

I noticed in your question that you say you looked into Christianity in the past......Did you examine the person + life of Christ or just "hanged out" with some Christians?? I will say a prayer for both you and your friend......

...and please do not be turned off of Christ just because of what a few of his followers do.

Answer 4

You can't get your friend to quit. Tell him, either he stops this trying to convert you, or you will no longer spend time with him, as a real friend would not be this way toward his friend.

You could tell him that Christianity is illogical, as G-d would never come to earth in human form. This will make him angry, but, you do not need a friend such as this. But, then, I believe there is no G-d but G-d. And, I do not understand how Christians can believe Jesus is G-d.

Answer 5

There is no compulsion in Islam. Whereas what he's doing is different. If Christianity is about forcing people, than just say that you're not into that. He may speak all the truths to you till he's blue in the face but remember, the truths he speaks of will only be so if you believe in them. And right now, you don't.

Answer 6

There's really no way to tell unless we get an idea of just how determined he is. I think the more determined he is, the more rude you need to be. I think that calmly telling him that his trying to convert you may end your friendship could be a good start. Also tell him that you aren't his friend because you like to hear about Jesus, you're his friend for other reasons.

Answer 7

You're just fine and don't need converting. The way you reach God is your business and as a Christian, I respect your right to converse with God as you feel is correct in your heart. Tell your friend to work on his own faith, yours is just fine! BIG Love! Kevin

Answer 8

Just tell him politely that you don't plan on visiting his church, and that you've checked into Christianity before, and you're gonna stick with Islam. Blunt, I know, but oftentimes the direct way is the best way.

If he respects you, he won't push the matter any more.

Answer 9

Thar's tough. You could tell him the truth. Like this:

According to Islam the crucification is a fraud and a lie.
and
I don't care how ideal Christian morals are that doesn't make the average Christian better than the average Muslim.
and
It is unclear if God is Love.

Answer 10

Been there done that.

Tell him: Im sorry if I hurt your feelings, its not my intension, but I have my faith and you have yours. cant we just be friends and respect and accept eachother for who we are and not for what we believe in because I feel like your pressuring me into believing what you believe and I already believe in something. I wish to keep you as a friend. But wouldnt it be better if you talked about your faith to someone who dont know of any faith. I respect your beliefs but im quite comfortable/happy with my beliefs and again im sorry but I wish we could accept eachother for who we are and continue being friends.