my best friend who i have known since fourth grade is going out with the guy i like and he likes me but is still going out with her!
she loves him but he told me he doesnt like her and me and him have been buds since kintergarten! we never lie to each other.
plus the guy hugs me like once every hour and says he loves me every day!
the problem here is that i like the guy but i dont want to hurt my best friends feelings and tell her the truth about him! me and him went out last year but then my mom decided she didnt like him so i had to break up with him.
ive always liked him though. sombody please tell me how to break it to my best friend without hurting her.
he said that tomarrow hes gonna break up with her and i know he will but i know it will hurt her.
shold i stay with him or go to the guy i liked before him who still is in love with me?????????????
somebody please help me got through this without any hearts broken. if you can tell me how u got through it plz do!
2006-12-13 12:34:12 · 16 answers · asked by emu2013 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell the truth! Hurt and pain is a kind of growth!
2006-12-13 12:42:37 · answer #1 · answered by smarttany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somebody's heart is going to get broken, that's inevitable. But it is best that the guy breaks up with your friend, because otherwise you are also contributing to hurting her by being with this guy behind her back. She may get hurt, and you might go through a rough patch in your friendship, but all you have to remember is if this will be better in the long run. You have to decide whether you want to go out with this guy who you love though, because if he goes behind your friend's back to be with you, will he turn your love into a sham and be with somebody else at the same time? He may just not be a trustworthy guy, so you should watch out for this.
2006-12-13 20:45:14 · answer #2 · answered by MadchenDeutsch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wake Up Girlfriend! if your mother "didn't like him", and made you break up with him, it is obvious it didn't bother him much, dating your friend. Give your head a "shake"! He is playing "both" of you! Move on and never Look Back! Your young, and there are plenty of fish in the sea. He is only saying "words", and if you make a mistake and believe him, you will be the looser, because he will do to you what he is doing right now to "some other" unsuspecting "girl"! - Run don't walk - Merry Christmas.
2006-12-13 20:40:42 · answer #3 · answered by peaches 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is compliecated.................the i love u shows that he likes u.
check it out call erery in and just say what u got to say if there realy your friends they wont be mad at u or anythink like that.if somebbody gets hurt say its lefe nd tell then to move on.
remember u can't live in the past.u say it in the best way u can
the other girl might have a beter relationship with here but do the best u can
peace out
2006-12-13 20:41:50 · answer #4 · answered by Jayvon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well. somebody is likely to get hurt. this is life. sorry.
the longer you wait-- the worse the hurt.
if I were you-- I would go to your best friend with the guy-- and tell her togather, and make her understand that you both still love her-- but that you guys want to go out togather-- lol maybe she can share a little to ease the transition-- if nessicary.
2006-12-13 20:38:18 · answer #5 · answered by The greatest and the best. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, i was like that just last week and i went back with the guy that didnt have a girlfriend and loved me so i think u should get back with the other guy and tell ur friend that u got back together again
2006-12-13 20:40:37 · answer #6 · answered by soccergirl_db 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to life my friend, there is no easy solution. If you don't want to break her hart, then don't go out with the guy. Rule #1 of friendship, don't date your friends ex.
Let time pass and see if she is cool with the idea, otherwise it's going to be a very messy ordeal.
2006-12-13 20:41:03 · answer #7 · answered by antonio.arroyas@rogers.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he liked you and you two had history why would he get with your best friend in the first place?
this guy is not trustworthy and doesn't have any balls. he's going to play the both of you so don't be his fool. tell your homegirl what's going on and drop this guy. he is not worth it.
2006-12-13 20:44:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't get through it without any hearts broken but no body will die. It just hurts.
If he really cares for you he will chose you and let her know. If he doesn't then he just wants you both.
Good luck
2006-12-13 20:38:34 · answer #9 · answered by joyce d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, he is not good boyfriend material. If, he was a good bf he would not play with his gf emotions.He is playing the both of you.
But if you decide to go with him, you will ruin your friendship ( and he is not worth it.
Good Luck !!!
2006-12-13 21:40:38 · answer #10 · answered by sexy_love_vi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋