How do you make yourself not care what others think of you???

Question

Im in highschool and I sorta have social anxiety. Its getting me very depressed to the point that I really haing life. Is there anything I can do that works that would make me not be so sensitive to what I THINK others may think of me?? EVen if its indifference, I just cant stand being this way. I wanna escape myself, I dont want to be so self-conscious. And this obsessive feelings is making everything worse, it increases my anxiety, which really shows, like a shaky voice comes out and other sh**. And I've tried mental stuff but when I feel like I dont care when I'm alone I cant make myself when Im actualy around people. Is there anyway I can stop feeling so low-self esteemed and on edge all the time???????

Answer 1

Ideally, this will come with age. The older and more experienced you are, the less you will care what others think. Also, in adulthood, there's much more to worry about than trends and what you are wearing. For right now, just try to relax and BREATH. Always think "who are they to think that of me". You should be the one "thinking that of them". Try a little role reversal, even if you have to pretend for right now. I hope this makes sense to you.

Answer 2

Zimmies is right. I think u start caring less as you age because you have more important things to worry about. But you're right that high school is tough. I had that problem too. I would try to avoid social situations to avoid being nervous around people. I also have this terrible condition where I turn bright red everytime I'm nervous (which is pretty much every time I talk). So I hated talking in class or talking to classmates I wasn't familiar with. Well, now I'm in college and I still have that problem.

However, I think the one of the wayw to cure ur anxiety is to force urself into many social situations. Try to meet a lot of people so that you'll eventually feel less nervous around them. Why don't u start with someone ur not familiar with in school so that you don't exactly have to care that much about what they think? Try talking to someone quiet and not that popular. Give him/hera compliment or ask them something like, "What do you think of this new movie coming out? I'm wondering if I should go see it." As the basic saying goes, the only way to get rid of your fears is to face them.

About caring what ppl think about u, do u ever notice that the popular people in high school end up being losers later on in life? Ha ha. Honestly, sometimes I wonder why I cared so much about what they thought of me. The important thing in school is to focus on your education. Then when you make a lot of money or become a boss or something, you can go back to your high school reunion and feel proud. People at my school kind of ignore me, and I used to really car about that. But heck now I just study a lot and I usually get the top grades in class now. So, I guess what I'm saying is, try to not to care by remembering that what they say about u won't matter in the future. Just get good grades and in a couple of years, you'll see how much cooler you'll be. Umm.. Ok I just reallized that I'm not sure if I exactly answered your question...But if you want to get over ur anxiety, force urself into uncomfortable situations till u get comfortable. If you don't, u can just be a nerd and study all the time.

Btw, VOLUNTEERING for charities or doing things for ur community will make u feel better, I swear. Try that. It'll help u get ur priorities straight.

Answer 3

Yea I know what you mean, I was really shy and quiet in highschool too, it gets sooooo much better in college! Trust me, people in college are so much more open to meeting new people and I feel like I am more free to be myself here. I really think all highschool girls are like this, whether they like to admit it or not, but it won't last forever, highschool flys by so quickly and you will probably never see half the people again which can be a good thing because you can have a fresh new start in college!

Answer 4

I think you just grow out of it as you get older which is a good thing. I was like you in high school too, I am older now and I really don't care what anyone thinks of me, all I care about is taking care of my children they keep me too busy to care about what anyone else thinks. You could try some herbal remedies to help calm you down-there is a great book called: The Herbal Drugstore by White and Foster that can help you out. Good Luck to you.

Answer 5

First off you need to realize that there is no one out there that is better than you! Once you realize that you'll be good to go. You sound like one of those people who cringe up when you see a group of girls at the mall. And you think, oh god.. what if they don't like this or like that. You need to make them want to be worrying about you instead of you worring about them. After you do that you will never have this problem again. Make 'em jealous!! : ) Best wishes!

Answer 6

Stop watching TV and all the other Pop culture bull that is being forced down your throat. Kids your age outside of the US don't have the same problems. You know why? Because they actualy go outside their homes and enjoy their environment. They don't stay on the phone or stare at the boob-tube. They actually do what is expected of them....be a kid.

Answer 7

try to dress and look ur bst...i kno beauty is in the inside but we tend to forget that its only human nature and others tend to see whats on th surface...we live in a shallow materialistic world hunni so what u need to do is stand b4 a mirror as stupid as it sounds and for the first time instead of seeing flaws tell urself that ur beautiful...if uve got the beauty in ur soul theres no way it doesnt show somewhere on ur face. its not a philosophy...ppl tend to look better to us if they r good ppl. at least with me thas the case....
u remind me of me bc i was jus like u...until i realized that its all about presentation...nobody can make u feel inferior..or inadequate..
u are u and there is not one person in this world like u and in other ppls case this may be conceited and boastful but i think u need a boost in self confidence and therefore u need to realize ur self worth....there has to be something ur good at---ur best quality ur best feature----accentuate those...acknowledge them and u will see....alsobe open minded...some pp think that smiling is useless if u feel miserable and itss impossible too
in reality if u smile, u cheer urself up esp if u dont have somebody there to cheer u up....and a smile always attracts ppl to tlk to u bc it sends the message that ur not anti social--humans r social animals they NEED to socialize...
spare urself the mental crisis sweetie and develop a group of friends u can trust and who accept u for who u are---and never try to be someone ur not---with the positive attitude u will def. find ppl like that

Answer 8

still going thru this at 25. we all need social contacts to survive. but if you wanna be alone try reading or music. been where you were and still trying to figure this complicated world. if you want support morally try me [e-mail]. this too shall pass. you are GOD'S CHILD. be you. if no one can appreciate you, then feel sorry for them. ppl are followers. be a leader.

Answer 9

be real with yourself
deal with and fix the things about yourself that you don't like
add things that you do like

get people to tell you whats good about you, as often as you need to hear it

Answer 10

drank alcohol and bust lines of snow