I find myself not being always happy to be around because I don't like where I am. I have trouble putting things aside. I want to be fair. Should I remove myself from relationship? Or be fake? Or take more time for myself?
2006-12-13 12:26:06 · 10 answers · asked by wickeywickey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have to take time for yourself, you don't want to put someone you care for in a situation like that. But you don't want to push this person off to side because you might lose something you could never get back.
2006-12-13 12:31:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you're beset by troubles and personal issues a relationship may not be the right thing to pursue. It can only lead to heartache and misunderstanding because once you have things resolved you may find out that you never really wanted the relationship. Then think about the other party, what might they get out of a relationship with one who doesn't know what they want from themselves ?
2006-12-13 20:30:33 · answer #2 · answered by ralegas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no "fake" in relationship. And there can't be any relations with being "fake". If the feeling is strong enough, anything you bring up to the table is going to be resolved. And why is it troublesome to improve your life while being in real relationship? I see no problem. If it's easy for you to remove yourself from relationship, it's possible there has never been one...
2006-12-13 20:32:49 · answer #3 · answered by Ulik 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your problem is easy to fix. WRITE DOWN what you want to be, want to do, with your life. If you do not write down what you want, OTHER PEOPLE will decide your life for you.
Don't know what you want? Then write down what you DON'T WANT. Once you get that done, it is easier to figure out what you WANT in life.
I knew what I wanted in life at age 13. I am now age 54. As the years went by, I added more things to my list. Almost 90% of what I wanted in life, I have gotten. NONE by chasing after it, ALL of it came to me. Mostly from sources I did not know even existed.
Make the list short term; things easy to achieve. Mid-term, will take a year or more. And long-term, things you want to do for the rest of your life. Be sure to include really difficult to reach goals because if you achieve everything you want BEFORE death, then what do you have to live for? My LAST GOAL is to die on my birthday when I reach age 120. Not possible? Now, no, but who knows in the future?
Need help, write to me.
2006-12-13 20:33:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometime a relationship or a person close to you is exactly what you need. I wouldnt remove or isolate yourself because i feel the problem will just get worse.
When your feeling down about yourself you need good support from friends and family to get you through those times
2006-12-13 20:29:00 · answer #5 · answered by San DIego Chargers 21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been relationship free for about a year now and it has been worth taking the time out for ME!!!! I have been able to find the awesome job I was looking for,planning for my kids future better,and I have been happier!! Now I am a better decision maker and a saner,more stable person.Good luck to you,I know it will all work out!
2006-12-13 20:32:02 · answer #6 · answered by spicy1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your trying to better yourself and become a better person your going to have to put off relationships for about a year. then you'll have the tools to have a stable and healthy relationship.
if you start a relationship now your going to grow while your mate is stuck at the same level and your not going to be attracted to that anymore.
2006-12-13 20:33:02 · answer #7 · answered by ar_ayala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The notion that we can only grow while we're single is a fallacy. Why don't you talk to your mate and see if they think your state of mind is affecting the relationship. Maybe they could help you grow and you two can get closer. Relationships are a lot about negotiation.
2006-12-13 20:28:53 · answer #8 · answered by Dr. Obvious 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the problem is after you are done remaking yourself you may not be compatible with him. Be honest with him and tell him that and let him decide if he wants to hang out to wait and see what happens or if he'd rather move on and not risk the time loss.
2006-12-13 20:29:05 · answer #9 · answered by Meatball ;) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take more time for yourself..no one else can love you if you don't love yourself or are not happy within yourself
2006-12-13 20:28:29 · answer #10 · answered by Tek ~aka~Legs! 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋