Yah, I kind of had a feeling my girlfriend cheated on me while I was gone. I noticed she had a different brand of condoms and one was torn open in the waste basket. I dug a little and found a used condom (definitely not from me). She's coming back tomorrow from a short camping trip, how do I use this to my advantage or what strategies could I employ? We have been having some issues lately and I already have some doubts but I live with her so I can't just leave the next day.
2006-12-13 12:20:11 · 21 answers · asked by gotham158 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yah I think I'm gonna put it in a baggie and put a note on it like you guys said...mmm that might spark too much defensiveness and then nobody wins...
2006-12-13 12:31:17 · update #1
haha, I just got a zip lock bag and put, "So nice to know that you were thinking of me while I was gone" on it. The funny thing is, I'm not jealous, I think because she's cheated on me before and all round treats me like dirt. I guess when you don't feel jealous, it's pretty much over, damn I should have cheated on her on my trip! I watched the Closer on my flight and it touches on this exact subject of cheating...very good movie, I think that's why I can deal with it in a weird calm manner.
2006-12-13 12:41:03 · update #2
i wouldn't be home when she got home but i would leave the nasty thing on the counter w/ a note that says "nice to know you were thinking of me while i was gone"
2006-12-13 12:25:20 · answer #1 · answered by ♠ JƏSSƏ'S GiRL ♠ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust is a major factor in any relationship. It doesn't sound like you trust her very much, actually, not at all. If there is no trust, there is no reason to keep living in doubt. Tell her what you found and what your "gut" is telling you. Agree on a time frame to get your things together and move out. Sounds like this relationship is pretty much over. If your gut is telling you she has had or is having sex with other people, (not to mention the used condom you found) you should move on. For every person she is having sex with...so are you. If you know what I mean. Be the adult in this situation and tell her you refuse to live this way. You are not being true to yourself if you stay. Good luck!
2006-12-13 20:32:47 · answer #2 · answered by Samantha1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does anyone else live in the house with you guys? If not, then she must have definately used it, but then again, she could have had a party at home and it could be someone elses. Is she they type to have wild parties at the house? This sucks because either way, you won't be able to trust her after this. Well I wish you the best, and if you don't beleive what she tells you, just the simple fact that you think she was sleeping around on you to begin with is not a good sign. I know it can get hard to picture yourself alone, but it will get better in time. I promise you.
2006-12-13 20:38:53 · answer #3 · answered by tddvan69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's your strategy. Gather up all of her things, and put them outside the door when she comes back home, and make sure that used condom is laying right on top of everything, so she knows exactly what just happened.
2006-12-13 20:25:24 · answer #4 · answered by wsguy1983 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maye she had friends over that used the room. If not just get rid of the cheating gf, no need to keep an unfaithfull dog around!
2006-12-13 20:22:47 · answer #5 · answered by jungle867 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are going to be living with her, then don't you think that there should be some mutual trust (???) If you are living with her and she continues to cheat on you, I think that you will really regret it. Go find someone who appreciates you and LOVES YOU. As long as your not married, you can totally just walk out on her.
2006-12-13 20:25:50 · answer #6 · answered by make love not war 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, i would definitly say that you should confront her about it. Just first ask her, and then tell her about what u found. I am very sorry about it. I hope that everything goes ok. Remember to keep your self-respect and never let anybody try and rob that from you.
2006-12-13 20:25:12 · answer #7 · answered by velda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont say anything just put a camera in the room they wud mos likley do it in and u have proof plus the condom.the securityCameras cost mabye arond 50-$100
2006-12-13 20:24:33 · answer #8 · answered by gunscapital 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, ask her about what she was doing when you were gone, ya da ya da, and then WHAM-O pull out the condom (in a baggie) and say "Ok, now tell me what is REALLY going on."
2006-12-13 20:23:57 · answer #9 · answered by misskenjr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you found it and ask her what it is. Most likely she will confess. THen you can talk it out with her and decide what to do. The ball is in your court. She f!cked up big time. No pun intended
2006-12-13 20:23:11 · answer #10 · answered by sunkist3122 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋