I am the same age as my sister in law, married the same year, baby the same year and it seems all those two care about are each other! It makes me sick. It is affecting my marriage and I don't know how to let it go. HELP!!! any advice?
2006-12-13 12:06:49 · 5 answers · asked by betsy7 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i can feel your pain and i'm sorry for you. it isnt fair what you mil is doing - doesn't she realize, she has a son whose wife has had a baby and all the same feelings as her daughter. don't blame your husband, it isn't fair to him, although, i bet you blame him for not showing your mil what you are going through. i don't know what he has done to try to improve the situation, but, i will tell you it's not his fault, he can yell at his mom till the sky falls and she'll probably never change her ways- her daughter is blood and you are not. she has a strong hold and bond with her daughter and it's just something she can't feel with you. don't take it personally - it's her ways - don't blame your husband. but what i would do, is make sure that you, your child and your husband form your own bonding. really, when you think about it - you married HIM not HIS family - so don't let his family influence your marriage. sometimes, that's the very thing they are trying to do - to show that you arent' the wife he should have. DON'T LET THEM HAVE THAT PRIVILEGE - rather than worrying about the in-laws - worry about what you put together in your own marriage, keep working on that with love and understanding of each other and don't give your mil the power to destroy what is probably a good marriage and relationship that you have with your husband and child. love them and try to dismiss all your mil negativities toward you. i hope you can do it. good luck.
2006-12-13 12:23:39 · answer #1 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you saying your mother-in-law does not care about her son and his wife and children? That is unfortunate, and her loss. I don't understand why this should affect your marriage though. Your husband cannot make his mother do anything she doesn't want to do. Try not to place too much importance on her thoughts about you and your family. You will only be disapointed. Instead, try to focus on those family relationships that are working. Perhaps with your own side of the family. And remember that you can not read her mind and you don't really know what she is thinking. All you really know is what she does. Be happy when she give attention to you and your family and ignore her when she doesn't.
2006-12-13 20:14:55 · answer #2 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister-in-law is after all her daughter. Sometimes mothers have problems accepting daughter-in-laws. If she likes you then it is something you both have to work at. If she doesn't like you than it is something you have to live with for the sake of your husband. You have to look at your relationship with your own mother and decide whether you would be happy if your mother favoured a daughter-in-law over you.
2006-12-13 20:19:12 · answer #3 · answered by Lock 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about your mother?
Why want someone's attention who cannot give it naturally?
Obviously they only care about each other. Do you really need them in your life?
2006-12-13 20:56:03 · answer #4 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband why it is affecting your marraige and then talk to your mother in law.
2006-12-13 20:29:24 · answer #5 · answered by The Pope 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋