I'm planning a wedding for July 2007. I have my bridesmaids picked out and also know thier financial states. I don't know if I can pay for all the dresses for them and the tuxes and the flower girls dresses, but I don't want to have the problem of one of the bridesmaids dropping out because they can't afford the dress. My finace is fine with us paying for them and he has never argued differently. I'm just caught in a tight spot.
2006-12-13 11:55:52 · 23 answers · asked by Cherry Tree 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It is the bridesmaid's and groomsmen's job to pay for their own attire, but it is YOUR job to select attire that is affordable for everyone you have chosen to be in the wedding party.
If you've picked out a $400 bridesmaid dress, but when you think about it, your friends are really more of a $150 dress crowd, the situation is just not going to work out-- you're going to have to be more flexible with your expectations.
One way to slightly reduce their expenses is to let them wear their own dressy shoes that they already own, and accessories they already own. They do not have to be completely identical to each other.
2006-12-13 17:09:26 · answer #1 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is the bridesmaids' responsibility to pay for their dresses...the same goes for the groomsmens' rentals. The parents of the flower girls are responsible for their dress purchase.
Now, if you have someone come to you and mention that her financial status is a little tight...that is when you offer to pay for her. However, if that does happen, make sure it isn't broadcast within the bridesmaids, etc as that could have the potential to cause problems.
Don't pay for them from the beginning, unless you want their dresses and tuxes to be their gifts, instead of jewelry or a flask...if you don't have an unlimited budget, then don't go overboard:
Dresses for 5 bridesmaids = 150*5 = 750
Tuxedo rentals for 5 groomsmen = 100*5 = 500
Dresses for 2 flower girls = 100*2 = 200
Gifts for everyone = 100*12 = 1,200
Total cost = 2,650
Granted that is only an estimate, but that money can be better spent on upgraded chairs for the reception...think long and hard about what you do.
2006-12-14 02:06:40 · answer #2 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't have a big wedding so I can only talk as a bridesmaid. I usually paid for the dress and shoes myself. If the bride is truly worried she may not want to wait until the last minute. Soemone might not be able to pay 200 or 300 hundred for a dress they will never wear again. Keep it simple and elegant. Make sure the shop has layaway. that way they can pay smaller amounts of money over time then all at once. In the end does it really matter? It is going to be your day. Go be a blushing Bride and bless you
2006-12-13 12:19:45 · answer #3 · answered by e_piphany214 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my wedding and in all of the weddings I have been in the bridesmaids bought their own dresses and the groomsmen rented their own tuxes and the parents of the flower girl bought the flower girl dress. If money is an issue, try to find fairly cheap bridesmaids dresses that they can afford, you can find nice dresses that don't cost an arm and a leg. Chadwicks has some nice ones. I wouldn't offer to help them out but if one comes to you and tells you that they can't afford the dress then offer to help them out. They should know they are supposed to buy their own dresses and rent their own tuxedos and they should have plenty of time between now and the wedding to save their money to do so.
2006-12-13 12:05:53 · answer #4 · answered by T.K. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Normally, the bridesmaids pay for their own gowns - as do the groomsmen, flower girl, ring bearer, etc.
When it comes to picking the dresses - it is possible to pick dresses that are not overly expensive. The last wedding I was in, the gowns were beautiful satin gowns that we each paid $75 for! We got them at a department store during Prom season so they had a good selection of formal gowns. My own bridesmaids got their dresses at a small boutique in the mall that specialized in trendy casual wear and only carried a few dress styles - they each paid $49!
If you have your heart set on a more expensive style and you think it may be a problem for the girls, consider helping with part of it instead of all of it.
2006-12-13 15:43:17 · answer #5 · answered by Chrys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably know that the bridesmaids are sopose to pay for there dresses but if financially they can't do it then you will have to figure out some ways around it
My sugestion
Look for dresses that are on the clearence rack out of season it;s seems like girls are wearing any color it doesn't matter the season
Try going to Macys or Jcpenny and look for dresses in the same color but different dresses. That way you can get a selection of dresses on sale
Maybe for those that don't have the money you can pay for half.
2006-12-13 13:34:32 · answer #6 · answered by BabyDolll128 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my experience the bridesmaids are responsible for their dress and shoes. However if you are asking that they all get their hair done at the same place, have the same accessories ect. Iin the weddings i've been in the bride covers this. If a bridesmaid is going to have trouble paying for it you could offer to go in for part of the dress, or you could tell her the style number ect and she might be able to buy a used one off e-bay. Also you might want to remind them that if they sell them after the wedding they could get a portion of their money back. (The price may not seem so bad if you know that you'll get some of it back )
2006-12-13 12:49:28 · answer #7 · answered by LLL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bridesmaids pay for there own dresses. Just be considerate and pick out an affordable dress. You can get bridesmaids dresses for like $50 or less at David's Bridal.
2006-12-13 12:18:03 · answer #8 · answered by Lana Marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bridesmaids are supposed to pay for their own dresses, and you're supposed to take their financial situations into account when choosing the bridesmaids dresses. Perhaps you should find a similiar dress that is more affordable.
2006-12-14 01:42:48 · answer #9 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in 3 weddings.. I have had to PAY for all my dresses and only once was I actually asked what I want to wear.
Part of agreeing to be a part of the wedding is paying for your dress.. its your responsibility to get them a thank you gift for being in it.
If however you know someone cant afford it and needs help maybe you can offer to pay for it as their present, but I would keep this hushed and a deal between you and the person that is having a hard time. I just asked my roommate and he agrees.. neither of us female or male has gotten their outfit paid for.. we have always had to pay..
I say make them pay and wait for them to tell if they cant before you even think about offering..
2006-12-13 14:01:34 · answer #10 · answered by Frenchie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋