Are you close to proposal? How did you go about feeling out your fiancee'/wife before the actual proposal? I'm cool with the fact that we are talking about it, and hoping for a proposal soon. I just wanted to hear some thoughts from the men.
2006-12-13 11:53:18 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I do not think that there is an answer to your question that applies to all men. If you are talking about someone that is mature and has an open relationship with you then he is probably thinking about it and wants to know your feelings. If this is the case keep talking to him and I am sure things will work out. My wife and I decided to get married one morning when we woke up. I am not sure who brought it up first but we both thought it was a great idea and have now been married for seven years and going strong.
2006-12-13 12:01:58 · answer #1 · answered by David P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the guy. Some are never ready, even if they're talking about it.
I knew that my wife and I were ready for marriage almost immediately. The experiences of our lives and our common goals and outlooks made us ideal for each other. When it came time for me to ask her, I did it in a romantic setting. I won't get into the details. Also, I asked her father and mother for their blessing FIRST. Her parents are very wise and supportive people, and their opinion was very important to me. I knew that we couldn't be truly happy unless we had their approval.
If you'll recall the movie "When Harry Met Sally", there's a scene where he goes over to her house and discovers her crying inconsolably. She had just found out that her former "fiance" of several years, whom she'd recently broke up with, was marrying someone he had just met. He did this after leaving her hanging for years. She was heartbroken because she realized that he wasn't against getting married. He just didn't want to marry HER. I've been in some relationships like that myself, and until I found my wife, they didn't always end well. Live and learn, I guess.
Keep in mind that some guys will PROPOSE marriage in much the same way that they'll propose putting the toilet seat down. That doesn't mean that they'll actually perform the act. It might only be a delaying action, designed to put you at ease and make you more compliant to his requests. I think you know what requests I'm referring to.
Because some men believe that they have a lot to lose by becoming married, you'll see a lot of last second "jitters", to the point of it being almost universal. That's why Bachelor's parties are so prevalent. The thought of having a "last good time" is at the core of the celebration, as it they're leaving the good times behind and settling down.
In short, until you hire a lawyer or get it in writing (like a marriage certificate), talk is cheap.
2006-12-13 12:37:38 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly speaking - NO, because we weren't thinking then of the real burden of raising a family specially with kids. It's a gamble when we propose to a woman, thinking we can go over the mental and financial pressures life would bring right after the wedding ceremony.
Bachelor life is still the best.
2006-12-13 11:57:35 · answer #3 · answered by Solomon Grundy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You feel when it is the right time. I think the us guys should be the one's to ask and start the conversation about it. If he was the one who started the conversation about it then he wants to propose but he's just feeling out the water to see how you react to it. If he likes to talk about it a lot then you know he wants to. Just ask simple things like what kind of wedding do u want, a big one or small one.
2006-12-13 12:02:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is men all think differently when it comes to things like that. It depends on the situation, and mindset of the individual. I am a guy and I recommend you just wait it out and see what happens rather than listen to another guyz opinion that doesnt fully know your situation. Good Luck
2006-12-13 11:58:13 · answer #5 · answered by behindthesmile22 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's close to proposal. Have you guys been fighting recently? Maybe he wants to let you know what he's thinking so you won't try to stray away and leave him? Just wanted to play devil's advocate just in case...but it does sound like he's ready to commit. Good luck.
2006-12-13 11:58:14 · answer #6 · answered by Die S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Reading the guys opinions here are kind of disappointing, why can't guys say what they mean? When we start talking about marriage WE ARE READY!!! Why isn't it the same?
2006-12-13 11:59:50 · answer #7 · answered by voidtillnow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
8 times out of 10 no we're not even close,but that's our way of feeling you out and checkin to see jus how serious you are about the whole situation, then we know where to take it from there
2006-12-13 11:56:35 · answer #8 · answered by pariah6 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most guys are, however, the guys who ask an not follow through are the heart breakers.
2006-12-13 11:55:46 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definitely not just touching the service to see your reaction
2006-12-13 11:57:32 · answer #10 · answered by Apsie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋