Well as far as my belife goes it says that premarital sex is a sin. Correct? Well and we are to ask forgiveness for these sins. I was a christian. But not following in my faith completely when during the time in my life that I became pregnant with my angels.
Well ok my question is this; I don't regret having premarital sex, because if I was to regret it. Then I would regret having my little angels. What do you think is the best way to look at this issue?
2006-12-13 11:44:15 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
O.K. in response to some of your answers. I thank you for all the support and guidance on this issue. But I have to clarify something. My oldest daughter right now is 4 yrs old ( I am no longer with her father), my second is 2 yrs old (her father and I were married shortly after her birth). And then there is my one year old...she was born underwedlock.
2006-12-13 12:00:47 · update #1
Your little angels were sent to you to intervene as a gift from God. EVERY child IS a GIFT from GOD!! I am a Christian and I had a child out of wedlock prior to becoming a Christian. Even when I had him though, I knew that God sent him to me to stop me from destroying myself. I will never regret my children, nor will God!
2006-12-13 11:48:38 · answer #1 · answered by Gardener for God(dmd) 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Mandy,
God loves you and your children right now just the way you are.
Man makes us(especially women) feel horribly about these situations, however the seed dropper is still out there now
hopefully not making more children, but by virtue of the fact that you conceived the children you will need to focus on your future together or apart and make it the best way that you can.
Please get help from a reputable organization, do not be ashamed. I pray that the "angels" are healthy and bless you with immeasurable laughter and memories.
It will not be easy, but the father, or fathers will have to be held accountable. money helps but you need friends and family to give you a helping hand every now and then.
friends and family can be anyone that has positive assistance
STAY AWAY FROM THOSE WHO PUT YOU DOWN
you have a job to do
stay focused and be determined to succeed at being a great mom
your children will thank you in the future.
It is not what others think about you that counts
it is what you think of yourself!!!!!!!!
The universe will help you, just ask!
2006-12-13 19:55:44 · answer #2 · answered by Godis! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you must realize that you are still a christian. that is somthing you can not lose. the sex thing is in fact a sin but no worse than telling a story or stealing, wich all can be forgiving for if you ask in the name of Jesus. so yes you may have made a mistake by haveing sex out of wed lock but you children are not mistakes as long as you have learned your lessons in life and you pass them on to your little ones and teach them good morals and always thank GOD for what you have then every thing will be O.K.
2006-12-13 20:04:20 · answer #3 · answered by willy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the first guy answered great (gave him a thumbs up!). God is a loving God and can use your mistakes to bless you. I would repent of making the mistake but thank God for blessing me anyway. And aks Him for guidance in raising them (you didn't say if you were still with the guy or not). I hope this helps. I think the fact that you've thought the matter through so much is a testimony. God knows your heart, maybe your sins have already been forgiven?
2006-12-13 19:52:01 · answer #4 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The only reason you would even think about regret is because believers are programed to think premarital sex is evil. There is absolutely nothing to regret or be ashamed about, because god is a bunch of bologna. You should just start living your life and enjoying it instead of worrying about getting into a place that doesn't even exist.
2006-12-13 19:55:02 · answer #5 · answered by manderso750 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to regret your children to regret your sin. I too have a friend in your situation. She can acknowledge that what she did was wrong and repent and not do it again, but God gave her a gift in her little boy and she sees this baby as His grace to turn her heart back to Him.
Your sin is wrong, but God in His mercy and grace gave you 2 beautiful children to be a blessing in your life. If we let Him, He can always turn our sin around and bless us. You never have to think you should regret the kids. If you've been forgiven, move on. You don't have to live with guilt or shame, forgiveness restores purity. It's all good.
2006-12-13 19:49:45 · answer #6 · answered by BaseballGrrl 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you can say according to God's standards I failed and confess to God that His ways are higher than your ways, and that you know in His eyes this was wrong and that you don't want it to happen again. God will forgive you. You love those little children, Jesus does too. Put the past behind you and move forward with faith in God to make the right decision today. God Bless, Child of God.
2006-12-13 19:54:11 · answer #7 · answered by angel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it is okay to regret the sin, but not regret your children. in fact being thankful for your blessing. God forgives us and wants us to recognize our sin, and not stay in it. i was a child born out of wedlock. but thankfully, my identity is not in that, but in Christ. perhaps the regret is not being completely in God's will but thankful that He was able to bless you with your angels.
2006-12-13 19:52:18 · answer #8 · answered by work in progress 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Children are a gift from God. Just repent, and you'll be fine. Don't regret what you cannot fix. Just focus on the present and the future.
2006-12-13 19:48:38 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
thats a tough one...i would have to say that if god has blessed you with those little angels just make sure you bless him by telling them about him....as for the forgiveness if you have accepted christ their is no more sin in your past...we have problems accepting the fact that no matter what we have done christ gives you a blank slate...if you know christ stop thinking about it and just raise your kids in his glory....
2006-12-13 19:48:09 · answer #10 · answered by Robert K 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋