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Okay, so the thing is, i leave my apartment door unlocked when i'm home. yesterday, my girlfriend walks in, starts calling me by my pet names and starts to hug me, kiss my ears and act like as if nothing in the past two weeks or so has happened. she starts going through my kitchen and making herself some food. i was like "WTF??". i was a bit cinfused. seriously, i thought we agreed to be on a 'break' but yet she has resumed, w/o discussing so,...to act as if she's the way she was before we agreed to the 'break'. not only this but i think she thinks that we're back together. i just get the feeling. i know that i was prepared to be doing my own thing with my own life but now i'm in this situation where i dont know where she stands. i'm afraid if i go back to resume being a boyfriend (which i'm torn about doing)...she'll eventually want the break to resume
2006-12-13 11:36:16 · 11 answers · asked by dieseljeanzdylan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I cannot believe you let her get away with that. When she walked through the door you should have asked her what she was doing there. She wanted the break. You cannot let her stroll back in as if nothing has happened. Ditch her and find someone who shoots from the hip.
2006-12-13 11:40:34 · answer #1 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. No, no, no, no. Simply NO. Initially, if that were genuine then there could be no single mothers OR single fathers, no need for child aid, no deadbeat mothers and fathers and no absentee dad and mom. Kids do not cement a relationship - EVER. The only approach to "cement" a relationship is for the 2 folks worried in it to thoroughly commit to one another, forsaking all others, to share mutual love and respect, and to haven't any wish to ever be with any one else ever again. A baby is a blessing, and the icing on the cake. Besides, any girl who will get pregnant for the sole purpose of retaining her man around is getting pregnant for the fallacious cause, and the child would be the one to endure for it. Maybe a decent man will stick around out of obligation to the child, however most likely now not out of duty to the girl. And why on this planet would you even desire a man who most effective stayed in view that of the baby? Why would not you wish to have him to remain on the grounds that of YOU? And no longer all people sees having a youngster as a "lifelong commitment". I personally know a girl whose husband left her when she was 4 months pregnant, got here back after the little one used to be born, acquired her pregnant again after which left once more, at four months pregnant. He has due to the fact that signed over rights to his kids and has in no way made an try to be of their lives again. The arena is sadly full of people precisely like him.
2016-08-10 01:22:13 · answer #2 · answered by rosebeckjr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Number one. When a relationship is rocky from the get go it will get even worse. I have never dated anyone twice. That means that if there was enough ground for them to break up with me or visa versa then it or something else will happen again. Being in a relationship means that you work through the hard times together. I respect her choice for working on her dreams but if she had any intentions of sharing the rest of her life with you then she wouldn't be pushing you away now when times are so hard for her.
Two. to have someone on a leash is no way to show them that you care. If she loves you then she would want you there to lean on after a hard days work and study. It seems like she loves you but may not be in love with you. That is a bad way to put it but it happens and it happens often in rocky relationships. To keep from having your heart broken anymore then I would just break it of for good. If it was this easy to break now then it will get even easier the next time for her. I hate that it didn't work out but you have a life too and you much keep you head clear so that you can follow your dreams.
No matter what happens I hope it works out for you. Good Luck Honey
2006-12-13 11:45:20 · answer #3 · answered by Feather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to tell her your concern. Let her know you are not comfortable just picking up where you left off without at least talking about things first. Most relationships don't just magically fix themselves by seperation alone. Any solid relationship takes work. Nothing really good comes easy. Who's to say that you don't end up back in the same "break" boat if you don't fix the problem that got you there to begin with. Truth be known, it almost sounds like you are the one who doesn't want to be with her now. Be honest with yourself. You aren't doing her any favors if you get back together with her and you don't really feel that way about her anymore.
2006-12-13 11:43:56 · answer #4 · answered by Goddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her now and just tell her you want to know whats going on. It's not fair to you that she leaves you in limbo.
If she says she wants to resume the relationship and you agree to it, then later she does the separation thing again tthen you need to follow thru on it because shes just playing head games with you.
2006-12-13 11:43:29 · answer #5 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is afraid your relationship isn't strong enough to survive a long "break". Maybe she is insecure and afraid you will replace her if she isn't around. Tell her how she is making you feel . Ask HER what SHE really wants from you. You aren't a mind-reader, are you?
2006-12-13 11:41:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront her. Life is short..... The game women play is oout of this world. So on that note. Confront her... the worse that can happen is the truth.
2006-12-13 11:40:15 · answer #7 · answered by rarchelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to hit the road SHE WANTED A BREAKbut now you find a wonderful feeling of relief,go enjoy being a single man.have her do the laundry before u kick her *** to the curb
2006-12-13 11:41:51 · answer #8 · answered by Jon S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u love her break wouldn`t be that long but if u have no intention of gettin back wit her just tell her
2006-12-13 11:40:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just move on. they love to play games.
been there done that
2006-12-13 12:29:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋