Will I didn't really adopt a kid but I was wondering when is the right time to tell them.
2006-12-13 11:34:57 · 35 answers · asked by alexia s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I feel that I would wait until they are much older. The reason is because you wouldn't want them to have difficulties in school. I hope this helps. Waiting is best. I'm a Christian and I'll pray for you tonight.
2006-12-13 11:38:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
about 10
2006-12-13 11:36:20 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Sweet Girl♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really believe it depends on the emotional maturity of the child. My husband adopted my daughter from my first marriage when she was a baby. He knew at some point he would have to tell her and I think we he felt they we both ready(she was around 9) he sat down with her and told her. She's 12 now and doesn't look at him like anything but her father. For our situation, I believe that was the best time.
2006-12-13 11:43:05 · answer #3 · answered by gymspirit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As soon as they are old enough to comprehend what adoption means. If a child finds out from another source other than the parent they will have trust and identity issues for a LONG time. Life is complicated enough! When parents don't tell it's their own insecurities about how the child will treat/luv them or if the child will seek out their birth parents.
2006-12-13 11:39:53 · answer #4 · answered by Meems 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister is not my neice's biological mother and she is 8 years old. She hasn't told her yet. I think she should tell her now if not sooner. I think that if you tell them when they are young its easier for them to deal with it. There is a great children' s book written by Jamie Lee Curtis called, "Tell me again about the night I was born." It's about a little girl about 3 or 4 maybe, who loves to hear the story about the day her parents found out that the biological mother was in labor and how her parents went to pick her up from the hospital. Its a cute story.
I think that if you explain to your children how much you loved them and were excited about being their parent, children will understand. Your story can be beautiful too. And you will save yourself the heartache of having someone else tell her. Good luck.
2006-12-13 11:44:27 · answer #5 · answered by cutencurley_05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know.. I have always know I was Adopted.. It was an Open Adoption so I was Able to See my family.. Other then my birthmother.. she wasnt allowed around me.. but I would tell my child they were Adopted when They could understand what Adoption Actually ment :)
2006-12-13 11:39:30 · answer #6 · answered by asekay79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am adopted and learned at a very early age (around 6). I always appreciated my parents honesty on the matter. I have known some teens to really take it hard. It seems that the longer parent wait to tell them, the harder it becomes for them to accept it. I believe that when you are younger, you easily accept things and know throughout your childhood that your parents want what is best for you.
2006-12-13 11:41:35 · answer #7 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Soon as they are old enough to know what it means so they will not be shocked in their preteen or teen years when they have enough shocking stuff going on. There are alot of wonderful books that can help and even special books and jewelry for adopted people.
2006-12-13 11:41:14 · answer #8 · answered by tam4givin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was an adopted child and it isn't really all that weird, don't tell them too late because that could ruin your relationship with them !!!! Tell them when you think it's the right time .
2006-12-13 11:39:19 · answer #9 · answered by Marilyn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 2 adopted kids, they have always known they're adopted from the beginning, it just comes up occasionally in conversation.
2006-12-13 11:37:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋