my grandad died when i was 6. i dont know anything about him(and i mean pretty much nothing)exept that he died of pancreatic cancer. no-one talks about him so i dont understand what really happened. i think my mum once said that he told us not to see him anymore when i was a toddler(basically he ran away) and that grandad lost alot of weight and looked very ill.
lately my dad has been very distant and i was happy about it since i dont like my dad at the moment but the last few times he's been over to see me he has lost alot of weight and he's been looking quite ill, my dad told us that he has been ill and is now better but he told us a bulls**t story. even if it was true its got me thinking, if grandad died of cancer does that mean my dad's chances of getting it are higher
I may hate my dad but i love enough to not want him to get cancer
2006-12-13 11:29:05 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
i would ask someone in the family but for some reason no-one will talk about it. i could say it's cos they find it hard but my mum, who lost her son(my half brother) when he was 4y/o, tells me about his heart condition and what he was like. my dad wont tell me one thing about my grandad he'll just make a joke about something and talk about that.
2006-12-13 11:37:07 · update #1
peter s, im not a spoiled brat. the reason i dislike my dad is cos he f**ked a girl who was young enough to be his daughter and younger than my brother!,he lied about sleeping with her, then had a kid with her once again lieing about it and then making me lie to my mother about it. i'm always sticking up for him and i got put in the hospital cos of it (one of that girl's family came looking for my dad and found me instead)
2006-12-13 11:49:23 · update #2
gilly i didnt say i wanted him to die i said i may hate him but i love him enough to want him live.
2006-12-13 11:53:45 · update #3
it can be in your genes and if it is that could be the situation sorry to tell you this but maybe you'd need to ask a doctor!
2006-12-13 11:31:25 · answer #1 · answered by Katie G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pancreatic cancer, heredity...? In short, no. In the several hundred of patients i have seen with pancreatic cancer, only a handful had a relative with pancreatic cancer, just bad luck. The mistake comes as some of the causes of pancreatic cancer can be hereditry, a big difference.
I would doubt he has pancreatic cancer, but dramatic weight loss is a sign of an underlying neoplastic process. There are a lot of other conditions that can cause this though. If you are concerned enough to be worried about his health, and to have defended him in the past, then speak to him, and ask him what has been wrong.
2006-12-16 07:11:34 · answer #2 · answered by grizzler69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had cancer 2 and a half years ago, there was a tumour the size of a grapefruit which had to be cut out along with my right kidney and a few other odds and ends.
10 months ago my father had the same thing, a tumour on his kidney but luckily it was found very early and he just had a small operation with very quick recovery.
I spoke to my consultant who said that many cancers are genetic but there is no rule that it will affect father and son, etc.
The can affect 5 generations and then miss ten, then hit one and then miss three, there is no pattern to it.
The technology to study some cancers has vastly improved over the last 5 years, others which are rare get a lot less investigation.
It will only be a guessing game for you untill he comes clean with the truth, his medical information is confidential so you can only find out from him.
Maybe you are too distant for him to confide in but is there someone else closer he might have told?
2006-12-13 19:38:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him straight and ask him to be truthful. Tell him how you felt about his affair and talk about it with him. Your an adult now, we all make mistakes, you've got to move on and accept what happened even if you can't forgive him [its not being disloyal to your Mum.] You are not responsible for covering his tracks and he should know that never mind take a beating for it. He is the only Dad you have and will ever have spend little time with him if its easier. Wishing you Luck it sounds very complicated. I hope your circumstance improve soon. BE STRONG GIRL!
2006-12-14 11:17:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get off the love-hate thing. It doesn't become you.
There is evidence that bepoel may be pre-disposed to certain types of cancer, but nothing is certain. You cannot catch cancer from someone else. You can get it from smoking, chemical hazards, lifestyle habits, and so on.
If you Dad has cancer and hasn't told you, there's a reason. If you want to know, stop being a spoiled brat (I hate him...) and ask. You'll find that you'll regret not talking with him while he's still around.
2006-12-13 19:34:53 · answer #5 · answered by Peter S 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It's possible as we all pretty much know some cancer is hereditary. As for being angry with him and hoping he might die!
Not such a good thing I hated my step-dad even though he loved me loads, when he died I was gutted. "You know you love him or you would not be asking about it". Trust me you will hate your self for saying that if he should die. My advice make up with him he won't be round forever and you'll miss him when he's gone. IT'S KNOWN AS A LOVE HATE RELATIONSHIP!
All the Best.
Gilly.
2006-12-13 19:43:03 · answer #6 · answered by Gilly 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i bet you don't hate your dad as much as i hate mine. my dad send me to arabic schools all the way to the thrid grade and i couldn't understand anyone, we left america a few months after i was born, and went to america. i'am the only child who didn't see the country were i was born. my two older siblings did,my half brother did, my mom did, and my dad. my younger sister is the lucky one cause she lives in the country who she is born. with us of course, she's 10 years old. i've also been to uneducated schools, and failed two grades. the last time i talked to my dad about the whole me not seeing were i was born thing, he just said "great great". and he doesn't even care about my birthday.
2006-12-21 15:41:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cancer can strike randomly, it can happen to anyone, but if you have a family history your chances of getting it are higher. Sit down and talk to him, maybe he will open up. Good Luck!
2006-12-13 19:32:09 · answer #8 · answered by Alyss K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every single one of us have nearly the same chance of getting any cancer at any age apart from the male/female parts.
2006-12-20 14:47:35 · answer #9 · answered by neil p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pancreatic cancer is sometimes hereditary - in around 10% to 20% of cases.
See these sites for more information:
http://pathology2.jhu.edu/pancreas/hered.cfm
http://www.latimes.com/news/printedition/asection/la-na-pancreas13dec13,1,7977328.story?coll=la-news-a_section
2006-12-13 19:34:06 · answer #10 · answered by mcfifi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say this but if it is cancer of the pancreas it is hereditry
Go and talk to your Dad you could regret it ... I did xx
2006-12-13 19:33:27 · answer #11 · answered by toon_tigger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋