Im Catholic. Getting married?

Question

Id love to get married in a church. Im catholic but not practising. Ive been to cathlic weddings in the past and they drag on, so could i get married in a 'church and just have a simple ceromony?

Answer 1

not if the priest has anythiing to say about it

Answer 2

There is no such thing as making your own ceremony in a Catholic Church. You have to follow the tradition or not use the church, sorry.
You also have to be a member of that church, or your soon to be spouse has to for a period from 6 months to a year, depending on the church and they will require you to attend some services leading up to your wedding since you are not active members.

Answer 3

Yes.

My husband are non-practising Catholics but still married in a Catholic church for our parents sake but without all the Nuptial Mass trimmings. From recollection the ceremony went for around 20 or 30 minutes at the most.

Answer 4

My fiance and I are both Catholic and are getting married in a Catholic church - we just chose not to include a 'nuptial mass' and so the ceremony will only take about 30 mins. You will have to have marriage lessons but the amount depends on the church you are marrying at - we had one 2 hour session and that was it, but friends of ours have had to go for a few weeks.

Answer 5

You could get married in a church if you are a practicing Catholic, not just a cradle Catholic. Not all Catholic weddings are long - it's all in what you choose; you don't have to have a full Mass.
Maybe it's time you found a parish, talked to a priest, and went through the pre-marital classes.
Depends on if you want to re-capture your faith and if you plan to raise your children Catholic --- and what faith your boyfriend is, and what he wants to do with raising children, etc.
I think you have a lot of thinking and research to do.

Answer 6

My husband and I weren't practicing either...we went to the Catholic Church we were baptized in (ended up the same for us) in our old hometown and made an appointment with the Priest. He had no problem with marrying us....never had to attend classes...we also gave a donation of $1000.00 to the church for the easiness and offering to allow our ceremony there. Ours was long though as we wanted the hole sha-bang.
You can have a simple one...without communion and therefore shortens the time in half...but most Priests are offended by this choice as communion is the whole reason for mass.
Now, I have friends who have been turned away at their church...or went through hell to get to that day.
The Priest will want to know why Catholic now? Is it for you or your parents? Register at your church now...go to mass at least 2 times a month so that you can put your envelope in. When asked...didn't know you were supposed to register...just put cash in the baskets on Sundays. Play dumb...don't lie to the Priest though!

Answer 7

If you have the type of Catholic wedding that doesn't involve Communion, it does not drag. It last under one hour. My husband and his family are very religious and as a compromise I had a Catholic wedding but just not with the communion. I am so glad I did this because our children for some strange reason like to look at those wedding photos.

Answer 8

If you want to get married in Church one would have thought that your were Religious ie attended Church on a regular basis and therefore was a follower of Christ. Just because you are Catholic makes no difference really, I think you need to get back to basics and seek why you want this. I seem to think there is a DEEP seated reason perhaps from parents etc. What does your Partner think. His opinion is VERY important if things are to last.
Discuss it with him to see what you REALLY want. Explain what in your question a "simple ceremony" is, is it a cop out really?????

Answer 9

I think for a Catholic church to marry you, without a ton of headaches, you need to be practicing in the Catholic church and you need to be a member--a confirmed member of the church.

You can still get married in a church. Try a non-denominational Christian church, they're pretty open minded. If getting married in the Catholic church is very important to you--and I agree the Catholic wedding ceremonies just go on and on and on--then get your butt to a Catholic church, talk to the Priest and see what you need to do. If you have been confirmed Catholic by another church they'll probably request a confirmation certificate or it may be as simple as you just attending.

Catholics like to make things difficult. I too am Catholic, but I don't practice it too much. My cousin requested me to be her son's Godmother this past April. I am, but the church I've considered to be my Catholic church wouldn't sponsor me because I wasn't confirmed a Catholic. So I just attended as a Christian sponsor. But yea, Catholics like to make it a rough ride.

Good luck with it, though.

Answer 10

its really up to you. i am get marry in a catholic church and i don't really dont attend church as i should even though i was raise as a catholic i dont have my sacraments so every sunday i attend until Feb. when i get confirm. and then comes the counseling but iam willing to take the time because that is something i want to do and it would really make my parent happy. oh yeah i know they drag maybe the priest can make it somewhat shorter

Answer 11

I'm getting married to a Catholic and we have talked it over with the priest that we don't want a mass with it.
Make sure you discuss it with your priest. We are having an evening wedding and so we want lots of time to party afterwards and generally wedding ceremonies last about an hour.

Congrats and good luck.