I am a good woman always helping other people. My problem is that people tend to take my kindness for weakness. I am tired of people getting over on me. My biggest problem is that my man treats me like I'm secound class. I know that he is still cheating with the same woman. Why am I so stupid? I'm always considering other people feeling and why can't I be treated with the same respect? I have turned down a doctor and an older guy who I know are good men for this one good man in many ways but nasty in others. I have been to the point that I really didn't think that other men would look at me or I can't get another man. When a man tries to talk to me I get the feeling of guilt when I'm not guilty of anything. Someone please give me some good advice.
2006-12-13 11:02:02 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Gal, your thoughts and acts are only half governed by your conscience. You only stop yourself from doing something against your conscience. Now, it's time to listen to your heart and let your conscience determine your partner's infidel act. Is your heart telling you it's okay for him to continue cheating on you? Or is your heart telling you it's very wrong to cheat regardless of the person?
I recall reading somewhere a quote by Martin Luther King Jr. 'Nobody can ride on your back unless your back is bent.' I'm not sure if that's the exact quotation, but the point is it's extremely relevant to you. You've allowed yourself to be victimised and it's high time you get out there to grab what you truly deserve. You have a beautiful heart - righteous and giving. Don't let that unfaithful man continue treating you this way!
2006-12-13 11:10:42 · answer #1 · answered by citrusy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most women won't leave the man that treats them like crapola because they think that is their worth, they don't deserve better. I'm here to tell you girl that you are and you really have to get rid of this guy. What if he came home and has sex with you and gave you HIV or some other STD? You have to work on your self esteem right now girl or your going to whined up in a world of hurt. Please talk to someone that is not your looser boyfriend, and maybe that person can shine some real sunshine in your life. You treat yourself very poorly so you get what you deserve right? Wrong! By asking right now you are on your way. I really think that your are a queen and deserve to be treated like one. There are so many wonderful men out there looking for a queen ok so start looking for your king and not fart the messenger!!!! Good luck hun and happy holidays. P. S. I really hope you drop kick the butt head right out the door!
2006-12-13 11:22:39 · answer #2 · answered by Ms.Deb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First start by treating your own self respectfully, by not allowing yourself to EVER be treated that way. When others see that you are a person who would never allow yourself to be treated like that, then you EARN respect from others. Some people like to take advantage of others they consider weaker. Consider taking a martial arts classes like Karate, they help build self esteem and confidence and teach respect. You might even meet a great guy there. Good Luck.
2006-12-13 11:12:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my dear..the same happened to me after being with this guy for 11 yrs. I split with him when I found out. If a man treats you badly you will not have much confidence. Men like that destroy your self esteem....they take everything away from you untill you are an empty shell.
Mean while they are living it up...you see our misery feeds their egos. Can you imagine...like a vampire. By the time my ex finished with me I was ready for a lunatic asylum...a year later and I am in college and almost feeling like a person again. I loved my ex very much. Imagine him calling me to tell me he had always been unfaithful to me....well I am alive and his life ...from what I hear has hit rock bottom.
Leave him now...or ten years will become 20
2006-12-13 11:11:54 · answer #4 · answered by JadeNicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you just love him too much or more than he loves you to be treated that way. A cheater will always be a cheater. It is about time you love yourself first. 10 years is a long time. Accept other proposals more worthy of your affections Choose a faithful man with no vices. But it is hard to find one nowadays. Too many competitions and temptations. Perfest guys are hard to find. We all get over unrelinquish love in time. Why not the doctor to mend your broken heart ?
2006-12-13 11:11:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will always be in a catch-22 situation until you view the nature of men and women as entities that do not operate on a sentimental or emotional level but one of instinct and primal urges.
We men, whether doctors, lawyers, truck drivers or short-order cooks etc.. will always be men first! Not that I am condoning promiscuity, but we view the relationship from another point of view. Our spouse and our family is our future. Sex with another woman is just that, sex!
Let's face it men and women have primal urges that have been suppressed through the conditioning we have received. The world will continue to harbor relationships that offer nothing but heartache and strife until we can learn to view things as they are.
I am not saying you should just grin and bear it, because that would only lengthen your period of suffering. I am saying you should learn to put things in perspective and enjoy and take advantage of each for what they are worth.
2006-12-13 11:12:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to love and respect yourself. You have to teach people how to treat you. It sounds like you've been with this guy a while and are just comfortable with accepting the way things are and wishing they could be how they used to be. If you keep doing things the same way, you'll keep getting the same results.
2006-12-13 11:11:40 · answer #7 · answered by DB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, girlfriend just kick him to the curb. Once a man cheats or beats,on a women they never stop. They will belittle you to believing that you can't get anyone else, that you are a nobody. Take it from me I have been their the best advice I can give you is to just leave. Because you will never get what you long for from this so called man.
2006-12-13 11:11:17 · answer #8 · answered by Freckels 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 06:19:04 · answer #9 · answered by rybicki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away from him before you end up there for another ten years. If you feel second class then stay but if you feel you deserve better then go get it . Don't wake up every day knowing your man is with someone else and developing low selfesteem from his cheating. Get out while the gettin is good
2006-12-13 11:12:31 · answer #10 · answered by Great one 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋