Hey.
My husband says i'm a lazy lover. Its not that i don't enjoy sex its just that i feel a bit self conscious, and i always second guess myself about what i should do or not. I admit that i rarely initiate sex, but i do enjoy the act and look forward to it. What i need is a few suggestions from ladies and gentlemen on what to do inthe bedroom to show that i'm interested and not at all lazy to make love. Thank you so much.
- he's even suggested that perhaps i'm not interested in him sexually anymore. I really need to show him exactly how much i am. Also, he says that i don't take charge when i'm on top. So any help, advice, suggestion would be really appreciated.
2006-12-13 10:54:06 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Usually when a man calls you a lazy lover they mean you are not moving, you are just laying there like a dead fish. Try taking an active roll in your love making. Being the one to initiate is a good start but put some moves on him, girl. Show him what you are working with.
2006-12-13 10:57:09 · answer #1 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lazy Lover
2016-11-08 21:20:16 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are myriad suggestions I could make but none would suffice were it not before you rid yourself of the low self-esteem and the rancid socio-moral conditioning you have subjected your self to and have been a subject of.
Sex is rarely enjoyed while one is contemplating the notions that have been passed on by a moralistic society. It is more difficult yet to find the joy and excitement in the act when you consider yourself inferior to your lover!
I am sure the things you are doing now are enough to please yourself and your partner. You should try to enhance the act by just letting go. Be natural in following the instincts that you surely have. Be assertive and expressive. Be The 'you' you know is in you! Once you have crossed that plane you can concentrate on perfecting technique and more pleasure will surely follow!
2006-12-13 11:03:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lol, yeah, I know what you mean. I would say you need to initiate the sex more often. He is just tired of have to be the one to initiate sex all the time. If you are self concious, well thats another thing... Either you can tell him how you feel about that, or you can look at it this way. He is married to YOU, and he is not going anywhere. There is nothing to be selfconcious about, he loves you. Maybe he wants you to be more enthusiastic in bed, be naughty...lol. Anyways, goodluck!
2006-12-13 10:59:34 · answer #4 · answered by __XXX___ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
look up some different positions and suggest them in the bedroom. be careful because some of them can be tricky. or perhaps suggest a trip to a naughty novelty store or look at a site online that sells toys. also consider initiating sex more often.
2006-12-13 10:57:32 · answer #5 · answered by Zenobia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My first suggestion is in response to your statement, "in the sack." Many guys get tired of having sex in the same place, "in the sack." I would try suprising him by jumping him in the kitchen, the couch, the washer (while running), in the car, at a drive-in movie. The point is just grap him, and play with his manhood, whip in out and pull up your skirt. You can get it on lot's of places using this method. You can also tease him like this, go down on him while he's driving and then give him nothing till you get home. If you start doing this he should start getting into it more and then you can get satisfied more in the way you like. If you like the bed then do it a couple times other places then do it in bed and have him do all the work. Good luck
2016-03-17 21:35:06 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was one of the lazy lover.you could buy yourself for you and him a good book that will make your fantasy go up,a good romantic movie. NOT PORN.you could put bubbles in your bath.and buy fake roses pedals put them on your bed. candle on a silver plate with a good bottle of wine that you both can in joy together and put some ribbons on 2 wine glasses tie them together that you will drink at the same time.get passion fruit that you could taste together.or if you have a fire place put a nice blank it the ones that has lot furry one candles,wine,passion fruits,just use a little positive thinking or imagination.and don't forget to have eyes contact and a big smile.it worth en because if you love him well you will have to wake up before its to let Hon.i wish you all my best for you and him.........oh ya don't forget that's loving not sex........
2006-12-13 12:07:19 · answer #7 · answered by cilia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you self concious? Let it rip in the bedroom. Let him enjoy the fact that he pleases you! When you get on top let it all go as far as you two can take it! It sounds like you are holding back to avoid sharing that wild intimate moment of pleasure. DON'T HOLD BACK! He deserves to know he can drive you wild!
I feel proud when my wife locks up in orgasm!
2006-12-13 11:00:35 · answer #8 · answered by the_pharaoh109 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A glass of wine might help, some lingerie, some candlelight, some great music, take a hot relaxing bath and tell hubby you're ready to "cuddle", that's the word I use, it always leads to something more. Good Luck!!
2006-12-13 10:59:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know I will get kicked for this but hey, for a sister? I'll give it a try.
While on top, masterbate. Put his hand under yours, or on top. Most guys go wild and love to "help" with this little "chore".
Just try it once, honey. You'll both have fun - promise, promise, promise!
2006-12-13 11:06:04 · answer #10 · answered by outdone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋