This happened to me when I was in my early 20s, I slept with a guy I liked on the third date and then he commented to one of his friends, "it was easy to screw her" and never called me again. It happens to women all the time. Why do men sleep with a woman and then diss her because she didn't make them wait? Nobody held a gun to the man's head and made him sleep with the woman. Why would you feel the need to be mean to a woman just because she agreed to have sex with you? Can men ever take a woman seriously if she puts out on the first or second date, or within the first few days of knowing them? If not, why not? Aren't women allowed to have sexual urges too?
2006-12-13 10:52:45 · 21 answers · asked by Very Nice Indeed! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well I am a 35 year old female and have learned some painful lessons in my time.
The bottom line (no matter how hard it is) is that if you really like a guy NEVER EVER give it up until you're sure he will stick around. This may mean dating for a month or two which sucks. But...at least you'll know who likes you and who doesn't. The one who likes you and respects is the one who waits and does NOT pressure you at all.
And it is a double standard. NO we women cannot do it on the first or second date. It is a game and if we succumb to our urges, you will likely never hear back from that guy again and then feel like crap on top of it all.
HOLD OUT LADIES.
2006-12-13 11:09:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If a male put his business in the air and called a woman out her name ,----HE'S A BOY! Men don't do that. These boys try 2 diss women because, they feel, If she gave it 2 me that easy she must give it 2 everybody like that. They feel she's a whore some1 you don't take home to momma. What they don't realize some of the ones playing "hold out" is the biggest freaks out there. Boys need 2 treat a woman mean ,for they don't know how 2 handle their emotions. They will never take a woman serious , maturity of a woman has a boy beat. Now a REAL MAN ,loves a woman for what she wants in the bedroom and will make her feel secure in the decision she made. He would compliment her on how she made him feel. Phone her, invite her to dinner and get to know her better. He wants 2 know who she is , especially if she put it on him. She would never hear her biz on the street.
2006-12-14 06:10:08 · answer #2 · answered by BK1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm not llike that, so I thnk that some men like to be control freaks and they get what they want and walk away, with what I heard called a "social register" under their belt. There are a lot of them out there, and that gives us good guys a bad rap. I've always taken women seriously even though I'm still looking for a serious realtionship, I consider that sleeping with a woman should be a special time because it will lead to a lasting relationship with more good times ahead.
Randy
2006-12-13 11:11:19 · answer #3 · answered by superduperchef45 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men like that were raised with total and utter disrespect for women.
A decent man would never do something like that.
But most men will try to get a woman to have sex with them; it's part of their nature. You can always say no! Just because you feel like women should be able to satisfy their random sexual urges (and they can if they want to) doesn't make it an acceptable thing to do, for either of the sexes.
2006-12-13 10:57:10 · answer #4 · answered by Bad Kitty! 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
because most men just want some as$, then move to the next not really meaning to be mean by not calling again it's just they got what they wanted and the women didn't make him wait
Most of the time when a man is forced to wait he ends up liking the woman thats what turns to a relationship
2006-12-13 10:59:42 · answer #5 · answered by Great one 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Men, are afraid of commitment. Plus, they are dogs. They will say and do whatever it takes to get what they want, and once they get their little noodle wet they go to the next victim, and us as women let this happen our emotions take over and we give in. It's one big vicious circle that will keep going until the end of time. Men don't know a good thing when they got it they just want another notch in their belt.
2006-12-13 11:03:53 · answer #6 · answered by Freckels 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men in their early 20s are boys.
At that age sex is like candy and the boys want to eat everything. As for why they would talk bad about the girl is to discourage other guys from sampling the goods. It is sooo stupid, but so are boys at that age.
2006-12-13 11:06:57 · answer #7 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some men think if your that easy with them then your easy for any one.they are usually the one that's out for the notch on the belt thing. And I really don't understand if a man sleeps with 100,000 women then he is a sex symbols and a women sleeps with one she's trash. Think of what we are taught young girls don't by the mother and go get her by the men in the families, what a load of crap.
2006-12-13 11:01:00 · answer #8 · answered by martha g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey...if you had the answer that then you'd be a very rich woman. But it's just the way that society sees us. But I see it like this...I too have the urge to have loud, raunchy, uninhibited sex and will do so regardless of what anybody says. I think that Ludicrous said it best when he said..."We want a lady in the street and a freak in the bed."
2006-12-13 10:57:35 · answer #9 · answered by vernise2679 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some men have big mouths , are indiscrete and seem to think
that bedding a woman makes them a real man...
Some women suffer from the same general faults...
2006-12-13 10:55:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋