guy asked friend to go to dance, she's not interested, what to say? fast PLEASE.
2006-12-13 10:39:09 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this person is "kinda sorta" like a brother to her though.
2006-12-13 10:42:49 · update #1
Tell him your dating already:-)
2006-12-13 10:40:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
KISS them. (Keep It Simple, Stupid)
No, really. Just telling the guy she's not interested will work - although he will probably have a follow up question like:
"What did she say, exactly?"
"Did she say why?"
"How does she feel about me?"
If you're relaying the info, try being honest, and to the point.
If you're the one refusing the date, tell the person you're not interested without adding "I like you as a friend." For boys, it's the kiss of death - "I'm really not interested, but thanks for the compliment, Billy." (or whatever his name might be).
You don't need to worry about it any further. Being honest when it comes to asking or being asked out is always the best (and easiest) policy.
Hope that helps.
2006-12-13 10:44:49 · answer #2 · answered by concierge1nvs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way you will not hurt his feelings. Just pad it by not using terms like "nice guy" or "just friends" with him. If you are going there then tell him you're doing a girl's night out and hang out with your girls, and if you are not going just tell him you don't want to go to that dance. Of course if you're more skilled, tell him you'll see him there but bring a girl whom you could hook him up with and have her do your dirty work and distract him. That last solution will not hurt him at all, he'll think you're the coolest chick in the world.
2006-12-13 10:42:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she plans on going to the dance (alone, with friends, or with another date): "Thank you for the offer, but no."
If she isn't going to the dance at all: "Thank you, but I have other plans that evening."
Don't make excuses about fake boyfriends, being a lesbian, hates dancing, etc - it took guts for the guy to ask her, so he at least deserves the respect of an honest answer. And don't be vague about "maybe another time" or "I'll pass", because that gives him hope that maybe she'll say yes the next time he asks.
2006-12-13 10:46:43 · answer #4 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Appreciate the interest, but not interested.
Don't go with the whole "just friend's" bull. People respect honesty; they may not like it, but they respect it. It's a hell of a lot more respectful to tell me your not interested rather than pretend your interested in a friendship when you really aren't.
2006-12-13 10:43:25 · answer #5 · answered by John F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant not hurt his feelings. thats inevitable. best thing you can do is find him a date and tell him truthfully that girl one likes him but isnt interested (and dont give vague "your not my type" answers - if tis something specific and valid, then tell him) but girl two would like to go with him. and dont pawn the fat girl off on him - find him some one good.
If you cant find him a date at all, then just ell him that she is waiting for someone specific, has feelings for the other dude. either way is going to sting, but at least if you find him someone to go with hes not just a loser - you think hes a good guy and just arent into him.
2006-12-13 10:44:34 · answer #6 · answered by savgbst 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be nice to him even though you dont like him. Be honest and say It how you feel.Like" I am sorry I dont want to hurt your feelings but I am not interested in you like that". If he is upset there is not much you can do about it. Sometimes feelings get hurt regardless.
2006-12-13 10:43:47 · answer #7 · answered by vmaxer85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's a friend tell him you don't want to mess up the friendship because friendships are often lost in relationships. If he isn't that close, tell him you just have other things on your mind.
2006-12-13 10:42:18 · answer #8 · answered by confused? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No interested in having a relationship with anyone right now
2006-12-13 10:41:32 · answer #9 · answered by gypsygirl247 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I just ignore the guy or just say you are not ready for a relationship or u have a boyfriend or your a lesbian or say to him his to ugly
2006-12-13 10:43:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she going? If so, she can say she already promised it would be a girls nite. If shes not going, she already had plans with the family for that nite.
2006-12-13 10:41:54 · answer #11 · answered by MANDEE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋