Me and my sister always fight like 24/7...i am very tired of it but its like an addiction like everytime im bored i will go and maybe start a fight..but other than fighting or arguing there is no other time we can sit down and actually talk and note my sister is 11 and im 13...i meen i really want a good relationship with her...but she is so hard to live with and she can get pretty bitchy sometimes..what should i do? and my mom says its my fault that she acts this way is it?
2006-12-13 10:33:24 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Chances are you are both A LOT alike. Try spending time with her doing something you both enjoy! Sports/cooking/walking/a tv show/music. I'm sure if you discuss this with your mom she would help you decide on something to mend the gap between you two.
I used to argue with my sister and my brother when I was younger. You will both grow out of it, I promise!
2006-12-13 10:37:18 · answer #1 · answered by Steph 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the older child, you should be more mature and take the lead. Ask your sister if you can help her with her homework. Play with her, even if she still likes to play Barbies. I am 6 years older than my sister and I still played Barbies with her when she asked, when we were kids.
Try to do some activities together. Ride your bikes, play some tennis, something to do rather than sitting around picking fights. Work on a project together such as cleaning out closets, arranging drawers, maybe help each other re-arrange your rooms. If you share a room, try to make a divider with a large bookcase. One person has bookshelves and the other has a backboard to hang posters and photos on.
I am sure that right now, she thinks you are bitchy and hard to live with too., but it's up to you to set a good tone for the relationship.
2006-12-13 18:38:50 · answer #2 · answered by Stimpy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From the sounds of it....yes. But, since I'm an older sister, who had a younger sister, we fought too. It takes a common interest sometimes to get past the arguments. If you two have similar interests, why not make it a hobby together. That'd be a great way to get along. Also, if the two of you split up the chores between you, it will go faster, and you can go off and play, and you'll have found another way to get along. If your sister sees that you're sincerely trying to get along, and maybe to help, she won't be so cranky and grumpy around you. She'll relax and cooperate. Actions do speak louder than words, so you have to show her you really mean this. It would also be THE best Christmas present your mom ever had to have the two of you getting along.
2006-12-13 18:54:14 · answer #3 · answered by Alicia L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok me and my twin are almost like that we just take the time usually the next day or a fresh day to actually talk but ill tell you what my g-parents says just ignore. I say sing a song when she bugs u or if u really are that pathetic to start a fight find something to do itll change the way ppls look at you.
2006-12-13 18:36:33 · answer #4 · answered by hot-rocker chick-punk 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i have lots of sisters (ten!)and i know EXACTLY what you are going through because i have to share a room with five of them!!!! i just go outside to my "private space" to chill out (which is in the garage), but if i just have to be in the house, then i try ny best to ignore them! read a book, or better yet, listen to music (headphones) and turn up the volume on full blast!!! i usually try to piss them off, like my youngest sister, maera, can't play madden football, so when she bothers me, i ask her to play the game with me. like an idiot, she does, and when i beat her she goes off and cries in mom and dad's room! it's so funny! but i'm 16, and i know that one day, when i;m 18, i'll be able to move out... that's really the only thing that keeps me going! good luck!
2006-12-13 18:39:36 · answer #5 · answered by leuceigh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i was younger and I'm not that old (19) me and my sis used to fight all the time to but i think it was just a faze that we were both going through. but if that's not the case for you then i think that you need to tell your sis that is when you not fighting that you don't want to fight anymore and you would like her to be your best-friend because when it all comes down to it all we have is our family
2006-12-13 18:40:26 · answer #6 · answered by babygirl18_4sho 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I HAVE THE EXACT SAME PROBLEM accept my sister is 9 and i'm 13. just start bugging your mom or your dad.
2006-12-13 18:41:19 · answer #7 · answered by LovingJesusAndMusic! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try your best to do constructive activities with her that you both enjoy & you'll be building up some good memories! There's a lot of good answers from other posters! :)
2006-12-13 18:44:59 · answer #8 · answered by Nocine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get along with her. You won't have everything your way, but sit down with her and try to negotiate with her on what activity you both can do together.
2006-12-13 18:36:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is your fault.You just said when your bored you go to start some thing,Break that habit and do some thing elas
2006-12-13 18:45:31 · answer #10 · answered by helen l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋