it seems that all guys care about is a small waist, big but ,& big chest
2006-12-13 09:58:54 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Because those guys are just boys, wait to meet real men.
2006-12-13 10:01:54 · answer #1 · answered by Amy R 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well I know that's not ALWAYS the truth --look around you and see all the married and dating folks that make you wonder what do they see in the other?? you know what I mean a nice built man with a woman who is a plus size?? They have seen her for who she is not what she has on the outside--and what about a looker of a gal who is with those big teddy bear guys?? When you know they could just as easily love a hunky dude--I have faith in people for the most part and think that they look past what holds our insides in--But I think you are talking about the guys that check out a looker when she walks by --the reason you notice this is because they are more obvious than when they quick look or glance --they look at all the girls really they do --I have been married for 18 years and I know that I watch my husband watch the gals --Its ok tho I know who he goes home with--and besides that?? Who do you think is looking at me?? That's right all the OTHER guys :-) its all good some of us have the eyes, the hair (mine is past my knees) the breast, the long legs, the thin waist or great back side but unless you are a movie star you dont have it all --so dont sweat it you are being checked out
2006-12-13 10:13:23 · answer #2 · answered by skizzle-d-wizzle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you listen to what the "experts" say, its genetically programmed into us to want the most physically attractive mate. its supposed to be the best indication of health and fertility. That may have been true in the caveman times but i don't think that concept holds much truth in today's society.
With the scientifically augmented physic that's drilled into us from movies, ads and other media men are assuming that's what should be sought. Add to this the near "perfect" porn stars (what men does not watch porn?) and you can see why the "ideal" woman has to have a check list of items from full lips, shiny hair, silky skin, and all the items you listed in your question....That may give you an idea of where men get their laundry list of required attributes.
Then again, women try to be like barbie and men continue to be enthralled by the ditzy wanna be barbies around your local watering hole.
My advice, get involved in whatever interests you. Sculpture, music, art, etc....your guy will turn up and more than likely you will strike a chord when he is not even in the "seek and destroy" mode at a bar. Hope this helps.
2006-12-13 10:18:59 · answer #3 · answered by abeshalij 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down & have a talk with her about how she's not handling things with you in a way that works. Explain that you are interested in her, there is nothing to be jealous about - which works only if there really isn't. Then ask her if there is a way to work this out so she stops focusing on what you & other women. Stay firm & don't get into an anger match with her. If she can't response to the conversation reasonably or doesn't after a few days of sitting it, you really have little choice but to end it. She has an issue she isn't aware of & you can't fix it. Now if you are legitmately giving her reason for concern such as you do glance around & stare at other women... or if you are on the look out while out or even when you're not with her -- then you are the issue & fix it or find someone with less self-respect than her. I can't tell from here, so I included this possiblity, but it doesn't sound like it. Women don't have the same tendency to look that guys do. Women are less visual to begin with, & guys in our society have less showing. It's irrelevant that she looks at anyone else. If you try for the tit for tat approach, you're going to a less mature level & opening doors to lower level arguments that go nowhere. The problem isn't who she looks at. It's that she makes you feel uncomfortable & doesn't have a sense of trust & expresses it ongoingly instead of sitting down & working it out with you -- or with herself. Good luck.
2016-05-23 21:16:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I've been there, but really not all guys are like that. When you find the right one, the one that really loves you. He is going to do just that, love you, not criticize the way you look. Generally speaking guys are very visual people. But some really do have hearts, and sincerely care about what's on the inside.
2006-12-13 10:08:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, I often wonder that myself. Then again, I have a boyfriend who loves me. I'm not ugly, but I'm not some hot bomb-shell, and trust me--that perfect body is far from mine.
Yea, I'm self conscious about my body, but I try to look good. My boyfriend doesn't seem to care much about my looks though. I could seriously look like hell and he'd still love me and think I was beautiful.
Yea, guys are attracted by the eye first--so I think and believe, but a lot of it has to do with who you are. If you can make a guy laugh, show him a good time--not just in the bed; if you have a good personality, and you're someone he can talk to about anything--even sports... even when you know nothing about them... as long as you show interest in them or trying to understand them in my case, things just work out.
So, yea... they look at your looks but I really believe a real man is going to look beyond that, know you first and fall in love with you. As long as the man loves you, you're beautiful in sweats, frizzy hair and no makeup or in some high class, frilly form fitty, beautifully sexy gown and dressed to the nines and what not.
2006-12-13 10:05:07 · answer #6 · answered by rockerweenie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i like a good personality wit the small waist, big but and chest to.
2006-12-13 10:04:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats not true. Some guys find a small chest very cute.
2006-12-13 10:06:40 · answer #8 · answered by teenageperson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't women look past a guy's looks? I have a big nose, a skinny face, a long neck, and balding, and women don't like me because I am ugly.
Human beings are all superficial. It's our nature. If you are not superficial, something is wrong with you.
2006-12-13 10:14:39 · answer #9 · answered by NJboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, that's not all they care about...it's not even part of what some of them care about...but face it, humans are visual creatures and men moreso than women...we like "pretty" things...when we see something we find visually appealing, we usually want to examine it more closely and get to know more about it...
However, I know a number of overweight to downright obese women who have boyfriends, and their boyfriends are not unattractive or overweight men...so it's not so much what you look like (for the guys worth having) but who you are...
Just because you're not getting picked by the guys you find attractive, don't assume it's solely because of your appearance...
2006-12-13 10:04:27 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tisk... tisk ... the more mature ones do look past "a big butt and a smile" Your just meeting the wrong ones...the guys that are imature and jsut looking for a$$ are the ones out there hitting on women. The quiet guys that don't blindly go up to women and you normally don't run into are the one's you should probably talk to.
2006-12-13 10:02:37 · answer #11 · answered by eViL 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋