my girlfriend did something and I dont know what to think?

Question

So, to sum it all up my g-friend and this friend from home got in touch because he was coming into town for work. They hooked up 1/12 yrs. ago but apparently have no connection and are only friends. She told me about the meeting up but she failed to mention my name to him at ALL! she made plans with him and I was to be out of town so I changed my plans and came home to go out with them. When she found out I was coming she invited friends last second from work. I dont know why she did this. also she never told him I was coming out to the dinner. WHY? Did she try to cover it all up when she found out I was coming out with them. He was not very nice or inquisitive about me and then texted her when we got home "This is terrible" What do you all think he meant? She had no real good reason or explanation for anything and was not even pissed at him for making me uncomfortable. I think she should have defended me. She said she did not speak to him after that and did not respond to text. T/F

Answer 1

dude she is hiding something i would BE PISSED OFF

Answer 2

Gut instincts are important. Have been cheated on, and I ignored what was actually quite blatant - I couldn't see it at the time - but the little niggly feeling was there all right. If she is not bothered about how you felt about the situation, that in itself is bad news. If she cared enough, she would be bothered. She sounds a little complacent and cold to me. How do you think the situation can be resolved best? Don't be afraid to walk away from a relationship where you are not respected enough or cared for enough. NEVER make do. Everyone deserves better than that.

Answer 3

I am amazed at the answers you have got so far. You have no evidence at all that she is or was thinking of cheating. All you have is supposition. You are quite paranoid about it and the way you are reacting to this situation is the quickest way to push her away and into someone elses arms.

You need to stop reading her phone, stop obsessing about her - if you cannot trust her to spend time with an old friend then you have to assess whether you should be with her.

It is time for you to have a long talk with her - not about this other chap - about you and her and about trust and expectations. See if you can meet each other in the middle.

Good luck.

Answer 4

It sounds to me like she wanted to meet him alone for some catch up chat. However, she isn't in love with you enough to let him know she's taken. She might care about you, but if she thought you would react badly to hearing she wants to meet a male friend alone, then she would have felt more comfortable keeping it secret to avoid any emotional issues. I would say that she isn't trustworthy so perhaps its time to let her go and keep yourself open for new ladies to meet you. You can't have a relationship based on secrets or mis-trust. There should be no secret texting either. Follow your instincts and save yourself from further problems and let her go and look to move on. You may always be suspicious of her now even if she does nothing wrong. Its not worth torchering yourself. You can do it.

Answer 5

I think you need to grow up.

If you subject your girlfriend to the sort of Spanish Inquisition which requires that she give you a word by word account of their conversation, I don't blame her for being pissed off at you. You changed your plans to go out with her when she was meeting up with an old friend???? You what??? You weren't invited, so why impose yourself on them? Is she only allowed female friends?

You sound controlling, possessive and insanely jealous. If you love your girlfriend, you'll trust her, and if you don't really trust her, you're not in love, are you?

Answer 6

It does sound like she's dogging you a little bit, but maybe she's got some unresolved issue with him that she was trying to work out and didn't feel comfortable talking about with you there. (But she didn't feel comfortable with just you, the ex and her self...so she invited some friends?) I can't really speak for her, but maybe you should talk to her about it, discuss it?

If you can't talk to her about it and you don't trust her...dump her. Communication and trust are the tenets of a good, healthy relationship. Without them, you might as well be friends or alone.

Good luck, either way.

Answer 7

A bit complicated isnt it! If they have been friends for a while, then surely he must have known she was seeing someone?!
U can look at it in alot of different ways i guess..either she didnt mention you cos she wants to be a bit more than friends with him, which i think is the way you are taking it! Mayb he had a thing for her and she wants to let him down gently...actually, i really have no idea! Ask her outright, or txt him and ask him for the truth?!
Good luck!! xx
p.s..yes, she should have defended you!!

Answer 8

9 cases out of 10 what she's telling you is that she's with you yet she needs the alternative to attempt somebody else out sexually. as a count number of actuality, i'm able to assure she is already doing it. Hate to be the bearer of undesirable information. I propose you do an identical. in the journey that your morals limit that then seek until you detect somebody who's nicely suited and desires to be severe. Then pass with them. If she loves you she would be in a position to follow you and make you hers. shown actuality, females desire what they cant have and could deny it to the tip. So pass forward and supply me detrimental comments females yet you be responsive to that is authentic. It isnt until they advance older and mature do they understand to no longer settle for an a hollow. in any different case they could've stored plenty on the divorce because of the fact it could've by no skill got here approximately, and that they does not be caught along with his young babies... Edit: 6 weeks is wayyyyyy toooooo sooooooon to be severe!

Answer 9

She's still making up her mind about weather or not to stop the relationship, she's testing the water before she's alone to me this is a form of "emotional cheating" she's not considering you in this or your feelings. You might want to talk to her about this. Or she might just have been pissed off at you, so she made plans out out of anger, but when she came back to earth, she realized she had to fix it. In this case, she should have learned the lesson herself.

Answer 10

Sounds a bit suspect but you have to give her the benefit of the doubt. But if you feel so strongly about it and can't trust her then you should end it

A trust less relationship will not work, through in the green eyed monster then you're stuffed

Answer 11

She was planning to cheat on you. When she learned you were coming along on the outing, she invited friends so she would not feel uncomfortable.