2006-12-13 09:54:34 · 27 answers · asked by janet b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
take the plunge
2006-12-13 10:40:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to an older, female relative who has been happily married for many years - like grandma! There is also an excellent set of two books, "The Joy of Sex." It might be on DVD by now, who knows! You should also talk to your fiance. He might be just as nervous and if not, he can at least have time to prepare himself for initiating you into something beautiful. It only hurts the first time, and not bad, but if he knows what he is doing you won't be bothered by it that much. Don't let your fear rule you!
2006-12-13 10:02:49 · answer #2 · answered by Shadow Dancer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is afraid of sex at one time or the other, its a very personal thing you take all your clothes off and share body fluids with another person, but you are getting married and your first time will be with your husband whom you love and trust and what a better person to share body fluids with. You could try reading some good books but its not the same as the real thing good luck.
2006-12-13 10:01:37 · answer #3 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope the other knows! Sex isn't as big as they make it out to be. Just make sure you go slow the first time because it might hurt. you might bleed but it is okay. If you hurt real bad when you get done go take a bath. Not hot warm. And be it is your first time have him on top that way he can go in so far. If it is his first to he won't take long for him to do what he does to. You may not have your orgasam intell you learn more about yourself but he will do just fine. You could also go to stores that sell book and moves and toys for sex that would help you understand your g spots. their a lot to learn after you have sex .
2006-12-13 10:04:58 · answer #4 · answered by lostsoul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you fear sex? I will be honest with you...the first time is a little painful but don't let that scare you. It only hurts a little while then the pain goes away. The more you do it the better it will get...trust me.
Btw, before doing the do...have a glass... or 3 of wine...it will relax you.
2006-12-13 09:58:14 · answer #5 · answered by Kokolicious06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you? i don't think you should be afraid of sex. american culture has made it so that sex is something to be scared of and not talked about, especially for women, but its perfectly natural and fine. are you religious? is that why you have waited so long, or have you experienced some kind of sexual trauma? If you have said no to both answers, I say you definately should give it a test run before you marry. I mean you don't want to buy the car without a test drive and then find out that its a lemon.
2006-12-13 09:58:09 · answer #6 · answered by Jenny 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go to a crowded bar on Saturday night and get lucky. Here's how you will recognize him. Order a mug of beer and a glass of scotch. Place the shot glass and all in the beer and drink it down like a good girl. Do this three times and as you stumble out the door someone will be there to pick you up. If they can't walk you home then go for a ride in his car. See how far you can get. Relax and enjoy.
2006-12-13 10:00:17 · answer #7 · answered by green3ch 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girl do u really luv ur man?If u luv him, is he aware dat u are a virgin then he should know what to do.cheer up honey,Nothing to afraid of.Or do u want to remain single and a virgin forever,GIRL am just teasing u.SEX is a kind of bond between u and ur husband.Wish u good luck in ur marriage. Rjo
2006-12-13 10:42:40 · answer #8 · answered by rjo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not worry. Sex is a natural thing between a husband and wife. I do not think it is worry you are experiencing but anxiousness. This feeling is natural too because this is a new experience for you. Don't worry it will all be all right. I have never experienced sex myself, but I am sure that once you are there, you will not be sorry and you will laugh at yourself for being so worried.
2006-12-13 10:02:45 · answer #9 · answered by Lauryn B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your intended...if you can't you should not be marrying him....I'm sure you are marrying him cause he is a wonderful guy...that said you must share your fear with him.
He will understand and take it slow...remember wedding night does not automatically mean sex. If he does not understand then rethink this marriage.
2006-12-13 09:58:27 · answer #10 · answered by JadeNicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be afraid, sex is natural, and especially with someone you love. Tell him to go slow, and it will hurt a little the first time, but it gets better. Congrads on the marriage
2006-12-13 09:57:01 · answer #11 · answered by CASSONDRA D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋